Anal Sex Tips And Advice
Out of the sex tips and advice that I give, I look most forward to giving anal sex advice. Anal sex tips for women are hard to come by, especially in Western countries where the stigma of enjoying anal sex is negative. The fact that our uptight society is relaxing its stranglehold enough that women can ask sex questions about anal is a welcome sign! Anal sex, be it gay or straight, need not be a painful experience. Before I start telling you the mechanics of it, let me give you some information on the practice. Often when 'anal sex' is mentioned, misconceptions of it being a purely gay sex spring to the mind of those uneducated in art of ass loving. In modern Western countries, anal sex is widely practiced, although less so than traditional heterosexual sex acts. Some view female anal sex as a way to technically retain virginity (obviously, it is only the vaginal virginity that is of primary concern). The fact that anal intercourse leaves the hymen intact aids in its acceptability between heterosexual partners. Also, the much lower incidence of unwanted pregnancy is equally appealing. According to Anne-Christine Adesky , a report published in 2004 showed, , "Some research suggests that one in four heterosexuals in the US has tried anal sex and for one in 12, it is an occasional or episodic practice. Other surveys suggest that seven times as many women as gay men engage in anal intercourse, a figure reflecting the greater overall heterosexual population." That was followed by a survey conducted by the Centers for Disease Control in 2005 which determined that the incidence of anal relations in the heterosexual population is on the increase. The survey showed that 40 percent of men and 35 percent of women between 25 and 44 had engaged in heterosexual anal sex; in 1992 a similar survey found that only 25.6 percent of men 18 to 59 and 20.4 percent of women 18 to 59 had engaged in the act. So, as you can see, you are not the only curious about backdoor loving! There are a few things to be wary of, however. There are microorganisms in the found in the rectum that are not found anywhere else on the human body (they aid in the elimination of waste and breaking down waste products), so there is a risk of infections. The other major concern is damage to the anus and the delicate tissue surrounding it. Both concerns can be found in this section of AskKayla…Anal Sex!
Rim jobs...they aren't just in basketball anymore! Yes, Brad, I have licked an ass or two in my day...both on film and off. I shot Lady Ass Lickers" with Brooke Hunter and "Toss My Salad #6" with Rod Fontana, just to name the first few that come to my mind...
Hello again, my dear Darren! My favorite lube, huh? It really depends on what is going where! If it has been a while since I have taken anything anally, and that is what is on the agenda...I tend to prefer a slightly thicker, more viscous lubricant...personally, I like the smell and feel of cocoa butter. Ironically, my favorite brand in Palmer's. *giggle* Not only is the texture of cocoa butter pleasurable, but it does not get sticky or gummy. I am not a supporter of anal lubes with numbing agents in them. Discomfort is your bodies way of letting you know something is not right, so if you are unable to feel a small problem it is more likely to grow in to a larger one! I did not like H20 very much, nor Eros...both felt too thin, almost watery to me. K-Y just seems like it should be "my mothers" lube. My current favorites are "Moist" (manufactured by Pipedream Products) and Gel-Plus (manufactured by For-Play).
Spit doesn't bother me, provided the person spitting in my snatch or ass is not a smoker. I am allergic to tobacco, so it burns the delicate tissue of my pussy if the spitter hasn't brushed their teeth. Ooh! One more thing about saliva: the pH balance of the vagina is extremely delicate! Sweets, sodas, sugary cocktails, etc carried via saliva into that environment can (in some cases) wreak havoc! Be kind, swish a glass of water through your mouth before you hack into my pink box! Remember: you throw the pussy out of whack and NEITHER of us get to enjoy it for a few days!
I am not really a big fan of labels when it comes to sexuality. Do I think you are bi-sexual if you play with a dildo? No. Do I think you are "straight" because you only fuck women? Not at all. Sexuality goes beyond the physical, my dear! You most likely just discovered the pleasure receptors around your anus have been neglected and you're probably wondering why it took you so long to acknowledge them! ;)
Thank you! I used to hate my double-bubble but have grown to love it in recent years! *giggle*
As for your questions...her pulling away may be for one or more reasons. Maybe she is ticklish? Maybe she doesn't like the idea of "dirty feet"? Perhaps she is concerned about the appearance of her feet? Not all of us women like our hooves, you know! I would suggest you treat her to a spa pedicure gift certificate. After her tootsies have been treated, buffed, polished and groomed, ask her to let you show her how much you love the pedicured paws! Be sensitive to any objections, some are easily overcome others are deal-breakers.
Mmmmm.....anal sex! One of my favorites! Personally, I do not think anal sex is a good choice for spontaneity! Because of my slow metabolism, I generally try not to eat anything substantial for 12 hours prior. I enema until I get a clean rinse, for the second rinse (and any more that need to be done), I refill the enema bottle with warm water. The chemicals in enemas can dehydrate if used too much. I assume this is new to your relationship and possibly to both of you? If so, I encourage you to brush up on your basic anal sex skills by reading through past articles found here. Good luck!
Hi Dan!
Anal sex, fun as I find it, is *not* enjoyed most when it is spontaneous! It does require some preparation! I generally fast for 24 hours prior, but I know not everyone does...some merely fast for 12 hours, others not at all...I just prefer to err on the side of caution! By limiting my intake of solid foods, and using enemas, I eliminate the poop smell and fecal flecks you are worrying about. More back-door wisdom can be found here. Have fun!
I am not afraid of rimming, provided basic hygiene steps have been taken! As a courtesy, I always ask those I am working with what their "No's" are...some male performers are put off by anything (fingers, tongues, etc) near their assholes...if they are into it and I feel the urge, I will rim an ass! Simple as that! If I smell sweat at all, I just don't go there!
As for the hottest scene I have ever shot...I am not sure! Since I am still shooting scenes, my 'favorite scene' changes frequently! Right now, I would have to say the boy/girl/girl anal scene I just shot this past Monday with Savannah Samson and Alex Gonz for Vivid is one of my hottest.
I have done anal cream-pies both in scenes and in my personal life. I enjoy anal sex, whether it be on-set or at home. There is a difference in "technique" (for lack of a better word) in accepting a load of cum in a scene versus in personal life. When filming, the intent is to let the cum drip back out of the ass for the viewer to enjoy. This calls for a bit of tricky timing on the part of the male talent. He has to know when he is going to shoot his load, back halfway out of the anus without breaking completely free of it and hold still while he cums. If he pulls all of the way out, it is not a cream-pie. If he stays deep in the ass, it won't be able to be seen dripping back out proving the orgasm was real. Trickier than you thought, huh? ;) In my personal bed, there doesn't need to be that much planning! I can just take a load of jizz, roll over and go to sleep!
To be honest, the color of the cock means little to me. It has little bearing on whether or not I enjoy it. I am all about the technique, the guy and the attitude! There are two genres of inter-racial scenes. The first is the somewhat degradation-based niche (the white woman is belittled, referred to as a whore, cunt, etc), the second is based on black men loving curvy women. That is the type of scene I love to shoot! I have curves. Period. I want to work with a man who appreciates them, admires them...not one who tolerates them! I am not sure if it is merely a cultural thing or what, but men of color tend to like thick butts and big tits separated by a small waist. It is just a perfect type of scene for me to book based on my body type.
As for the cut or uncut debate: personally, I prefer cut. Even while flacid, a cut cock looks more appealing to me. That doesn't mean I do not like an uncut penis! An uncircumcised cock is better than no cock at all! I have noticed, though, that if I have an anal scene booked with someone who isn't cut and they are well-endowed, the foreskin acts as almost a buffer for my anus. Friction from the cock sliding in and out is minimized making it easier to handle a girthy dick.
Hi Jason, thanks for writing!
Everything you need to know can be found here! Good luck!
While my website, www.KaylaQuinn.com offers hundreds of videos in downloadable formats, covering a multitude of niches, I do not have any videos of me tossing a guys salad.
As for the dominance issue... there are times when I prefer to be in charge and times when I want to be tossed around like a rag doll! It is less of a planned thing and more of a chemistry thing. Chemistry between people often dictates their relationship one to the other. Because I have a strong personality, it is rare that I find (in my personal life) a man who can dominate me without over-doing it. It is like walking a barbed wire tightrope: a man needs to be strong enough not to let me steam roll them, yet flexible enough to let me exist and not be overtaken by their will. Sexually, I tend to vacillate during the fucking from vulnerable to aggressive.
Since I am cast as a "cougar" or "MILF" a lot, I tend to get booked with performers ranging from 18-25 more often than not.
Finally, your last question: Do most guys like having their bums licked or not? It varies from person to person. Some men have expressed a desire for it and others shudder at the thought of it. Personal preference wins out again on this one!
OMG! This is a GREAT question! YES! I LOVE anal sex, both on film and in my personal life. Craig, the guy I dated from June 2006-Mar 2007 (and still fuck to this day) was delighted the first time I begged him to fuck my ass. It quickly became a staple in our real-life sex. I have always loved anal, long before I even considered filming adult scenes. The first time I took it up the ass, was on Pensacola Beach in 1992. From that day on, I was hooked! There have been quite a few times I have asked for or just done anal when it was not part of the scene. Dwayne Cummings and Brad Baldwin have both fell victim to my cravings! *giggle*
There is a difference in rate between a vag scene and an anal scene, UNLESS the talent offers it after the scene has been booked! If I am booked for a vag scene and accept a vag rate then offer anal, the negotiated rate still applies unless the production company specifies otherwise. It might sound like a bad deal, but cocks like Brad Baldwin, Dwayne Cummings and Craig James (just to name a few) are just too good to NOT have in my ass!
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