Ask Kayla Quinn

Alfio, because inserting a hard cock into a virgin asshole can be...dauntingly difficult...doggy style lends itself to allowing the mounter to lose his balance. The last thing you need helping you along is gravity! To avoid that scenario, as well as thrusting too deeply in an effort to achieve penetration, I am against doggy style for the beginning position. I still stand by my earlier advice, "Use a slightly more viscous than usual lube with NO numbing agent (that stuff should be illegal, you can hurt yourself without realizing it) and let her slowly back on to your penis. Let her control the speed, depth and duration. This will not only let her move at her own pace, it will take the 'fear factor' she may harbor out of anal sex. Woman have been conditioned in our society to see anal sex as wrong or dirty. It has also been portrayed as a violent, even degrading, painful act. In all truth, the pain caused by anal sex (let me qualify this statement by adding: with a gentle, caring partner) is likened to the pain of losing vaginal virginity. As with vaginal sex, the pain lessens with each experience."

A while ago, I posted a step=by-step guide for anal newbies. By following the basic steps outlined there, you'll be more likely to have a positive experience. Be sure you do not try to insert something too large too fast. Try starting with a finger, then two followed by a small toy, medium toy and finally your bf's cock. Also, if there is any hesitancy, stop for a few and regroup. Because of the 'fear factor', most novices have a tendency to clinch their anus, you really want to be thinking wide open thoughts...think "Grand Canyon"! *giggle*

Hi J...when it comes to licking the chocolate starfish, there really isn't a gender that tastes sweeter than the other; hygiene is hygiene. When it comes to size vs duration...you're way off the mark! NEITHER is as important as skill! An attentive lover with a smaller penis is far more appreciated that one with a clumsilly yielded flesh-baseball bat!

Thank you, Kristinah! Sounds like your boy toy is tres' lucky to have you! I have, matter of fact, played with several other women with my man. We share your passion for the apple-bottom girls (being one myself, how could I resist)! I own several double-headed jelly dongs that are made to be shared by a woman on each end. My current favorite one is cherry red and well loved! For a little added excitement, the girls get blindfolds and the boy gets a bowl of ice cubes and the liberty to trace over any hot flesh he so desires! The "not knowing" combined with the sudden icy chill on your hot, sweaty bodies will help build your passion to volcanic proportions! Another really fun addition to this particular game...vibrating eggs is your moist pussy and double-dong in your tight assholes! MMmmmmmm!

Oh! I almost forgot! YES, I have a secret kink! ;)

If you wear out the toy you have, may I recommend this one:

It's available in several colors!

In what way does it hurt? Is it a mild discomfort from the size of his penis? Is he banging harder than you would like? Could you PRETTY please write me again with more detail? I hate the idea of someone not enjoying anal sex! I love it! I don't want you to miss out anymore!

I hope to hear from you again, Tina!

Ok! I am going to answer way out of order, so I apologize ahead of time! I have never bleached my bum, BUT I did some research and it appears that BleachBum is the favorite product out there! It got better ratings for ease, cost, effectiveness and fragrance.

"I just moved in with my boyfriend and he is a freak." LUCKY!

To be honest, there is not TOO much you can do to ward off the aromas of a full day running ragged at work. To keep you vaggie as fresh smelling as possible, despite a 10-12 hour day, I suggest keeping the jungle brush trimmed. The longer haired vag's tend to get sweatier and therefore smellier. Also, using moist wipes after urinating will help. Keep in mind, as you're freaking about natural scents, that may be the very thing that turns your man on and gets his motor humming! Your @ss, same basic story. There is no magic secret to beating the human condition and coming home smelling shower fresh...unless you stop at the gym and take a shower on your way home! Basic hygiene and careful wiping after using the toilet are about all I can suggest. Porn tricks and tips do not lend themselves well to real life. When we prepare for anal scenes, we know in advance we are going to be shooting anal, we fast and rinse our rectums out several times before we shoot. As soon as we are done, we are famished and cannot wait to get some food in us. Luckily, we can usually be in out, fucked and done in under 4 hours...not at work for a full day, trying to starve ourselves just in case the mood for butt loving strikes once we get home. I would honestly ask him if he is one who prefers the earthy aroma of natural body or if he is put off by them and wants you to smell like baby wipes. You might be worrying about getting rid of the thing he likes best!

Todd, you are a victim of the media, hunny bunny! Your penis is actually nearly twice the size of the average man. Not the average 16 yr old, but the average full-grown man. The penis sizes are broken down here: answering David V's question. So, as far as the SIZE goes, your girlfriend won't think it's small but she might be a little intimidated by the size of your fuckstick! Good luck getting her to be able to keep a brave face when she sees that trouser snake! I know experienced porn stars who are a touch fearful when booked for scenes with cocks the size of yours!

Onto the masturbation question...skim thru this for a little info...then read this one...between the two columns, you should be able to get an idea of how to speed things up, so to speak!

Todd, please do not take this the wrong way, but if you're unsure if you're ready for sex...then you're probably not. It doesn't mean you're less of a man or that you're "weird"...it means it isn't the right time in your life yet. If you decide, however, to plunge in to the fucking game, do me a favor? Realize that you have a WEAPON between your legs and learn how to use your cock as a tool for pleasure and not just ram your partners tender spots like you had a baseball bat between your legs! There have been COUNTLESS times I've been with a guy with a larger-than-average cock and he thought size was the same as skill. It isn't, just because it's big doesn't mean it's always good. A man with a huge cock and no skill = a bruised cervix!

In summation: it is not always a matter of stuffing as much meat in a pussy as you can cram in there...the vagina DOES have a limit to what it can do!

I see nothing wrong with this. Sex is fun, kink is divine!

I have often brought another girl home and licked her while she was being fucked and have been licked while being pounded. Mmmmm...takes me back! I wonder what Rucca is doing....

If it takes his cock in your ass to make him happy, drop him like a bad habit! Take it up your ass because you want to, not because you feel pressured to do so. Now, if you DO want to take the flesh-baseball bat up your ass, I would warm up with toys beforehand! Tire out that sphincter a bit...start slowly...I suggest being penetrated while laying on your side, allowing you to push back against the rigid penis, in order to control the speed and depth of insertion.

Have a good time!

Waxing, depilatories and (I kid you not) anus bleaching. Yup, we pay that much attention to our bums...

Actually, an uncircumcised penis is awesome for anal. I can think of several adult film actresses who feel the same way. The foreskin helps reduce friction, cushions the occasional rough thrust and reduces the amount of lube needed.

To be honest, I've never minded the "turtle-neck wearing snake", as long as he's clean. I doubt I am alone in that respect!

Hi James, you get an "A" in my book for adventurous spirit! Do I think a girl would like it? That depends on the girl! I would feel her out (pun intended) on how she feels towards anal play. If she seems comfortable with butt-bumping, I would bring it up as openly, honestly and candidly to her as you did to me. If the first gal says no, move on to the next!

As for me being over 30 but not looking it...THANK YOU! I am closing in rapidly on 40...born in 1970...some of us old gals can still throw down! *smirk*

Hi Laura, I will gladly share the secrets of safe ATM (ass to mouth) fucking! When a scene is booked, it is determined what type of scene it will be ahead of time; we pornstars know when we will be taking it up the ass, so precautions are taken. My personal routine is as follows: I fast (clear liquids only) for 24 hours prior to my anal scene. Before going to sleep the night before my anal or double-penetration scene, I take a disposable enema, dump out the fluid that came in it, fill it with lukewarm water and give my ass a rinsing. After my shower the day of my scene, I take another disposable enema, dump out the chemicals, fill it with lukewarm tap water and use as directed on the package. The reason I use lukewarm water instead of the chemicals provided is to prevent dehydration. The chemicals rob your anal cavity of moisture and I definitely do not want to encourage tissue damage! I go to set, do my pretty girl stills then one FINAL rinse with tap water and I am good to go! If I feel my energy level is flagging, I will eat a piece of fruit or a pastry right before I start my scene. It will give my body the energy boost I need but not digest fast enough to make the scene...ummm....messy! Clean water in your ass followed by clean water out=fun, clean fucking!

Why darling, I HAVE!

Rim jobs...they aren't just in basketball anymore! Yes, Brad, I have licked an ass or two in my day...both on film and off. I shot Lady Ass Lickers" with Brooke Hunter and "Toss My Salad #6" with Rod Fontana, just to name the first few that come to my mind...

Hello again, my dear Darren! My favorite lube, huh? It really depends on what is going where! If it has been a while since I have taken anything anally, and that is what is on the agenda...I tend to prefer a slightly thicker, more viscous lubricant...personally, I like the smell and feel of cocoa butter. Ironically, my favorite brand in Palmer's. *giggle* Not only is the texture of cocoa butter pleasurable, but it does not get sticky or gummy. I am not a supporter of anal lubes with numbing agents in them. Discomfort is your bodies way of letting you know something is not right, so if you are unable to feel a small problem it is more likely to grow in to a larger one! I did not like H20 very much, nor Eros...both felt too thin, almost watery to me. K-Y just seems like it should be "my mothers" lube. My current favorites are "Moist" (manufactured by Pipedream Products) and Gel-Plus (manufactured by For-Play).

Spit doesn't bother me, provided the person spitting in my snatch or ass is not a smoker. I am allergic to tobacco, so it burns the delicate tissue of my pussy if the spitter hasn't brushed their teeth. Ooh! One more thing about saliva: the pH balance of the vagina is extremely delicate! Sweets, sodas, sugary cocktails, etc carried via saliva into that environment can (in some cases) wreak havoc! Be kind, swish a glass of water through your mouth before you hack into my pink box! Remember: you throw the pussy out of whack and NEITHER of us get to enjoy it for a few days!

I am not really a big fan of labels when it comes to sexuality. Do I think you are bi-sexual if you play with a dildo? No. Do I think you are "straight" because you only fuck women? Not at all. Sexuality goes beyond the physical, my dear! You most likely just discovered the pleasure receptors around your anus have been neglected and you're probably wondering why it took you so long to acknowledge them! ;)

Thank you! I used to hate my double-bubble but have grown to love it in recent years! *giggle*

As for your questions...her pulling away may be for one or more reasons. Maybe she is ticklish? Maybe she doesn't like the idea of "dirty feet"? Perhaps she is concerned about the appearance of her feet? Not all of us women like our hooves, you know! I would suggest you treat her to a spa pedicure gift certificate. After her tootsies have been treated, buffed, polished and groomed, ask her to let you show her how much you love the pedicured paws! Be sensitive to any objections, some are easily overcome others are deal-breakers.

Mmmmm.....anal sex! One of my favorites! Personally, I do not think anal sex is a good choice for spontaneity! Because of my slow metabolism, I generally try not to eat anything substantial for 12 hours prior. I enema until I get a clean rinse, for the second rinse (and any more that need to be done), I refill the enema bottle with warm water. The chemicals in enemas can dehydrate if used too much. I assume this is new to your relationship and possibly to both of you? If so, I encourage you to brush up on your basic anal sex skills by reading through past articles found here. Good luck!

Hi Dan!

Anal sex, fun as I find it, is *not* enjoyed most when it is spontaneous! It does require some preparation! I generally fast for 24 hours prior, but I know not everyone does...some merely fast for 12 hours, others not at all...I just prefer to err on the side of caution! By limiting my intake of solid foods, and using enemas, I eliminate the poop smell and fecal flecks you are worrying about. More back-door wisdom can be found here. Have fun!

I am not afraid of rimming, provided basic hygiene steps have been taken! As a courtesy, I always ask those I am working with what their "No's" are...some male performers are put off by anything (fingers, tongues, etc) near their assholes...if they are into it and I feel the urge, I will rim an ass! Simple as that! If I smell sweat at all, I just don't go there!

As for the hottest scene I have ever shot...I am not sure! Since I am still shooting scenes, my 'favorite scene' changes frequently! Right now, I would have to say the boy/girl/girl anal scene I just shot this past Monday with Savannah Samson and Alex Gonz for Vivid is one of my hottest.

I have done anal cream-pies both in scenes and in my personal life. I enjoy anal sex, whether it be on-set or at home. There is a difference in "technique" (for lack of a better word) in accepting a load of cum in a scene versus in personal life. When filming, the intent is to let the cum drip back out of the ass for the viewer to enjoy. This calls for a bit of tricky timing on the part of the male talent. He has to know when he is going to shoot his load, back halfway out of the anus without breaking completely free of it and hold still while he cums. If he pulls all of the way out, it is not a cream-pie. If he stays deep in the ass, it won't be able to be seen dripping back out proving the orgasm was real. Trickier than you thought, huh? ;) In my personal bed, there doesn't need to be that much planning! I can just take a load of jizz, roll over and go to sleep!

To be honest, the color of the cock means little to me. It has little bearing on whether or not I enjoy it. I am all about the technique, the guy and the attitude! There are two genres of inter-racial scenes. The first is the somewhat degradation-based niche (the white woman is belittled, referred to as a whore, cunt, etc), the second is based on black men loving curvy women. That is the type of scene I love to shoot! I have curves. Period. I want to work with a man who appreciates them, admires them...not one who tolerates them! I am not sure if it is merely a cultural thing or what, but men of color tend to like thick butts and big tits separated by a small waist. It is just a perfect type of scene for me to book based on my body type.

As for the cut or uncut debate: personally, I prefer cut. Even while flacid, a cut cock looks more appealing to me. That doesn't mean I do not like an uncut penis! An uncircumcised cock is better than no cock at all! I have noticed, though, that if I have an anal scene booked with someone who isn't cut and they are well-endowed, the foreskin acts as almost a buffer for my anus. Friction from the cock sliding in and out is minimized making it easier to handle a girthy dick.

Hi Jason, thanks for writing!

Everything you need to know can be found here! Good luck!

While my website, www.KaylaQuinn.com offers hundreds of videos in downloadable formats, covering a multitude of niches, I do not have any videos of me tossing a guys salad.

As for the dominance issue... there are times when I prefer to be in charge and times when I want to be tossed around like a rag doll! It is less of a planned thing and more of a chemistry thing. Chemistry between people often dictates their relationship one to the other. Because I have a strong personality, it is rare that I find (in my personal life) a man who can dominate me without over-doing it. It is like walking a barbed wire tightrope: a man needs to be strong enough not to let me steam roll them, yet flexible enough to let me exist and not be overtaken by their will. Sexually, I tend to vacillate during the fucking from vulnerable to aggressive.

Since I am cast as a "cougar" or "MILF" a lot, I tend to get booked with performers ranging from 18-25 more often than not.

Finally, your last question: Do most guys like having their bums licked or not? It varies from person to person. Some men have expressed a desire for it and others shudder at the thought of it. Personal preference wins out again on this one!

OMG! This is a GREAT question! YES! I LOVE anal sex, both on film and in my personal life. Craig, the guy I dated from June 2006-Mar 2007 (and still fuck to this day) was delighted the first time I begged him to fuck my ass. It quickly became a staple in our real-life sex. I have always loved anal, long before I even considered filming adult scenes. The first time I took it up the ass, was on Pensacola Beach in 1992. From that day on, I was hooked! There have been quite a few times I have asked for or just done anal when it was not part of the scene. Dwayne Cummings and Brad Baldwin have both fell victim to my cravings! *giggle*

There is a difference in rate between a vag scene and an anal scene, UNLESS the talent offers it after the scene has been booked! If I am booked for a vag scene and accept a vag rate then offer anal, the negotiated rate still applies unless the production company specifies otherwise. It might sound like a bad deal, but cocks like Brad Baldwin, Dwayne Cummings and Craig James (just to name a few) are just too good to NOT have in my ass!