Devyn asked: hey kayla not a question u would get oten but do u know where i could find an updated version of your game free??

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Hello Devyn...Try eAdultGames. My incredibly talented friend RT writes/codes not only *my* games, but the games of other hotties! His website, eAdultGames is the central repository for his work.

Happy playing!



Steve smith asked: I know this sounds dumb but is there such thing as a sex coach. Both for fun but also to teach a married man wHo loves his wife?

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While there is such thing as a "sex coach", I don't think a legit coach gets as...involved...as you are hoping! The most common type of sex coach is a Tantric sex coach. ( Tantric sex is defined HERE as follows: The word Tantra means "to manifest, to expand, to show and to weave." In this context, sex is thought to expand consciousness and to weave together the polarities of male (represented by the Hindu god, Shiva), and female (embodied by the Hindu goddess, Shakti), into a harmonious whole.

    Finding a Tantric sex coach:
  • To find a coach in your area, start checking with yoga studios, periodicles, online ads (although I LOATHE CraigsList) or the Almighty Google. Oh! Go old-school and find the Yellow Pages (does anyone use them anymore?)...
  • If you find a few coaches that seem interesting to you, set up a time when you can meet with them and discuss their teaching methods. You should be actively interviewing these people! It is crucial that you find someone you feel you can trust; whose personality meshes well with yours and your S.O.'s (Significant Other's). If you don't like/trust your coach, you'll learn little to nothing from them and will have wasted your time and money. Meet up on neutral ground...StarBucks, CrapDonald's, a local park. You can interview via the phone, but I tend to prefer being able to look someone in the eye when considering employing them.
  • Comparison shop, too! Ask what the coach charges, what that includes and how many sessions you should expect to need to attend. Even if you like the first person you speak to, you really should interview at least two more. By getting multiple quotes, you will be better able to assess the going rate on classes/sessions.
  • Most sex coaches offer group classes. (Calm down, it isn't QUITE what you're thinking!) Go to one. Evenn if you're wanting private lessons, go to one group class. It'll show you how the prospective coach communicates with students.
  • Once you've made an offer to a coach, and it has been accepted, be a good student! Show up on time (whether group classes or private ones) and do your "homework"!



mahesh asked: i have only one testicle.and i'm also handicapped.in this case should i marry?i am asking you because my parents won't understand my desire to be a woman!this problem robs me of my manhood

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Having one testicle (whether it is missing completely or just hasn't migrated down and dropped) is called ‘undescended testicle’. Even without the undescended testicle pulling it's weight, you prolly shouldn't be too worried about making babies. Your other normal testicle is apt to be producing millions and millions of sperm. Have a one-night stand with a chick you despise, you're almost guaranteed to knock her up and be stuck with her! *giggle* Seriously, though; the decision to reproduce shouldn't be made lightly. Without knowing the nature of your handicap, it is impossible for me to predict the outcome of breeding (odds of a healthy child, ease of conception, etc). That's something you need to discuss with your medical provider.

As for the second part of your submission; the desire to become a woman or to be with a woman perplexes your folks? There's a HUGE difference between the two! I fail to see how having singular testes makes you any less of a man. It is what it is, it is the way you were made! I did, however find an article explaining the how's, why's and what-to-do's regarding undescended testicles...give it a read!

Good luck, hun!



sam asked: hi how do u act ssexy in front of a guy but not too sluty?

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Talk about walking a barbed-wire tightrope! To be honest, there is not a definitive answer...since what one man finds mild, another finds wild, it is just too subjective.

One hint: keeping your clothes off in public is more slutty than sexy!



Anja asked: Hello, I was watching that reality show Ruby about the woman loosing 500lbs..They were doing a little girl sex talk and the big girls said what they really liked was a sex position called "the cookie monster" Have you heard of it? What is it? I did a few searches and got some muppet sex but not the answer.

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Anja, I got the same results you did, it appears! The closest reference to an actual position I found was in this blog, the entry had ONE reply to it dated Jan 12, 2009. I am beginning to suspect it will turn out to be something similar to the infamous (and fictitious) "Venus Butterfly" technique the was a topic of conversation courtesy of the television show "LA Law". On the show "Community", another fake sexual position was referenced by Senor Chang...If a position called "the cookie monster" exists, porn has yet to discover it!

Maybe they were implying that their fuckmate was "crumby"? Ok, ok...bad pun even for ME!

For the first time, I have been stumped!



Jenny asked: HI, I LOVE THE WAY YOU CONTROL MEN, BOTH VERBALLY AND PHYSICALLY. DO YOU FIND THAT YOUNGER GUYS ARE EASIER TO DOMINATE AND CONTROL OR THE OLDER GUYS?? ALSO ARE THE SKINNY MEN EASIER TO CONTROL THAN THE BUILT ONES?? I AM QUITE DEMANDING IN BED TOO AND TEL MEN EXACTLY WHAT I WANT THEM TO DO. YOU ARE PERFECT IN THAT ASPECT TOO. I THINK YOU WOULD MAKE A BRILLIANT POLICE OFFICER X

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Hello Jenny! I take it my strong personality reveals itself rather well on film, huh? *giggle* The ability to dominate another has nothing to do with relative age, or with the physical build of either party. The seemingly simple dynamics between Dom and sub is far more complicated than it appears. It is a common misconception that submissives are weak or frail. Many subs hold positions of power and authority and find being submissive is an escape from the normal pressures of being in charge. Even if only for the length of a single session, the Dom and sub have entered into a relationship, and one built on trust. Being a Dom is more than just being a bossy, demanding bitch. A sub is, after all, still a human being! Because the amount of control exerted over the sub is agreed upon beforehand and consensual, there is less of a power struggle and more of a power exchange. As far as being demanding in bed...I hear ya, sister! I have always wondered why women would fake an orgasm! By rewarding that negative behavior and fooling the man into thinking that rocked your world, you're all but guaranteeing he'll never be able to get you off!

Me a police officer? Hmmmm....I *do* have military training....



Tom asked: Me again, just like to say thanks for the advice and I recently lost my virginity, it was fuckin' awesome! Im not bullshiting, It was really hot'n' heavy like my own porn movie. You rock you sexy moma, thank.

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w00t! YAY Tom! I am so happy for you! I am *so* glad I helped you along!



barbra asked: Hello Kayla, I just moved in with my boyfriend and he is a freak. he always wants to toss my salad, how do I make sure it smells great? and same goes for the front? are there any porn tips? I want to be able to work a full day and come home and not worry about running to the bathroom or turning him way. when i really want it... please help!! another question, i want to bleach my rim do you recommend any cream?

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Ok! I am going to answer way out of order, so I apologize ahead of time! I have never bleached my bum, BUT I did some research and it appears that BleachBum is the favorite product out there! It got better ratings for ease, cost, effectiveness and fragrance.

"I just moved in with my boyfriend and he is a freak." LUCKY!

To be honest, there is not TOO much you can do to ward off the aromas of a full day running ragged at work. To keep you vaggie as fresh smelling as possible, despite a 10-12 hour day, I suggest keeping the jungle brush trimmed. The longer haired vag's tend to get sweatier and therefore smellier. Also, using moist wipes after urinating will help. Keep in mind, as you're freaking about natural scents, that may be the very thing that turns your man on and gets his motor humming! Your @ss, same basic story. There is no magic secret to beating the human condition and coming home smelling shower fresh...unless you stop at the gym and take a shower on your way home! Basic hygiene and careful wiping after using the toilet are about all I can suggest. Porn tricks and tips do not lend themselves well to real life. When we prepare for anal scenes, we know in advance we are going to be shooting anal, we fast and rinse our rectums out several times before we shoot. As soon as we are done, we are famished and cannot wait to get some food in us. Luckily, we can usually be in out, fucked and done in under 4 hours...not at work for a full day, trying to starve ourselves just in case the mood for butt loving strikes once we get home. I would honestly ask him if he is one who prefers the earthy aroma of natural body or if he is put off by them and wants you to smell like baby wipes. You might be worrying about getting rid of the thing he likes best!



sando asked: On behalf of myself only, I am tired of reading about Larry Bates! Update already! I'll send you some "doozy" questions! I'll write you a little skit! I'll make you something! Maybe a belly dancing belt! lol miss you xoxo sando, tampa

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HAHAHAHAHA! Sando, you crack me the FUCK up sometimes! Yes, I was naughty and slacked on my responsibilities! I am trying to make it up to you all...I promise!



sando asked: My sweetest Kay-Kay, On Btama 204 (bad tush) what kind of fabric is your skirt made of? I love sewing and designing vintage fabrics and love the way it drapes. Sorry this isn't a very good revenue question, but if you share this with me, I promise to do better next time. Oh, and do call when you come to Tampa so we can do lunch. Maybe we can drape some of my pretty fabric around YOU! No charge of course. giggles Julia

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My dearest Sando...that skirt was recently given away! Had I known you adored it so, I would have sent it to you! It was a silver-gray satin skirt with black lace trim. It had a wonderful pencil-cut to it! I LOVE the feeling of skinny, straight skirts on me when I spank a girl. It makes it feel as though my strength is being...contained and restrained! If you sew, we NEED to talk! ;)



mike asked: i don't have a question just wanted to say that your a very very Beautiful woman. I enjoy watching you alot. I am a big fan of yours. thank you very much.

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It might not be a question, but it made *my* day! Thank you daring!



The Past asked: This is me laughing at you!

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Ok, and this is me not caring...anonymity is so liberating for you, isn't it?



Poppa Mark asked: What are all the different interracial sites you have been on? Do you have a list?

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Actually, I do not have a list of all of the interracial sites on which I have scenes. Why not, you ask? When shooting a scene, the talent does not always know the name of the website or dvd the scene is going to grace; scenes get re-edited and resold often; scenes often start out as a dvd scene then later find their way on to a website. It is not uncommon for one company to own several websites, so I have seen the same scene (sometimes in total, sometimes cut up or re-edited) on multiple websites at the same time.

Sorry I could not be of more help on this! Happy hunting!

Oh! I would start with the links to the right of this entry!



Phil Kent asked: How do women pee? And, I need alot of information on vaginas I dont really know anytihng... Can U please help me plus what does sex feel like and what do tits feel like??

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We sit down and allow the urine to pass from our bladder though our uretha. It isn't a very complicated process, but poor diet, too much sugar or vaginal insertion of an unclean foreign body can cause a urinary tract infection (commonly referred to as a UTI).

Explaining to a virgin what sex feels like is paramount to trying to describe the color blue to a blind man, I am afraid! You'll have to find out for yourself! Happy hunting!



Casey asked: Kalya - I am need of some advice. I lost a bet to my sister, which will result my agreeing to a session with a professional spanker(still not sure if this is what it's called) at a birthday party thrown my honor. I'm the ultimate prankster, so the bet was that I could not go 6 months without a prank, and in turn, she not be able to buy anything on credit(she's a credit card junky). I had set up a prank prior to this bet, and it was one of my better ones, and I didn't want to give it up - so I was hoping it would not be revealed within the 6 months, and risk losing. I managed to "borrow" the little security strips on high priced merchandise from a handful of shops that she frequented on a regular basis. I got stopped on the way out the door, but with no pocketbook or packages they let me pass. I then sewed each of these security strips into my sisters coat/jacket linings, along with into the seam of her pocketbook. Everytime she went into one of these stores or rather left, the alarm went off. Stores get suspicious if you set those alarms off too many times…haha. Within 2 weeks of the 6months, I was ratted out by a former 'victim.' I went back to the stores and explained that she was not a shoplifter - one manager thought it was so funny he gave me a gift certicate! Oh well, back to the advice - I did a little internet research as I didn't know a professional spanker exist -and wanted to know what I had gotten myself into. Are the spanking videos for real or are sound effects added? I am the last of 6 kids, and although my parents did not spare any rods, being the baby had it's advantages and I usually set this same sister up in whatever mischief I got into and she got the brunt of whatever punshment got doled out. So other than sports related 'go get em' taps or towel snap fights, I've never actually had a spanking - hence my ever growing fear of what appears to be painful. I have about a month before the party - so is there anything that I can do to lessen how this might hurt? I'm a fairly petite person from top to the literal bottom. I'm really hoping this is a prank all unto itself.

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You need to get a better hobby. You and your sister seem to have too much time on your hands. You DO realize that by "borrowing" a few security sensors, you left valuable merchandise untagged and likely to get stolen, right? I might have the morals of an alley cat, but even *I* can see that's just wrong!

Want the CRAP spanked out of you? Apply HERE! Spankings hurt, that's why they're used as punishment, hun. I would take some arnica tablets prior to, and after the spanking. Also, arnica gel on the bruises helps here them faster. Taking a nylon-bristles brush (one normally used for hair) and brushing downward on the bruised areas lightly three or four times a day will help the discoloration break up and dissipate more quickly, too.



roger asked: hi There, love the site and your work! I have a question that many men have already ask i suposse. Sorry.... I have an somewhat average cock size and wish to make it larger for my girlfriend. Would there be anything i can do? Penis streches/weights or pills i've tried a pump but it doesnt seem to work that great! What are your suggestions and ideas? Thanks

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Roger, there ARE penis-extending sex toys, though I am not sure how well they work...a few can be found here. If you take a gander thru the Penis Stuff section here on AskKayla, you'll find other tips and tricks. BTW, chances are your girlfriend isn't as concerned with the size of your fuckstick as much as you are!



fanatic asked: Ho kayla do you do private spankings and if so whats the cost ?

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I haven't, but that doesn't mean I won't...whatcha got in mind? How long? Where? How severe? OTK? Paddle, hand, belt, cane, etc?

Pitch me, baby...sell me it!



Larry asked: what the deal about Black men? My lady friend whats to fuck a Black man before she gets married but our friend her not to because she would what to keep getting more, She is going to marry a white. What gives?

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Long live the "All black men have huge cocks" myth! HAHAHA! Here's the deal, with such sweet rumors as the "Black man=huge cock" and "once you go black, you never go back" (honorary mention to "the darker the berry, the sweeter the juice"), it is hard for a sexually naive woman to resist going after that "guaranteed thing"! (I am not going to bother addressing the whole "She might have daddy issues" possibility.

While I am a connoisseur of black fuckstick, here is the honest truth: they are not ALL huge. There are black guys with small cocks, just as there are white guys with huge ones. I think Tears for Fears said it best...people are people...the same variances run in each race. Tell your lady friend I said, "Sorry, princess. Go for the man, not the color of his skin!"

Now, if that is but one thing on a list of a myriad of sexual fantasies to fulfill before she ties the knot, kudos! The only part that ruffled my feathers was the "She is going to marry a white." thing....if a brother is good enough to bed, why is the idea of marrying one inconceivable?



Tom asked: Me again, What do you think of guys who like metal music? I got long hair and a beard you see and my friend is always getting on me about it saying that most girls don't like that look for a guy and that I should change my appearance. Wht do you think?

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Apparently your friends have never heard of Fall Out Boy, Pantera, System of a Down, Say Anything, of course ZZ Tops...the list goes on and on...all rockers, all bearded, most with long hair. Jim Morrison sported that look and had no problem filling his bed! Your friend is either just messing with you or has nothing else about you to criticize!

Don't worry about what your boy thinks, worry about what your girl thinks!



Tom asked: Hi Kayla, your so hot and I really love watching you, I really ebjoy the lesbian and milf movies that you are in. I often fantasis about doin it with an older women, but Im a virgin. Do you think it would be good for me to loose it to a older women? I've got no one in mind, Im just wondering.

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Heya Tom, glad my movies are helping you through some long, hard nights! The age of whom you choose to lose your cherry to doesn't strike me as important...there are well-versed "whores" of all ages, so if you're thinking age=experience, then you've not seen the typical American teenager lately! ;)



Jenny asked: HI THERE. JUST NEED SOME ADVICE. I WANT MY EYEBROW PIERCED WITH A BAR BELL AND I WANT THE TOP OF MY EAR PIERCED WITH A GOLD EAR RING (NOT A STUD). WHICH SIDE DO YOU RECOMMEND FOR THE EYEBROW AND WHICH SIDE FOR THE EAR. WHICH SIDE DO MOST GIRLS GET IT DONE AT? JENNY 22 x

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Jenny, I couldn't find any equivalent to "left ear buccaneer, right ear queer" rules for eyebrows.

    I did find this, however:
  • "The usual place to pierce the eyebrow is at a 40 degree angle from the outside corner of the eye, however, it may be pierced anywhere along the eyebrow from directly above the eye, to the edge of the eyebrow. The eyebrow should never be pierced further in than directly above the eye, because of the presence of the three major Supra-Orbital nerves, piercing one of these nerves can cause permanent damage.

    The piercing is usually done at an angle to make the ring sit better, if the piercing is done vertically it sits directly outward and has a greater likelihood of migration."

  • (Quoted from Wikipedia)

From experience, I can tell you that the cartilage, or tip of the ear piercing, is going to hurt. Go to a pro, don't risk it by trying to do it yourself. It will heal slower than the earlobe and the gold ring will get caught by your hairbrush far more often than you think...resulting in a jarring pain that races through your ear and down your neck!

Try getting your "good side" done...you know, the side you favor in photos!






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