Ask Kayla Quinn

[November 30, 2009] -

Sounds to me like she's got issues! Until she comes to terms with her sexuality and sex, it just ain't going to happen! Honey, is she cannot get herself off, you're not going to be able to either!

If she's enjoying the intimacy, I wouldn't sweat it TOO hard...I would, however, suggest she figures out why she's holding herself back. Damn our society for pressuring girls to NOT experiment sexually!

[September 17, 2009] -

Nope, just curious!

[February 11, 2009] -

Hello James...first of all, there is nothing wrong with masturbation as long as it does not interfere with "real life" issues. If you are missing classes, work, assignment deadlines, etc because you're stroking the monkey, you've got a problem, otherwise you're fine. As for virginity...ALL of us were virgins at one point; it is nothing to be ashamed of my dear! Sounds to me as though you are not looking for a "relationship" at all, but a conquest! If you are just looking to hook up and fuck, there is nothing wrong with that type of a situation as long as all parties involved understand the situation going in...it is when people are mislead that the drama ensues. As for what *I* would do in your place...the odds of meeting a flesh and blood woman increase exponentially if you venture away from the computer and put yourself in social situations. That said, I would actually turn my computer off and look for actual physical contact...

[December 4, 2008] -

Try jacking yourself off in a way that feels like a pussy wrapping itself around your cock. To do this,lie on your side and grasp your cock in your hand. Go with a full fisted grip, but make sure you grab your penis from the left and not from the right, as per the usual grip or a right-handed man. Then you twist your wrist in such a way that the thumb is pointing down instead of up. You might have to pull the penis to the side in order to achieve the correct grip, but don’t worry about it because the position is perfectly natural. Flip over onto your stomach on your bed. Pump away!

Want to feel like the vagina never ends? Stroke the usual way, you know...a fistful of cock...as soon as the head of your dick pokes through one fist, put your other hand to good use! Creating a long tunnel of substitute pussy, stroke like there's no tomorrow! Try twisting your hand in a spiral motion while thrusting...

Want something a little different? Palm your cock. Slap some of your favorite lube onto your palm and rub the head of your cock back and forth over the slippery surface. You'll enjoy different sensations than the usual stroking.

Applying ice or pressure to your balls just as you orgasm is said to be extremely pleasurable, as well.

[August 6, 2008] -

I am not really a big fan of labels when it comes to sexuality. Do I think you are bi-sexual if you play with a dildo? No. Do I think you are "straight" because you only fuck women? Not at all. Sexuality goes beyond the physical, my dear! You most likely just discovered the pleasure receptors around your anus have been neglected and you're probably wondering why it took you so long to acknowledge them! ;)

[June 26, 2008] -

Hi Buck...if you liked sex before you went away, you will like it when you get back! Masturbating is perfectly healthy. Not only is a terrific stress releaser, it also helps one get to know their body and what actually feels best to them. By knowing what turns you on, you can better communicate with your partner. With better communication, comes better sex!

As far as damaging your penis goes...utilizing lube while stroking your cock will stave off chafing; remembering that you are tugging your penis, not arm-wrestling a foe will keep you from pulling a groin muscle; staying hydrated will keep you from getting cramps.

[December 12, 2007] -

Easy! My Sybian!!

[December 6, 2007] -

Hi Marcie! There are some toys that are "better" to share than others. The less porous the material, the better. Hard plastic, glass and acrylic toys are more desirable candidates than those made of rubber-like compounds. Of course, you can always use condoms on toys just as you can on a cock!

Before using anything borrowed, be sure to clean it thoroughly! There are several adult toy cleaners on the market. Anti-bacterial soaps can be used as well, but I prefer to use cleaner specifically made for toys. Be sure to rinse the freshly cleaned dildo completely before use!

Always return intimate objects clean and empty of batteries. (More information on the proper care and storage of sex toys can be found HERE.) A note of thanks and/or a small token gift add a nice touch!

Have fun!

[October 3, 2007] - You won't damage your balls, but unless you find another way to alleviate stress, you might damage some friendships!

[September 11, 2007] - While there are days that I cannot seem to get off often enough, there are others where I don't masturbate at all. I have actually had days where all I do is lay in front of the television, remote control in one had and sex toy in the other! I generally use a vibrating egg style toy when I play with myself. On my mind, typically, while I build up to my climax? My RL bf... amazingly mundane for a pornstar, I am afraid! At least, that is the case now. It has not always been that way, though. As for fantasies... I have made it my mission to oneby-one live them out as they came to me. Luckily, my career path has been very condusive to that! My most recent accomplishment was finding a restaurant which allowed nudity. Once the curtains were closed around our booth, the four of us dining together that evening shed clothing and inhibitions and fucked between the courses of our meal! That one has been one of the more difficult fantasies to fulfill but was WELL worth the wait!

[July 28, 2007] - What a thoughtful boyfriend you are! Choosing a vibrator is as personal as choosing a car. You need to know what is important to the driver, so to speak. I think the best way to make sure both of you are happy and satisfied with your purchase is for you to shop together! A few things to consider: Does she enjoy clitoral stimulation? Deep vaginal penetration? Both? There are many wonderful B.O.B.'s (Battery Operated Boyfriend's) on the market today. If this is her first toy, I recommend a standard pocket rocket. A pocket rocket is basically a phallus shaped toy, which by means of batteries, vibrates. It generally has a dial-operated control on the end of the toy, allowing the user to control the speed of the vibration. Unless you know for certain she has no sensitivities rubber (commonly called "Jelly") toys, I would stick with the hard plastic ones. If she is not exactly the novice when it comes to adult toys, I recommend either a Sybian or a Love Swing as these are both items you can share. Getting pounded from behind while riding a Sybian is a sensation she will not soon forget! Toys range in price from $10 to over $1000, depending on the type of toy you are purchasing, name brand and other factors. No matter how pricey the toy, there are a few things that will cause the toy to deteriorate. NEVER store your toy with batteries still inside of them. It wears out the contacts and causes the toy to wear out faster. If you are going to wear out a toy, at least enjoy it (Wink Wink!) Always wash toys immediately after using them. You can buy toy cleaner or use antibacterial liquid soap on them. Pat or air-dry your toy, never put it away wet. I save the original packaging usually and store them that way. Should you choose a jelly toy, be cautious on storing them. Color transfer from one to the other has been known to occur and they are lint magnets like you would not believe! NEVER, EVER share a sex toy! Oh, and Tibbs, be SURE to stock up on the flavored lube! A pocket rocket is fun but it is basically just an appetizer, you will still be the main course! Here aer a few places to get the shopping started:

XXXPress Toys

Adam & Eve

Sybian

[July 17, 2007] - Ok, this is ALMOST a trick question! *giggle* For manual masturbation, I generally reccommend cocoa butter (Palmers, no pun intended, makes a great one). Palmers is awesome, because it can also be used for a light lube with your woman. It does not get gooky and is absorbed by your skin, making clean up easier. For vaginal sex with your sweetie, nothing beats water-based lubes, such as AstroGlide or Moist. Keeps in mind that household stuff, like Vaseline, breaks down condoms and is a mess to clean up...stick to lubes that were made for sex! Some of the flavored lubes sound like they taste better than they do. Let the licker of the lick-and-stick arrangement taste a bit on her fingertip before you slather that goop all over your pole! When it comes to anal loving, a more viscous lube is needed. Adam&Eve Pro Anal Lube (withOUT the numbing agent) works well here. As I have stated before, I am not a fan of anal lubes with numbing agents. Too easy to injure and not realize it! I hope this helps some!

Stay sexy!

[July 17, 2007] - Hi Deana! Well, it might be as simple as: You have a killer pussy! Actually, sex toy care is often over-looked. Here are a few basics: Before you use your toy for the first time, wash it with warm water and a mild soap. Silicone dildos (NOT vibrators) can go in the top rack of the dishwasher. To avoid melting rubber, attachments and rubber toys can be soaked in one part bleach to ten parts water for 10-15 minutes, rinsed, then left to air dry. NEVER store your toy with the batteries still in it. It can burn out the little motor mechanism, or corrode and damage the battery terminal. Wipe your vibe with warm water after each use, allow it to air dry. You may also use a condom on your toy to make clean up easier. Any toy used anally must be thouroughly cleaned before using it anywhere else, or you risk infecting areas not normally exposed to the bacterium in your digestive tract. NASTY infection possibilities, there! Also, never take a toy in to the bath with you unless it was designed to be used in water. No sense killing the toy and possibly shocking your critter-getter!

Good luck Deana!