Fetish Tips And Advice


aryan asked: Hi Kayla, I have loved your lift and carry videos. You look so strong and dominating in them.I always fantasize getting lifted by tall and strong girls and your videos have certainly fulfilled my fantasy. My question is whether it is proper to tell ones girl friend about these sorts of fantasies.

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Hello Aryan, first off...thank you! Now, on to your question...not only is it proper to tell your girlfriend about your fantasies, it is strongly advisable! Communicating your desires increases your chances of having them met many times over! I am a firm believer in communication between intimately involved people.



brayen asked: HI KAYLA.IM ONE OF YOUR HUGE FANS I RELLY LOVE YOUR VIDEOS AND PICS I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW FROM WHERE YOU BAUGHT YOUR SHIRTS AND BLOUSES LIKE THE ONE IN TUSHYSCHOOL.COM AND THE OTHERS LIKE THE PICTURE HERE?? CAN I BUY THEM FROM YOU??

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I buy most of my clothing for shoots in the garment district. I have, in the past, sold clothing items, but unless you tell me which pieces you are interested in, I cannot give you a price. :) Please email me via my regular website, http://www.KaylaQuinn.com for more information!



Darren asked: Do you like having your pussy filled with cum during orgasm or after orgasm?

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I prefer to be cream-pied after orgasm, but probably not for the reasons you think! It has nothing to do with physical pleasure as much as with discomfort. Pounding a pussy laden with spunk causes a bit of...splashing. As semen dries on your skin, it has a tendency to tighten up, pull and itch. I much rather enjoy my orgasm, let him get his rocks off and fill me with a frothy load then be able to get up and wipe down. I know, a far too realistic view on fucking and not very "porn star" like of me!



Brad asked: Hi Kayla I wanted to thank you for answering my last question. So now onto the next, I've recently been watching quite a few vids with ass licking and rimming in them. Do you have any scenes that you have done where you have rimmed a guy? if not would you ever film any? Thanks

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Rim jobs...they aren't just in basketball anymore! Yes, Brad, I have licked an ass or two in my day...both on film and off. I shot Lady Ass Lickers" with Brooke Hunter and "Toss My Salad #6" with Rod Fontana, just to name the first few that come to my mind...



tom martin asked: You are a lovely woman I have enjoyed seeing you get spanked and fucked with a strap on. you play the role so well with that hot fanny of yours...does it turn you on....have you ever been in a good catfight or been spanked for real by a girl....thanks love

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Hi Tom! Thanks for the compliment, first of all! I used to hate my tushy, but I have grown to appreciate it over the past few years.

I enjoy getting spanked on occasion, but I must admit that it is a rarity that I allow myself to be dominated by a woman. It has only happened on film, never in my real life. Since I have a strong personality, I tend to be more dominant rather than submissive when it comes to other females. Usually, I tend to 'control' my personal relationships but once in a while I flip into a total sub for a man. It really just depends on how our personalities click, to be honest.

I am not usually prone to physical violence, but I have kicked a girlie ass or two! LOL Too bad the few cat-fights I have been involved in were not filmed!

No woman has, other than on-set, ever spanked me. As far as the scenes in which I have been dommed by a woman, I have enjoyed it on more of a humorous level than a sexual one.



blkguy22 asked: Hi Kayla,I am a big fan of your movies.You are a gorgeous,thick,big ass goddess.My questions is relatively simple. 1.) I have a foot fetish,and I want my girlfriend to let me worship her beautiful feet,but she gets nervous and pulls away.How can I get her to relax? 2.)Her and I are thinking about anal sex,she really wants to do it.But how do I make sure she is clean and not..ummm.... shitty. Thanks and keep up the great work

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Thank you! I used to hate my double-bubble but have grown to love it in recent years! *giggle*

As for your questions...her pulling away may be for one or more reasons. Maybe she is ticklish? Maybe she doesn't like the idea of "dirty feet"? Perhaps she is concerned about the appearance of her feet? Not all of us women like our hooves, you know! I would suggest you treat her to a spa pedicure gift certificate. After her tootsies have been treated, buffed, polished and groomed, ask her to let you show her how much you love the pedicured paws! Be sensitive to any objections, some are easily overcome others are deal-breakers.

Mmmmm.....anal sex! One of my favorites! Personally, I do not think anal sex is a good choice for spontaneity! Because of my slow metabolism, I generally try not to eat anything substantial for 12 hours prior. I enema until I get a clean rinse, for the second rinse (and any more that need to be done), I refill the enema bottle with warm water. The chemicals in enemas can dehydrate if used too much. I assume this is new to your relationship and possibly to both of you? If so, I encourage you to brush up on your basic anal sex skills by reading through past articles found here. Good luck!



Wayne asked: I have seen you and enoyed you in your bisexual male films, as well as all your others. I was wondering being in the industry what is your take on the comming up of bisexual and also the popularity of transsexual films. Is it the internet allowing men to explore their curiosities ? And is the presence of women or the appearence of women make it easy for men to enjoy man on man action, or transexual porn ? Feel free to edit my question.

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The bisexual movies I have appeared in have always been "condom-only", meaning all males wore a condom for all penetration. While it has always been a niche, it has gained popularity due to it's increased acceptance. Do I think the internet played a part in that? Yes, I do. PPV (Pay-Per-View) Theaters, such as this one, take out the potential embarrassment of physically walking in to an adult shop and picking out the dvd desired. Once there is no fear of stigma, there is no reason to rob oneself of a desire.

As for the trans-sexual films, I think the appeal is multi-fold. First, there is the taboo appeal that calls to the darker desires inherent in most people. Second, some of those trannies are more beautiful than us natural gals! Also, it is novel. I would not doubt that it is a good transition from straight porn to gay porn, either. As you pointed out, it does (on the surface, at least) appear to be a man and a woman...until, well, they both get naked and you see more than one cock on the screen!



gee asked: how do u preform a cream pie

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The term "cream pie" refers to an internal pop. Put simply, allowing the ejaculate to be deposited inside the vagina. Since "pie" is slang for pussy and the gooey goodness resembles cream...



Curious fan asked: Hi,me again. Sorry if this will seem long, just thought I'd knock out 3 questions with one post. O.K. first off, love all of your work, and i have noticed that in some of your work, your boobs get played with quite aggressively, which i love, being a boobman and such. Do you really enjoy it that much if so explain if possible or is it just part of a scene? Do you enjoy a good titfuck? And have you ever had a guy in scene come too early and wait for him to get ready again? thanks

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Ahhh! I had wondered how long it would be before boob questions of this nature hit me! Before I answer, though, I am very glad you enjoy my films!

On to the answers! Normally, when there is an extensive amount of attention played to my breasts in a scene, the film being shot is one geared to the busty genre. As with other elements of a scene, I can always speak up when something is too intense/hardcore for me to handle. If you see me being man-handled on film, then that is the mood I was in the day we shot! There are times when I feel delicate, but those times are few and far between! I am fine with having my boobs slapped and such, as long as my nipples don't feel like they are being shredded. I have actually left a set with bruises before, it happens...consider it an occupational hazard! As for the tit-fucking...I honestly do not have a preference for or against it. I take that on a "per cock" basis. If the cock is long enough and not too fat, it feels good. It can be difficult to keep my tits squeezed tight enough (especially when you take the lube factor into consideration), if the dick is too girthy. If the cock is too short, instead of a pleasant fucking sensation it often feels like my jiggly's are being stabbed.

Last but not least: Has anyone ever cum too soon in a scene? Yup! It has happened lots of times! Sometimes there is enough notice and we can film the scene out of sequence (put the pop where it belongs, so to speak), other times we wait for the guy to rejuvenate and start where we left off. If it is not the last scene of the day, I often volunteer to let the next scene start filming. Not only does that minimize "down time" on the set, it takes some of the pressure off the male talent. The most difficult time to recover from an early pop is when there is a time-constraint put in place. I would much rather have a fun, relaxed shoot than a tense, rushed one!

Thank you for the great questions! Keep them coming!



Steve asked: Dear Kayla, my wife is really angry with me because she claims I am overly into you. I have currently been having fantasies about ejaculating into your anus and felching it out. I told my wife about this and she is really angry. what should I do about this fantasy? Any tips? thanks.

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Talk about a trick question Steve! Part of me says to leave out any name (other than your wife's) when telling her your fantasies...part of me says to live it out with her! Maybe a compromise is in order here? Watch one of your favorite scenes and act it out together at the same time! Finish off the role-play by shooting your creamy load deep in to her ass then sucking it back out!



Aleksey asked: Hey Kayla! I've got 2 questions: 1- What's ur personal attitude towards "rimming". From what i know and see, it's getting popular nowadays 2- The hottest scene you ever done? Haven't see all of your movies and clips..but to my mind it can be this one with Shane Diesel.

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I am not afraid of rimming, provided basic hygiene steps have been taken! As a courtesy, I always ask those I am working with what their "No's" are...some male performers are put off by anything (fingers, tongues, etc) near their assholes...if they are into it and I feel the urge, I will rim an ass! Simple as that! If I smell sweat at all, I just don't go there!

As for the hottest scene I have ever shot...I am not sure! Since I am still shooting scenes, my 'favorite scene' changes frequently! Right now, I would have to say the boy/girl/girl anal scene I just shot this past Monday with Savannah Samson and Alex Gonz for Vivid is one of my hottest.



Michelle asked: I overheard some guys at a club talking about "Supermanning" a girl. WTF?!

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Ahhh...the comic geek has been asked a super-hero question finally! There are actualyl two super-hero slangs out there these days: SuperMan-ing and Spider-Man-ing...to SuperMan a gal, a guy shoots his hot, sticky load on her back (doggy-style lends itself perfectly to this) then, before she falls asleep, presses the sheet against her spunk-covered back before the jizz dries. The result? When the chicka wakes up, the dried cum acts as an adhesive and the sheet has stuck to her like a cape; hence the term "SuperMan-ing".

To Spider-Man a girl, one needs to merely pull out of her before shooting his spunk, shoot it into his hand then throw it at her as Spidey does when slinging his web. Get it? *giggle*

Which is more popular? I don't know...yet another chapter in the DC vs. Marvel battle!



George asked: I have been a fan of yours for a very long time, and one thing I can't get enough about you are your armpits. I just think that they're so sexy...as sexy as the rest of your body. Are you okay with anyone playing with your armpits in any way?

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Hahaha! I *am* a little ticklish, other than that...I have no problem having my armpits played with as long as other parts of me are not neglected!



subguy29 asked: I have recently discovered that i am submissive and enjoy wearing lingerie. I dont go out dressed up as a women or anything like that. Do women like a man willing to wear women's lingerie or are they turned off by it?

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Like any other fetish, there are women turned on by a sub in delicates and others turned off by the idea. Find a fem-dom to help cultivate your newfound interest...you'll be amazed how many there are out there looking for a good slave!

Personally, I find any person willing to explore their sexuality thrilling and exciting; someone willing to entertain thoughts outside the norm is an added plus!



kingkiller asked: I'm really into feet and want to suck on my girl's toes, but she feels really weird about her feet. I want to make her feel more comfortable. What can I do or suggest to her to make her more open to the idea?

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Start her out gently, ease her in to the whole foot thing since she has already expressed a hang up over her dogs. Try taking her for a relaxing pedicure. It is hard to resist the feel of a warm, moist tongue on soft feet!

Why is she resistant? Is it a "feet are dirty" thing that the pedicure can resolve for you? Is she overly ticklish? Is she afraid you'll want her to reciprocate and she is not keen on the idea? Find out! Once you know what you need to overcome, it'll be easier to do so! Good luck!



MOHAMMAD RIZWAN asked: Hi what size feet are you? Do you like having them licked and sucked and have you got any videos on your website of you licking a guys bum or licking his nipples? Also do you like to be dominant or the guy to be dominant and whats the youngest guy you have shagged since you've been over 35? Finally do most guys like having their bums licked or not?

- I wear a size 9 shoe... I know, I have big feet... keep in mind I am 5'10"! *giggle* I love getting pedicures and LOVE sexy shoes! I have dozens of pairs and am always on the prowl for more. Having my feet and toes worshipped is incredibly erotic. The feeling of a warm, moist tongue between my toes or on the sole of my foot turns me on incredibly!

While my website, www.KaylaQuinn.com offers hundreds of videos in downloadable formats, covering a multitude of niches, I do not have any videos of me tossing a guys salad.

As for the dominance issue... there are times when I prefer to be in charge and times when I want to be tossed around like a rag doll! It is less of a planned thing and more of a chemistry thing. Chemistry between people often dictates their relationship one to the other. Because I have a strong personality, it is rare that I find (in my personal life) a man who can dominate me without over-doing it. It is like walking a barbed wire tightrope: a man needs to be strong enough not to let me steam roll them, yet flexible enough to let me exist and not be overtaken by their will. Sexually, I tend to vacillate during the fucking from vulnerable to aggressive.

Since I am cast as a "cougar" or "MILF" a lot, I tend to get booked with performers ranging from 18-25 more often than not.

Finally, your last question: Do most guys like having their bums licked or not? It varies from person to person. Some men have expressed a desire for it and others shudder at the thought of it. Personal preference wins out again on this one!



Curious asked: I am interested in experimenting with melted wax, but I am not sure where to even start. Plus, I don't want to hurt my gf or get hurt myself.

- Well, first of all, make sure your partner shares the same interest here! Bringing a flame in to the bed without warning might trigger a "Burning Bed" flashback and (if you remember correctly), that didn't end too well for the guy! If everything is a 'go', then you need to figure out the comfort levels. This is one of those situations where baby-steps are the best approach. Find a birthday candle (baking goods aisle of the grocery), and burn it for a minute or two. Pour the resulting wax on both your palm and your partners. Too hot? Not hot enough? It may be that one of, or neither of, you like the feeling. If that's the case, nothing lost and time saved. If one likes it and the other doesn't... at least you know who holds the candle! *giggle* Ok, let's say you have made it this far, now what?

Low tolerance for the heat? Instead of applying the melted wax directly to your lovers skin, dip your finger in it (I suggest a quick dip, followed by blowing on it to 'coat' your finger, then going back for more wax) and use your finger as an 'applicator'. Since it is generally the texture of hot wax that provides the pleasure, this delivers the result without the fear of burning your partner. Think you can handle it a bit hotter?

There are several candles on the market that are specifically made for adult play. I recommend Earthly Body, I have used their products and SWEAR by them! They have a lower melting point, so the risk of hurting/getting hurt is minimized, plus they are made of oils and extracts that are good for the skin. If this particular brand is too much of an "oil" than a wax for your taste, there are others on the market that do not melt down quite as much. Here is the thing with pouring wax versus finger-painting with it: aim well! Don't hit ultra-sensitive parts by accident! That can really ruin your date! Still want to turn up the heat?

To get an even hotter result, pour the wax from a shorter height. The wax will cool less traveling through 3 inches of air than through 6... trust me! Be careful, though, and for God sake use common sense! Don't pour wax into any opening (ears, nostrils, pussies, assholes, mouths, etc.)! Have erotic memories, not an ER bill to remember the experience by!



Indigo asked: Hi kayla big fan of your work. I was wondering if you like any fetish stuff? I am a big fan of the giantess fetish and there are several websites dedicated to this fetish. I think you would be good woman to get into the giantess fetish.

- I enjoy shooting several different fetishes. I have shot giantess fetish before and would love to do so again! Feel free to shoot them my email address. Kayla at KaylaQuinn.com


Shari asked: Hi beautiful and sexy Kayla! I had a question about your hood piercing!.... I have been thinking about getting mine pierced but there are rumors that afloat that you eventually lose sensation after a while. Is this true? I own a good amount of your videos and I know that you have had yours for a while. Is there a sexual preference of why you chose that spot where you have it pierced? Lastly, if you went back to day you got it pierced would you do it again?

- Hello Shari! I must say, I have never heard the rumors concerning losing sensation from a pierced hood! If I had, I doubt I would have gotten mine done! I got my piercing done, on a whim I must admit, back in the mid-90's. I was dating a girl who wanted to get her nose pierced and the body modification artist liked me and offered to do it for just the cost of the jewelry. Looking back, it was a worthwhile investment... a whopping $15.00. As for the placement of my ring. There are two basic ways of getting the hood done; vertically and horizontally. I chose the vertical style merely because it seemed less likely to get caught on panties, the seams of jeans, etc. Plus, I liked the way it lined up with my belly ring. I commonly hear people mistakenly refer to this as a clit piercing, and normally let it slide in conversation unless the conversation is about someone going to get it done. The hood is NOT the clit! BIG difference! The hood, for those not in the know, it a sheath of skin which covers the almighty clit. Piercing your clit would render it useless and ...well... death first! *giggle* An experienced BMA (Body Modification Artist), knows where to ram steel through flesh and where not to, while I do encourage guiding your BMA to your preferences, if they say they cannot do it where ya want it... trust them! I would definitely get mine done again, if I were to travel back in time. I have enjoyed it and it has never gotten in the way of anything I wanted to do.


Shari asked: I have seen in some of your videos that you can "squirt" when getting off. I was wondering if there is any technique to that? Or is that something that only some girls can do?

- ANYONE can learn to squirt! I was a doubting Tomas, too, until I learned. I am still mastering it, I am not 100% reliable... YET! There are several dvd's, books and e-books available to help you on this journey. One of my favorite sex tip dvd's that deal with the issue of female ejaculation/female ejaculation instruction can be found HERE. It is by mega-icon, super sweet & sexy Nina Hartley.


Crystal asked: Hi Kayla! I need your help! My boyfriend is a great guy, he is kind, considerate, hot as all Hell and sexy to boot! Here's the deal... when it comes to sex, he puts so much pressure on me to cum that I cannot just relax and enjoy getting fucked. He is constantly asking me if I am about to cum, if I can squirt for him (I am not really a squirter, it is just his newest obsession), if I am "right there". With all the chatter and the rushed movements, I feel like I am at a football game or something, like he is just hoping I score. He isn't focusing on what makes me feel good, just on whatever the latest technique he has read about. I have gotten to the point that I just moan when it seems appropriate and fake it. Help! I feel like I am stuck in this trap now! How do I tell him that he hasn't really been getting me off, that I've been basically lying to him all this time WITHOUT him dumping me?!

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Hello Crystal. We can fix this! First of all, you have GOT to be honest with him. Knock off the play-acting. If he thinks he is doing what it takes to get you off, he will never change what he does and you will never be truly satisfied. This sounds to me a lot like a combination of insecurity and male bravado. (No man wants to hear murmurs that he has a sexually unsatisfied girlfriend, if you've told your best friend about this I PROMISE she has told someone else.) At a time when you are NOT in the moment, when you are NOT doing anything sexual, you need to tenderly broach this subject. Tell him the truth. That you enjoy sex with him, love it when he fucks the Hell out of you but that the pressure of his constant interrogation is keeping you from relaxing and enjoying your sex to the fullest. Feel like you cannot bring this up out of the blue? Or you have and he is slipping back in to that crappy ass pattern? When you are in bed getting frisky, ask him to slow it down. Respond enthusiastically both verbally and physically to "good touch" and minimally to "bad touch". If you let your body lead, his cock WILL follow!

Now, the squirting thing. Yeah, I know this one from experience. I am more of a gusher, but have been known to squirt wickedly once in a while. I don't guarantee it, tho. I have not mastered it enough yet! I am still working on the reliability factor. The thing with squirting is this: you have to be totally relaxed and totally in the moment. The more pressured you are to squirt, the less likely you will. Period. If you are interested in teaching yourself to squirt, I recommend Nina Hartley's Guide. I know her personally and she has a gift for teaching! She is concise and keeps it simple. I adore her!

Crystal, stop faking the moans unless you are willing to spend the rest of this relationship in a sexual quagmire. Eventually, if you haven't already, you will begin to resent your man and dread sex. Why?! Let me know how it turns out? :)



Brad asked: I feel dumb asking this, but how the heck do I use a cock ring?! All the packaging says is "For novelty use only"!

- Hi Brad, there are two basic types of cock rings. The first goes only around the base of the penis. It is usually made of a stretchy material like rubber, and can help keep the blood that has made its way to your cock IN your cock, adding a little bit of assistance keeping your 'edge' (porn slang for hard on *giggle*). If you're contemplating using this to help maintain erections, you will probably be a touch disappointed. It will help keep you a little firmer than you'd be without it, but not by much. The second type actually goes around the cock AND scrotum. It also helps restrict the blood flow but, again, the purpose of a cock ring is not to fight erectile issues, just to provide extra stimulation via the "squeezing" sensation. To be honest, this second type is what I personally prfer. (The first type can slip and pinch your partner) These fancier ones can be made of stretchy stuffs or leather with snazzy snaps (for adjusting the size) and even metal loops held together with silicone strips, leather, rubber, etc. Remember: Cock rings should be put on AFTER you acheive erection and should never be left on for more than 30-45 minutes. Think about it, you're compromising the blood flow, don't hurt your buddies! If you feel any discomfort, take it off immediately! Want to browse for a few cock rings? Check here!


Kendra asked: I have seen a video that you are in when a guy has his balls tied up... whats the purpose of it? and what can you do it with?

- HAHAHAHA! That is actually a fairly common practice in certain genres. In the case of tease and denial scenes, it is extra stimulation that adds to the anticipation of the actual orgasm. In ruined orgasm films, it is to create an uncomfortable pressure in the testes. Basically, the binding makes it more difficult for blood to retreat from the engorged penis and back in to the body. The result? A longer lasting erection. In some of the post-ejaculation photos on the back of dvds, you will see the female talent holding the freshly drained cock at the base squeezed between two fingers in a scissor-like grip...she is keeping the cock rigid by not allowing the blood to leave member. It is a little trick we use on set since between the "pop shot" and the still photos of the aftermath, several minutes may go by and the guy can start to ...um, return to normal. When binding scrot's, make SURE you know what you are doing! Do NOT bind to the point that things turn purple or blue...you are literally killing your guys "buddies". Also, if he says untie, UNTIE! To be honest, this is one of those things I discourage too much experimentation with and suggest you leave it to a pro...or find one who will teach you the basics! You can ruin your man this way. When I have utilized this practice, I have used things that were not only handy at the time, but not too coarse or strong...a hair scrunchy (NOT an elastic/rubber band) or my panties. I also never bind tighter than I have to...you'd be amazed at gentle a tie is effective! Think of it along the same lines as putting a collar on a dog, you want to control, not choke to death!


Danielle asked: Have u ever put a strap-on on and fucked your boyfriend (or any guy in the ass)? If so did he enjoy it? Did he cum? If not, did it make him feel gay or uncomfortable?

- HAHAHAHA! Too funny! If you knew the last guy I dated (and still fuck), you would NEVER have asked this question! *giggle* I have been a "ringer" in several "reverse gang bangs" (5 girls with strap-ons... one guy catching what we're throwing) and I have been told that I am a natural. LOL I am never quite sure how to take that comment, to be honest. I have also appeared in a few "Bi" movies... (a partial list of those can be found HERE) and have never sprung the strap-on on anyone as a surprise. It has always been a booked scene and I refuse to work with someone who is not in to whatever type of sex scene/play we are booked for... I am a diva that way. In some of the movies, the "catcher" is allowed to cum, in others he is not. I HAVE had quite a few of the performers in that genre call me afterwards asking to play again on-cam or off!





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