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[December 7, 2009] -

I am all for the retraining! Most likely, you've gotten used to penis-stroking without pulling the foreskin, your gf's vagina is pulling it back (thank GAWD for friction!) and that is a different sensation than you are used to feeling. Try stroking one out while pulling your foreskin back to emulate the vaginal fucking feeling...practice, practice, practice! because you CAN ejaculate, I am not convinced this is a medical condition requiring a professional. Have your gf participate in the barrage of hand jobs! Including her will help ease her frustration!

[November 26, 2009] -

Mike...there are a few tricks to prevent ejaculation: stroke one out before fucking...it's always more difficult to pop the second time; change your rhythm when you get close to cumming, it'll help more than you think it will; think UN-sexy thoughts when you feel a climax building (may I suggest Margaret Thatcher in a string bikini) to help prolong things; also, doubling up on the condoms will help dull sensitivity!

Hope these tips help!

[October 29, 2009] -

Roger, there ARE penis-extending sex toys, though I am not sure how well they work...a few can be found here. If you take a gander thru the Penis Stuff section here on AskKayla, you'll find other tips and tricks. BTW, chances are your girlfriend isn't as concerned with the size of your fuckstick as much as you are!

[October 17, 2009] -

Roger, check out the Penis Stuff category! There you'll find foods that help increase blood flow (there by increasing size), exercises, information about penis pumps, etc!

If there are still questions/concerns rattling around in your mind after reading that section, drop me another line!

[September 28, 2009] -

Long live the "All black men have huge cocks" myth! HAHAHA! Here's the deal, with such sweet rumors as the "Black man=huge cock" and "once you go black, you never go back" (honorary mention to "the darker the berry, the sweeter the juice"), it is hard for a sexually naive woman to resist going after that "guaranteed thing"! (I am not going to bother addressing the whole "She might have daddy issues" possibility.

While I am a connoisseur of black fuckstick, here is the honest truth: they are not ALL huge. There are black guys with small cocks, just as there are white guys with huge ones. I think Tears for Fears said it best...people are people...the same variances run in each race. Tell your lady friend I said, "Sorry, princess. Go for the man, not the color of his skin!"

Now, if that is but one thing on a list of a myriad of sexual fantasies to fulfill before she ties the knot, kudos! The only part that ruffled my feathers was the "She is going to marry a white." thing....if a brother is good enough to bed, why is the idea of marrying one inconceivable?

[September 17, 2009] -

Nope, just curious!

[September 11, 2009] -

Dane, where I want the hot load varies with my mood, what position I am in when the dude is ready to blow and which part of me he is fucking at the time. I did go through a phase for a while where I liked the final position to be doggy only to have him pull out, me put my feet together quickly so the hot load coated the soles of my feet. It feels *really* good! If the sex partner d'jour is a smoker, I tend not to swallow as I am not a smoker and tobacco tends to make semen taste bitter. There *is* a recipe HERE for improving the taste of your cream-stream.

[August 22, 2009] -

Hi Matt, try jerkin off before you see her. By releasing the semen filling your testicles, you'll reduce your bodies immediate inventory of liquid soldiers; forcing your body to manufacture more and buying you some stall time.

My only other suggestions suck: try a numbing agent (like anal ease) to limit the sensation and *hopefully* prolong things enough for you to actually get in the party before throwing your 'confetti'...yeah, I know...numbing your cock defeats the purpose of fucking; try not to think about sex so much, diminish the importance and 'trick your brain' into letting you get further...again, YES I know how retarded it is for me to tell an 18yr male virgin to not think about sex! I warned you that both my other options were lame!

[August 15, 2009] -

Actually, an uncircumcised penis is awesome for anal. I can think of several adult film actresses who feel the same way. The foreskin helps reduce friction, cushions the occasional rough thrust and reduces the amount of lube needed.

To be honest, I've never minded the "turtle-neck wearing snake", as long as he's clean. I doubt I am alone in that respect!

[July 27, 2009] -

That measurement reflects an erect penis. :)

[July 8, 2009] -

Darren...I have no idea what you mean by: "How do I get to know a woman during orgasm?" As for the rest:

While there are many places to spray your spunk on your partner, there really isn't a broad range of WAYS to do it...pretty much, aim, relax and shoot! You can sling your cock from side to side if you want to cover a larger area, I suppose, but my experience and research turned up no special way to get cum from tab a to slot b. As for creampie technique: keep cock in, cum, mission completed. If, however, you are planning to video/photograph the creampie, I recommend pulling your rod halfway out of the hole (be it an anus or vagina) before squirting your semen, that will deposit it closer to the opening making it easier for the camera to see.

[June 25, 2009] -

Santi...What you're describing is common. There are few women concerned with the size of a flacid penis. Women tend to be more concerned with the functionality (NOT size) of a hard, throbbing, pulsating cock.

[June 7, 2009] -

GO TO THE DOCTOR NOW!!

[May 28, 2009] -

Yep! As long as you know how to use it, you're fine. The average man cares more about penis size than the average woman does.

[May 25, 2009] -

Your best bet here is to do some stretching exercises. The best method I've managed to find for you involves pulling your foreskin forward, away from your body, while your cock is flacid. Now, insert a finger or two inside the foreskin gently but firmly pull out, at right angles to your penis, almost as though you were holding open a plastic baggy.

Hold that "stretch" for up to five minutes. Repeat this exercise two or three times a day, until your foreskin will retract during erection. Now, because this stretching exercise is promoting new skin cells to grow, it is going to take weeks...possibly even months for the foreskin to be stretched enough to do what you are wanting it to do! Oh! Fair warning, your glans WILL be super sensitive since it is experiencing direct stimulation for the first time. It'll get with the program soon though!

[April 27, 2009] -

A curved penis is much like a jittery virgin; straightening it out takes time, patience and perserverance! Some cocks curve to the left, others bend to the right, some point up, some seem to be staring at the ground. No matter which way yours is leaning, it can be retrained! There are three main causes of penile curvature...a little bit of scar tissue, your gene pool or your physical pull. If your dick is constantly pulled the same direction, beit from tight clothes, the way you lay your schlong in your tighty-whiteys or from pulling your dick the same direction when you jack off. There isn't really any sexual draw-backs to a slightly curved cock. A bend or curve in the cock does not diminish sexual functionality. If, however, it bugs you or your girlfriend, you can straighten everything out...as long as you do it slowly. What you are after here is via penile traction. Ok, now I bet you want to know what penile traction is, huh? Basically, if your penis curves to the right, then the skin on the right isn't as long as the skin on the left. The goal then, to straighten the cock, is to permanently stretch the shorter skin until it's as long as the longer skin. Traction is basically controlled pulling. Microscopic tears open up between cells on the short-skin side. As part of the healing process, the body creates new cells to repair these tears. Slowly but surely, the skin on the short side begins to stretch and eventually catches up with the length of the loner skin. This process takes some time, you are not going to see the desired results after only one or two sessions. Besides, unless you're in to pain and want to damage your penis, you need to work slowly and gradually. If you rush, it will hurt like Hell; if you are patient, there will be no pain involved. Unless you want to find a way to hang a weight around your dick and sit around in the buff for hours a day, I suggest you look into either SizeGenetics or Pro Extender. Want some more good news? Once you have straightened your cock and have it arrow-straight, you can add some size to it by stretching it evenly a bit more with either one of these systems.

[March 19, 2009] -

Josh, there are so many factors that come into play when we start talking about penile problems! Everything from diet, physical well-being, health of the relationship between you and your partner, medication, outside stresses, age, and so on and so on can affect your cock. Is this a new development, or have you always had a "lazy cock"? Are you able to regain rigidity? Do you have this problem consistently or sporadically? While I do not have a cock personally, there are a few in my life that I truly value, when in doubt go see a GP (general practitioner) and see if you need to be referred to a specialist!

[March 15, 2009] -

Heya, Stud! There are several tricks male performers use to keep from popping too soon. Some guys make sure the scene is not their first load of the day by either stroking one out before the scene or fucking someone else before arriving on set...others change their tempo when they feel a climax building...I have also heard stories about mental diversions (one of my favorites is "envisioning Margaret Thatcher in a thong bikini)...don't under-estimate the beauty of editing, either; you do not see all of the stops and starts!

[March 1, 2009] -

You, my dear, need to improve the flexibility of the muscles surrounding your cock! Good news and bad news: good news, it's 100% free! Bad news: it will not happen over-night. Before I give you the basic run-down, let me caution you about trying to rush through this: DON'T! Take your time building up the length of the stretches as well as the ... adventurousness of advancing thru the exercises. The point here is to improve things, not to cause injury.

Basic stretching exercise: - warm up, crack your knuckles, take a deep breath, clear your head of all distractions - if you've got a foreskin, pull it back so you are stretching the cock, not the skin - grab your dick, just below the head, firmly - pull your cock downward, hold it there for 15-20 seconds - release, start with 5 reps, over time you will be increasing the number of reps you do per session, but start with low reps - release and relax - repeat, but pulling your dick to the right, this time - release and relax - one more time, this time (yup, you guessed it) pull to the left - over time, increase the reps and number of sets you do per day!

While it will take time to get the desired results, you *will* love the result!

[February 20, 2009] -

Hi Robin, here's what I have found for you *so* far...as many as 80% of men experience erection problems after a prostatectomy. Since the nerves that control/enable the ability to obtain and retain an erection are right next to the prostate, they are often damaged or removed during the procedure. To make things even more...ummm...delicate...these nerves are intertwined with a bundle of blood vessels; your surgeon most likely used heat-sealing or cauterization to keep your bleeding to a minimum and improve his visibility in an effort to keep nerve-damage to a minimum. Most men who had erection problems after prostatectomy are able to regain their ability to have erections within 36-48 months of the procedure. There are, as always, variables to your recovery: ability to achieve erections prior to surgery, age at the time of the operation, if the surgery was bilateral (saving the potency nerves on both sides of the prostate) or unilateral nerve sparing (preserving only one of the nerves), if there was any damage to the urethra, and so on.

Constriction devices...ok, a few rules to live by with these: they should never, no never be left on for more than 30 minutes. They can, on occasion, cause bruising, particularly in men who have a blood clotting disorder or who are taking a drug that makes blood less likely to clot (anticoagulant). Should you feel tingling or experience a loss if sensation, you've got your cock too tightly bound!

If, after 48 months, erectile issues are still plaguing you, see your urologist.

[February 4, 2009] -

Jeff...a curve to a penis is quite common, actually. Whether or not this will affect sexual activity depends on several factors, including: severity of the curve; sexual position attempted; size of the penis...Men and women have been finding fun and creative ways to fuck for eons, I am sure you will make it work! ;)

[January 12, 2009] -

Your best bet here is to do some stretching exercises. The best method I've managed to find for you involves pulling your foreskin forward, away from your body, while your cock is flacid. Now, insert a finger or two inside the foreskin gently but firmly pull out, at right angles to your penis, almost as though you were holding open a plastic baggy.

Hold that "stretch" for up to five minutes. Repeat this exercise two or three times a day, until your foreskin will retract during erection. Now, because this stretching exercise is promoting new skin cells to grow, it is going to take weeks...possibly even months for the foreskin to be stretched enough to do what you are wanting it to do! Oh! Fair warning, your glans WILL be super sensitive since it is experiencing direct stimulation for the first time. It'll get with the program soon though!

[January 7, 2009] -

Yes...and no...while there is no magic combination of foods that will seek out and change penis tissue, there are foods that can help penile health. A vasodilator is a substance which relaxes the smooth muscles that form the walls of blood vessels. Your mission? Find foods rich in vasodilators! Need a place to start? Look for foods rich in niacin.

Niacin rich foods:
• Beef liver
  
• Peanuts
  
• Chicken (white meat)
  
• Tuna
  
• Salmon
  
• Corn grits
  
• Ground beef
  
• Cheerios
  
• Peanut butter
  
• Almonds
  
• Potato, baked with skin
  
• Bagel, plain
  
• Flour tortilla
  
• Pasta
  
• Mushrooms (raw)
  
• Barley
  
• Corn (yellow)
  
• Mangos
  
• Lentils
  
• Sweet potatoes
  
• Peaches
  
• Carrots
  

Are you going to chow down on these foods then wake up the following morning with an additional inch of man-meat? No. BUT, by eating a diet rich in niacin, you're helping promote healthy blood flow which is key to a healthy erection. Fully functioning circulatory system=fully inflated penis. You might just start having erections larger than you've ever had before!

[January 2, 2009] -

Apparently, it is a mainstream actor named Jonah! Who knew?!

Oh, I found that in this blog.

[December 27, 2008] -

Hello Hunter! Interesting question...There are several factors that play a part in a man having difficulty (or even complete inability) to achieve and maintain an erection (a condition known as impotence). Both physical and mental/emotional causes are common; these include, but are not limited to, depression, stress, work pressures, relationship problems, insecurities, low self-esteem, and poor diet. The more of these buggers you're facing, the better your chances for having a limp noodle. Sucks, huh?

There are non-chemical alternatives in the treatment of impotency, however. That little blue pill is not your only hope! Relationship counseling (also referred to as psychosexual therapy)can be quite beneficial in lifting your...ummm...spirits. Usually exercises are assigned by the therapist to help overcome past issues, encourage forgiveness in one another, renew your intimacy, spark the sexual interest and arousal. Just by cleaning out the emotional clutter that builds in most relationships over time, impotency can become a thing of the past.

An even simpler cure can be as simple as a change in attitude and/or perspective. Stop brow-beating yourself over your slower-than-before erection; psyching yourself up about past problems right before trying to get that high-rise in your Levi's is only setting yourself up for failure. Adopt a more positive outlook, about both you and your partner! It's infectious, you'll both feel better and better things will...sprout...from that feeling.

Nourish your mind, body and soul. Eating properly and finding the time to exercise strengthens every aspect of your life. Cheesey sounding, I know...but a healthy diet means a healthy sex life!

[December 23, 2008] -

Measure from the side of the penis. Make sure you are as hard/erect as you can possibly be. Now, hold your cock below the head and place a ruler next to it with your other hand. You should feel the ruler gently pressing against your pubic bone. Measure from here. Do not cheat by using a measuring tape and starting underneath everything near your asshole! If anything, claim it is a little smaller than it is, rather than bigger. That is one lie no man can live down getting caught telling! Being proven wrong when you claimed it is smaller than it is would be MUCH better! If you are wanting to measure how fat it is, that is the girth of your soldier, break out the measuring tape. Fully erect again, hold your fuck stick out, parallel to the ground. Wrap the tape around your penis, but do not pull the tape too tight! There you go! Now you know how big your package is!

This is the standardized method that researchers use to measure the "average penis size" (which is 6" - 6.5" long and measures 5" - 5.5" in girth, according to recent studies).

[December 20, 2008] -

To make your cock look bigger, here are a few tricks of the porn trade...Manscape, baby! Not sure about the lingo? Trimming your pubic hair is the easiest way to look bigger, FAST! You'd be amazed how much dick is being hidden by that fur. Get that snake out of your bush and into your partners. Another quick minute fix? Take a long, hot shower before sexing it up. The warm, steamy shower will expand the blood vessels and draw the blood flow to your penis...not to mention that hygiene is just really neato. In this for the long-haul? Want more permanent results? Step away from the chips, set the remote control down, get off the couch and lose some weight! That little pad of fat at the base of your cock gobbles up inches that we gals and cock-loving guys would much rather be gobbling. Hiding under an overhanging belly, any cock is going to look dwarfed.

Your efforts will be appreciated!

[December 13, 2008] -

Male fertility issues can be caused by a number of things. A low sperm count, premature ejaculation, or "abnormal" sperm (malformed, low motility, etc). Generally speaking, your overall general health influences your fertility. The healthier your life-style, the healthier your little white army usually is. Drugs, drinking and smoking are top causes of sperm problems. There have actually been multiple studies linking nicotine to low sperm count and inferior health of sperm cells; keep that in mind the next time you light up!

Just as having folic acid in her system when a woman conceives is desirable, there are certain things you need in your system to help your little guys do their job. Vitamin C and zinc are your friends here. Some STD's such as chlamydia or gonorrhea can silently damage the spermatic ducts. (You also risk transmitting your disease to your partner causing her to be infertile.) Since these two examples in particular are known to wipe out reproduction systems without manifesting symptoms, you might want to get tested just to be on the safe side.

Some medications/drugs can affect sperm production, too. Certain antibiotics can temporarily hamper your production of sperm. Anabolic steroid use has been proven to cause testicular shrinkage and lead to infertility, as well.

Injury to the testes can cause problems, too. Remember the bitch who kicked you in the balls in the 5th grade? Even if you don't, your balls might! There could have been damage done to any part of the complicated male parts down there!

Environmental factors can be wreaking havoc on you, like excessive stress, working out too often and too hard (the production of higher levels of adrenal steroid hormones, can lower the amount of testosterone in your body), tight underwear or pants, hot tubs, saunas, well...anything that raises the temperature of your scrotum, (including things easily overlooked like a hot work place, driving in a hot vehicle a lot, sitting in front of too many computers kicking out heat...) can lower your production of that white gold you so desire.

Start with this list of possible hazards, fix the ones you can and see if that helps. Also, save up your spunk for a day or so before trying to impregnate her. By holding off on sex for a few days before she ovulates, when the timing is right your load will have a higher concentration of little swimmers. Your body can only make so much so fast, so don't shoot a load when she isn't ready to conceive!

Good luck!

[December 4, 2008] -

Try jacking yourself off in a way that feels like a pussy wrapping itself around your cock. To do this,lie on your side and grasp your cock in your hand. Go with a full fisted grip, but make sure you grab your penis from the left and not from the right, as per the usual grip or a right-handed man. Then you twist your wrist in such a way that the thumb is pointing down instead of up. You might have to pull the penis to the side in order to achieve the correct grip, but don’t worry about it because the position is perfectly natural. Flip over onto your stomach on your bed. Pump away!

Want to feel like the vagina never ends? Stroke the usual way, you know...a fistful of cock...as soon as the head of your dick pokes through one fist, put your other hand to good use! Creating a long tunnel of substitute pussy, stroke like there's no tomorrow! Try twisting your hand in a spiral motion while thrusting...

Want something a little different? Palm your cock. Slap some of your favorite lube onto your palm and rub the head of your cock back and forth over the slippery surface. You'll enjoy different sensations than the usual stroking.

Applying ice or pressure to your balls just as you orgasm is said to be extremely pleasurable, as well.

[October 23, 2008] -

Actually, you can give the appearance of larger balls through a surgery that is in early stages of being perfected. You cannot run out there and stand in line to get it performed right now. It is still being studied and only performed on certain people. How does the surgery work? A surgeon inserts a small amount of fat to your scrotum to make it appear bigger. The scrotum is, of course, your ball sack. Your ball sack stretches to accommodate your balls and tightens and loosens when you ejaculate.

If smaller than average balls make you self-conscious in the locker room or the bedroom, this procedure (once more readily available) might be for you! It is still being perfected, but ask your physician about it the next time you are in their office. Since there is not yet enough information concerning the long-term effects of this, they are limiting this procedure to men who are not interested in becoming parents, because there is no conclusive proof that this surgery does not stop or lower a man’s sperm count. There is also the concern that adding another layer of fat to the scrotum may hinder the ability to find testicular cancer in some men. Additional studies will shed more light on this as an option for a greater number of men. Like I said, as your physician!

[October 14, 2008] -

Hi Robin...could you provide me with more details? What type of surgery did you have? Was the procedure performed on your penis or was it performed elsewhere affecting your circulation? How long ago did you have surgery? What was the estimated recovery time your doctor told you to expect? Have any new medications been prescribed to you since the operation that could be inhibiting your erection?

The more information you give me, the better equipped I will be to research this for you!

Look forward to hearing back from you, R!

[October 2, 2008] -

There is something incredibly provocative about seeing a new lover undressed for the first time! Anticipation sends adrenaline coursing through your veins, whipping your hormones into a frenzy and sending your pulse off the charts...there is little that can top the passion of unconquered sexual territory. The newness of it all, paired with fear of rejection can be jarring. So, while the awkwardness of the moment may feel overwhelming and you're scrambling for anything to say or do to break the tension, giving your penis a silly name, playing ventriloquist with your cock-puppet or showing off a trick you've "taught your cock" might backfire on you. True...humor can break the ice, but once you've made your dick something to laugh at or about it can be difficult to regain that erotically charged atmosphere conducive to good shagging.

There is no formulaic penis presentation plan for me to set out before you. I actually did research this and, aside from mating and/or courtship customs practiced by remote tribes, was unable to find any guidelines pertaining to this matter. Here is the best advice I can give, and it comes only from my own experience: Don't over-practice for the moment; spontaneity is part of the thrill of sex and no one wants to feel as though they're watching the same performance dozens before have already seen.

[August 26, 2008] -

Hats off to your girlfriend! About time she remembered your dynamic duo! I am a big fan of licking and sucking balls and have been frustrated when male talent has that on his "No list" when shooting. (A "No list" is merely the things a performer does not enjoy and requests not to have those things done during a scene.)

Why did it feel so good? A warm, moist mouth caressing your balls completely...an enthusiastic tongue feeling vaguely like wet velvet sweeping across your scrotum, licking places you've never had licked before....Sorry, hun! I have no clue WHY it felt so good to you! ;)

[August 16, 2008] -

Hi Darren! I guess it really just depends on WHERE they are unloading their man-gravy! If I am taking the blast on my tits, my ass or (one of my favorite under-used places) the soles of my feet; I prefer a slower oozing of spunk. If I am planning on swallowing that yummy protein shake, or if I am just going to wear it on my face; I prefer a faster, more intense blast. These are, of course, just my personal preferences and they vary from person to person!

[July 14, 2008] -

Yup! Far above average! Curious to see how you measure up? Click here

[June 15, 2008] -

By "make the best of this", John, I am going to assume "this" = the size of your penis. First of all, do not believe everything you see in porn or read in chatrooms! Not everyone else is walking around slinging a 13" trouser snake. The average dick is about 5 1/2 - 5 3/4 inches. If everyone in a chatroom claiming to have a 13" wang did, then there would have to be an equal number of 1" schlongs out there. I sincerely doubt that is the case.

Ok, barring penis pumps, herbal supplements and surgery...I would suggest really taking advantage of certain sexual positions. Keep the shapes of the bodies involved in mind. For example: I have a big, round ass. A shorter cock fucking me anally in doggy style? It'll never reach my hole and neither of us will ever reach orgasm! While reverse cowgirl would be an excellent choice for a smaller dick, a position like pile driver would be next to impossible. If doggy is your thing, and you want to get in there as deep as you can...have your partner arch her back, forcing her butt higher in the air, so that you can penetrate her vagina more easily and more completely.

The Kayla Tip o' the Day? Experiment, experiment, experiment!

[June 9, 2008] -

Hi Max. I am going to answer out of order here...Yes, I have had an issue or two with discomfort when dealing with a cock that bends one direction or the other. Generally speaking, it has happened when either he or I moved unexpectedly.

As for a position most likely to help her reach orgasm, try reverse cowgirl. In this sexual position, the female mounts the male, but facing his feet instead of his face. The reason I think this would be the best option for you and your girlfriend is simple: with a cock that curves down, reverse cowgirl increases the likelihood of hitting her g-spot.

Example of reverse cowgirl:

[May 6, 2008] -

While guys in porn are held up as the ideal when it comes to penis size, ideal as they may be, they are not average! That is part of the reason they are in porn. These genital giants are not the norm...The average penis size is actually between 5.5 to 6.4 inches in erect length and 4.7 to 5.2 inches in girth. Ask a typical woman what size cock she likes and you'll get as many answers as you have typical women! Keep in mind here, the g-spot you're aiming to stimulate is only two inches up on the inside upper wall of the vagina; having a monster cock is not a factor on that! Learning to use what you've got will far out-shadow any size concerns you may or may not have. By experimenting with various positions, listening to your lover (both verbal language and body language) and stimulating her erogenous zones will accomplish far more than seeking out the ONE woman who quoted your penis size as her ideal! Some gals crave long, girthy cocks; some crave shorter, yet fatter ones; still others want slender yet long....there are so many combinations and something desirable about each, few of us ladies limit ourselves to just one type! The human body is amazing, it can accommodate almost any size penis! ;)

[May 1, 2008] -

Hi Adrian! I must say, your letter brought a smile to my face! While female talent worries about their breasts, you guys are always about the cock! LOL

Okay, here we go! 7 1/2 to 8 inches is perfectly fine for our industry. While there are male performers with longer schlongs, there are plenty with shorter ones as well. While size is one attribute for a stunt cock, its ability to perform is far more important! A 13" cock that can't stay hard is not really an asset, if you know what I mean! Some female performers have size limitations on what they will work with, as well. Some chicks are size queens, others are not. *shrug* Just the way it is. I did research penis pumps for another reader (click HERE for that article). At this point, the only herbal supplements I have researched are for breasts, that article is HERE. There are also surgical options for lengthening cocks. I have worked with a performer who chose that option...it was somewhat...jarring...for me. Think: Frankencock. In your case, I would not mess with perfection! I tend to perfer 7-9 inch shafts, personally. You are plenty big enough for this biz!

[March 28, 2008] -

Hi Brendon! There are a few "tricks of the trade" that may help you here! I suggest stroking one out before the actual sex starts. We all know that the second orgasm takes a guy longer to reach than the first. Once fucking, thinking of something less than sexually enticing (I've heard anything from baseball to car repairs to Margaret Thatcher in a bikini) can help hold back the tide so to speak. Another trick used on set? Change the tempo of the thrusting or change positions/switch to having your cock sucked! Hope these suggestions help!

BTW, clearing the air and letting her know your concern might help alleviate some of the mental pressure and make things easier on you as well!

[March 13, 2008] -

Hi Joe...have you tried just asking her why she is so hesitant to suck cock? It may be as simple as a past bad experience! I realize that you say you are fine without the oral gratification, so I will move on to the actual questions!

I did find a fairly comprehensive list (along with photos) of sexual positions here. As far as my favorite positions, I must admit to being a creature of habit when it comes to non-film sex! I tend to enjoy missionary, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, doggy and a bit of pile-driver when at home. Out of that list, the two I would assume to be least likely used by non-film folk are reverse cowgirl and pile-driver. Pile-driver can be a bit tricky; it requires not only the proper setting but for both parties to be paying apt attention to prevent injury!

[February 14, 2008] -

You're going to need a few supplies gathered up before you get started. Grab some scissors/hair cutting shears; shaving gel (not the foamy stuff you use on your face, get some either formulated for sensitive skin or for women to use on their legs); a brand new razor. Do yourself a favor and don't go for speed by trying to use an electric razor. They have a tendency to allow hair follicles to wrap around their moving parts effectively ripping the individual hairs out by the roots. OUCH!

First things first, trim the bushy parts with the scissors/shears. This will make it easier to shave without clogging up the razor as quickly. Next, you need to wash your package and surrounding area with warm water. Lather up with the shaving gel. Gently pull your cock down and shave the patch directly above it. Next, tug one side then the other to shave the edges. Shaving your genital area is a lot like shaving your face, you want to work against the direction the hair grows; strokes should be down to up (this will give you the closest shave). Now for the scary part! Shaving the actual scrotum! You need to pull your skin on your sack taunt to minimize the chance of nicking yourself. With gentle light strokes, work your way down your ball sack until you have groomed it all. I strongly suggest you not attempt this if your are in a hurry or distracted! Now that you are fuzz-free, you need to rinse off again to avoid itching. I recommend patting dry with a clean towel rather than rubbing dry. There are several lotions on the market (Bikini Zone, for example) made for freshly shaved skin, but a regular hand & body lotion will suffice. Lotion or baby powder the newly bald flesh for extra softness. Now, go stare at yourself in the mirror...you know you wanna! ;)

Oh, before I forget! Tight briefs or tight pants...NOT your friend immediately following a shave. That is begging for ingrown hairs! Let the area breathe a bit in loose boxers or shorts.

[February 8, 2008] -

To be honest, the color of the cock means little to me. It has little bearing on whether or not I enjoy it. I am all about the technique, the guy and the attitude! There are two genres of inter-racial scenes. The first is the somewhat degradation-based niche (the white woman is belittled, referred to as a whore, cunt, etc), the second is based on black men loving curvy women. That is the type of scene I love to shoot! I have curves. Period. I want to work with a man who appreciates them, admires them...not one who tolerates them! I am not sure if it is merely a cultural thing or what, but men of color tend to like thick butts and big tits separated by a small waist. It is just a perfect type of scene for me to book based on my body type.

As for the cut or uncut debate: personally, I prefer cut. Even while flacid, a cut cock looks more appealing to me. That doesn't mean I do not like an uncut penis! An uncircumcised cock is better than no cock at all! I have noticed, though, that if I have an anal scene booked with someone who isn't cut and they are well-endowed, the foreskin acts as almost a buffer for my anus. Friction from the cock sliding in and out is minimized making it easier to handle a girthy dick.

[February 4, 2008] -

Thank you Marrky! I am delighted to hear that I don't look like a cookie-cutter stereotype! To be honest, I have actually never liked my legs. LOL I have always felt lucky that, out of my entire nuclear family, I am the only one with blue eyes.

As far as working with younger actors, I usually really enjoy it. I tend to be more excited about the younger male performers and less so about working with younger females. Why, you ask? I tend to feel desirable when a younger guy is fucking me but like Chester-the-Molester when working with younger gals...especially if the gal is relatively new to the industry! There is something slightly uncomfortable for me when I get booked for a girl/girl scene with a chick who is basically "Gay for Pay" (not actually in to girls. I have been known to jokingly say (when referring to female talent), "I refuse to fuck a girl younger than things I have aborted!"

There *have* been a few way younger females that stand out in my memory for both good reasons and bad. Coincidentally, two of my all time faves have similar names: Kat and Kitty. I first worked with Kat in 2006 in Older Women and Younger Women #7. Jim Powers was in awe at the end of our scene excitedly saying to me, "Damned Kayla! You were totally in to that! You shot that straight through! We shot longer than we had planned, it was great!" Kitty, on the other hand, I just worked with last week. She was a total cutie and way hot! Again, we shot pretty much straight thru and (even tho it was a softer/no penetration shoot) I had a blast! I'll work with her again!

Last but not least...the cum question! IF the guy doesn't smoke, I prefer to swallow it rather than waste it. Most of the time, however, that decision is made by the production company/director and not by me. Some scenes are set up to be a "swallow", some to be cum facials, still others to have the pop on the tits or the ass...just depends on the film & its niche/genre. It has been my experience that men aim their load about as well as they aim their pissing in the toilet...to put it bluntly, they have little control over what lands where! I have had the famed 30 minute pink eye from spunk in there more than once! Other times, I have had to go diving to catch the creamy goodness with my face. LOL Oh well, all's well that lands well! ;)

Thanks for reading and for the awesome question!

[December 19, 2007] -

Thanks for writing again! Actually, Johnny Thrust is a lotof fun to work with and one of my faves! His package is perfectly proportional to the rest of his body; not small at all. My opinion is simple: Size means little, skill means everything! Working with Johnny guarantees me a fun, energetic shoot.

[November 19, 2007] - Nope. At least, not by this measure. Now, if *all* of the women in the dvd make you queasy while your boyfriend is pumping his long, hard cock in and out of your asshole while you are focusing on only the cock in the porno...you MIGHT be gay....*giggle*

[October 30, 2007] - Personally, I prefer to start sucking cock on a slightly flaccid cock, rather than a completely hard, rigid one. Good lubrication is essential to an awesome blow job and with a slightly soft cock it is easier to fit all of it in my mouth for the initial swab or two. I like to use my own spit (rather than a commercial blow job lube), so getting as much as I can down my throat in the beginning helps ensure I will be able to get as much as I can down my throat later on! *giggle* Besides, feeling a cock jump, swell and grow inside your mouth... as a result of your talents... is a rewarding feeling!

[October 11, 2007] - While a diet concentrated on certain foods will affect the flavor of a guys juice, it does not actually dictate it. For one thing, everything consumed or imbibed plays a part in making of the final product. Want to nudge your fuck-toy in to making decisions that will minimize the bitter/acrid spunk that we all hate (think:Bitter Beer Face!)? For starters, start living a good, clean life (well, as much as possible in our fast-food society). Smoking (tobacco AND/OR pot), makes for a sour load. Booze can make for caustic cum. Staying hydrated, no... not soda pop... WATER... helps, too. The healthier you are living, the healthier your semen will taste. Foods to avoid? Asparagus, garlic, onions and such... need I even mention the obvious here? If it makes your piss reek, I guarantee it will play a part in seasoning the load! Anything high in alkaline content (fish, red meat, some vegetables... for a more comprehensive list of high alkaline foods, try HERE) make for an harsh tasting mouthful or goo! YUCK! While you cannot refine the taste of your semen to one particular flavor, you can help it be the best it can be!

[October 7, 2007] - Hi Charlie, you were not terribly specific in your question, so I *hope* I cover what you would like to know! Over the years, the great boxer vs. briefs debate has been argued passionately by proponents of both sides. Dr. Kellie Flood-Shaffer, an associate professor and program director for the obstetrics and gynecology department at the Texas Tech Health Sciences Center, said in the case of general health, a man's underwear choice does not matter. "Boxers and briefs are no different, if a man is healthy. If he isn't, there are certain choices that are better," she said.* If general health is the issue, then the type of hammock you sling your banana in makes no difference. Now, if you are concerned about sperm count, then that is a whole different ball game! The reason your balls are on the outside is simple: they need to be 2-3 degrees cooler than your core temperature. Boxers let the boys dangle in the breeze, helping keep them cooler and therefore, you more fertile. Hot tubs, saunas and the like will lower your sperm count... temporarily. Keep in mind too, sperm take about 10 to 11 weeks to be produced. Deciding to slip into a pair of over-sized boxers for a romantic evening of "knocking her up" just won't cut it! So much for spontaneity, huh? Oh, not to state the obvious but... wearing boxers under tight pants... not gonna help! If you are concerned about sperm count, go get tested before tossing out your underwear! Don't care about sperm count? Want to find some "middle ground"? Consider boxer-briefs. Think: Tighty-Whiteys with boxer legs. They're actually really fucking sexy, IMHO. *Quote obtained from DailyToreador.com

[September 25, 2007] - Hi Jerry! NOT everyone can deep throat, but here are a few tips to increase the chances! Position is paramount; get in a position where you can extend and straighten your neck by slightly tilting your head back (think: making the neck and chin form as straight of a line as possible). By creating that angle, you'll have an easier time swallowing the cock. I suggest the guy lay on his back, allowing the giver of the bj to control not only the angle but the speed of things. Plus, you can prop yourself up on your elbows. Make sure to lube the shaft of the cock up with saliva. Licking up and down the rod not only gets it ready to glide more easily down a throat, but acts as fellatio foreplay. Once you're set and the cock is lubed, slightly tilt your head back and stick out the tip of your tongue just past your bottom lip. "Flatten" your tongue, I know that sounds strange, let me explain. You know when you ask someone if your tonsils look red... and you have them look at the back of your throat? You flatten your tongue so they can get a better look... do like that, but without extending your tongue quite so far out of your mouth. Sticking your tongue out helps flatten the back of your tongue a bit, that's one of the reasons I suggest it. Open your throat like you would if you were yawning. (This helps create a larger passage for the cock to enter through.) Taking a deep breath, slowly slide the penis into your mouth. If you feel like you are going to gag, freeze for a second. Hold everything where it is for as long as you can, then back the cock out a bit. Keep doing this same step as many times as you can. By easing in to things and taking your time, you will start to be able to take more and more of the shaft in to your throat. Make sure your partner is patient. Tempting as it may be for him to "ram" his cock down your throat, he needs to let you control the speed. Deep throating needs to be fun for both of you! Best of luck!

[September 17, 2007] - Oh, it DOES! Interestingly enough, there *is* a difference on the arrangement of the girlie guts based on body type. The slender, almost boyish, straight up and down body type (characterized by slender hips, tiny booty and few curves) can usually accommodate those monster cocks. Why? Their cervix is typically 2-4 inches HIGHER than those of us curvier chicks. It is an evolution thing... the curvy body type is "more desirable" genetically, so the cervix is lower to increase the chance of pregnancy. Gee... thanks a LOT! I am a curvy non-breeder who happens to be taller than the typical porn starlet. In order to keep the scene from looking out of proportion, I get booked with some REALLY big cocks... my low-hanging cervix has taken a beating once or twice on set!

[September 15, 2007] - First off... GOOD GIRL! No sex is always better than unsafe sex! A female condom is a barrier method of birth control. It is basically a plastic pouch with rings on each end. It gets inserted into the vagina similarly to a diaphragm. Not to be Captain Obvious here, but the open end is the part you want sticking slightly outside the pussy, not the sealed end. It acts as a trash bag for your partners little soldiers. Make sure you have lube with you, you'll want it for inserting this ... thing. Lube up the outside of the condom, slide it in (think: inserting a tampon), leaving about an inch of it outside your pussy. When you put it in place, make sure you get it as far back as you can, as close to your cervix as possible. Your slit is now lined and ready to be fucked! Sorry, I am not a big fan of these. It seems like a lot more to have to carry around than a regular condom. Also, the cock can slip between the condom and the wall of your pussy, defeating the purpose of the female condom. Once it has sperm in it, you squeeze and twist the outer ring (to keep from spilling his spunk right in to your junk), pull it out, and throw it away. It is bulkier, it is more expensive and has a pretty crappy failure rate. How crappy? 21% on average... 5% with PERFECT usage...

[September 14, 2007] - In THAT scenario? It could happen. That is a rudimentary form of artificial insemination. I must wonder, though, if she saw the spunk on there... why did she insert it into her vagina?! Any time you play with cum, you play with the chance of pregnancy unless the woman is on birth control. Do I believe her scenario? Not likely. If it sounds untrue, it usually is.

[September 7, 2007] - To pump or NOT to pump, that is the question! I apologize, first of all, for taking so long to get to this one...not having a penis of my own, I had to do some research on the matter. Here is what I found:

Do penis pumps work? Yes... and no... they work, but only temporarily. The way these pumps works is fairly simple in theory. The pumps creates a vacuum which makes the flaccid penis fill with blood, look! Already, an increase in size! An erect cock is bigger than a limp one, after all! The effects are not permanent, though.

I looked all over the place and read way more than I ever thought I would about penis pumps, penis exercises, penis enhancement herbs, penis enhancement tablets and drugs. I thought we gals had it bad with our pussies! You have as many people trying to sell you stuff for your trouser snakes as we do for our clitty kitties! Basically, if the url I Googled sounded like it was trying to sell me something other than a penis pump, it bashed their usefulness, if it sold them then it sang their praises. I then turned my search to the medical sites (I am a faithful follower of WebMD). I only found ONE reference to any published medical reports on penis enlargement pumps. Now, this information was published in the British Journal of Urology International in 2006. They basically found volunteers with small penises to use penis pumps three times a week, for twenty minutes each session, over a period of six months. The study wasn't conducted using a sex shop style penis pump, it was a clinically tested vacuum erection device. At the end of the study there was an average increase of 0.3 centimeters, which is not statistically significant. But interestingly, even though this average increase is minor, 30% of the men who participated said they were satisfied with the "treatment". It made me wonder why these guys were so thrilled with the results. Maybe it was just the hour of attention they focused on their cocks every week? I dunno... Considering some of the risks cited by WebMD, I am amazed anyone would trust their little buddy to these things!

Wanna know why? Here ya go! An erection acquired with a penis pump can actually leave you bruised. This is usually painless and generally will go away in a few days. Your cock may be numb, yes NUMB, purplish and cold. (Oh, yummy!) Also, you may look forward to a possible decrease in the force of your ejaculation. Nothing painful or dangerous, but different. (Don't worry, it should still FEEL good!) If you would still like to try one out, here are a few to choose from.

Now, instead of stopping here, I went on to look into natural penis exercisers that can help increase your cockage. These come with small weights which help stretch and loosen the muscles surrounding the penis, allowing it to pull further from the body thus giving the illusion of length (in fact they are just letting what is there "come out" further). THESE results are permanent as long as you stick to the regiment they give you. Want more info on those? Try here.

Before you get TOO hyped up about various herbal supplements, (I am neither trying to persuade nor dissuade from these, just mentioning a little known fact), do some research before you just start popping pills... if it is labeled a "supplement", it did not have to meet FDA protocol. FDA guidelines and standards are only for food and drugs... NOT supplements! A little 'loop-hole' in need of plugging up, IMHO. If you are looking for a place to start with that type of research, try here... it has links to various herbs, supplements, etc.

You know what? Make a porn whore feel good and run any pills you are considering past your doctor first... or at least check into the various effects of the key ingredients and any known drug interactions!

[September 3, 2007] - Premature ejaculation can be caused by a number of things! The stresses of everyday life can wreak havoc on your sexual performance. Leave the job at the office, the traffic on the road and the finances in the checkbook. Clear your mind of any drama, stress and crap in general. Another thing to keep in mind, if you've already built up the anxiety about possibly popping too soon, you'll be more likely to do so. It is a sucker-trap. The more it happens, the more you'll be worried about it; the more you worry about it, the more likely it is to happen. Fun, huh? Here are a few options (barring seeking the advice of a medical doctor, I'm just a porn chick who has had a lot of cock *giggle*):

1. Try changing your rhythm if you feel like you are on the edge. Sometimes, just shifting your position or changing your timing can prevent cumming.
2. Try thinking of something NOT sexually appealing to try to ward off the happy ending (I have a friend who SWEARS by thinking of Margaret Thatcher in a string bikini).
3. Rub one out before you actually get to the fucking, then employing one or several of these suggestions.
4. Thicker condoms can reduce the feeling, therefore making you last a bit longer.
5. You can try what I call the "porn grip" (read more about that here).

If all these fail, consider getting a professional medical opinion, just to make sure everything is in good working condition.

[August 22, 2007] - HAHAHAHA! Too funny! If you knew the last guy I dated (and still fuck), you would NEVER have asked this question! *giggle* I have been a "ringer" in several "reverse gang bangs" (5 girls with strap-ons... one guy catching what we're throwing) and I have been told that I am a natural. LOL I am never quite sure how to take that comment, to be honest. I have also appeared in a few "Bi" movies... (a partial list of those can be found HERE) and have never sprung the strap-on on anyone as a surprise. It has always been a booked scene and I refuse to work with someone who is not in to whatever type of sex scene/play we are booked for... I am a diva that way. In some of the movies, the "catcher" is allowed to cum, in others he is not. I HAVE had quite a few of the performers in that genre call me afterwards asking to play again on-cam or off!

[August 21, 2007] - Actually, I have been ripped internally on-set three times... Once by Brooke Hunter with a sex toy (not her fault, I zigged when she zagged in an all-girl orgy scene), once by Don Hollywood (lube is ALWAYS our friend) and once anally by Blackzilla... I bucked back too quickly and got a LOT more than I had bargained for, to say the least! LOL I have never been unable to finish my scene because of any injuries and all have been minor. Luckily, the inside of the vagina is quick to heal! In case of a minor tear, Vaseline petroleum jelly actually helps speed up the mending! It soothes the inflammation and it keeps it moist, allowing the body to knit the meat back together so to speak!

[August 14, 2007] - Let's look at this from the outside... if you were dating someone for a few weeks, things got frisky... some heavy petty, some oral action and so on, THEN you found out there was a potential incurable disease in the mix. How would you feel? Betrayed? Angry? Scared? Probably. Yeah, telling before playing is ALWAYS my advice. As for HOW to tell: do not wait until clothes have hit the floor and the passion is flying! That just sends out a creepy vibe that one may possibly never get over. It is not necessarily "first date" material, but it is also not "we're already in the bedroom" stuff, either! It is something that needs to be approached delicately, but honestly. I would suggest having medical literature and/or pamphlets on hand to allay any fears would be to your advantage. Depending on the level of commitment already achieved, you might consider offering to make an informational appointment for you and your significant other with your medical provider. A chance for the three of you to sit down, voice concerns and get the facts together. By providing all of the data in an environment as low in stress and pressure possible, you are giving your potential partner the respect and tools needed for her to make an educated decision. Do remember a few things... 1) VALTREX is not a replacement for practicing safer sex. If you are taking VALTREX to reduce the risk of spreading herpes to your partner, there are a few important things you need to do: * Do not have sex when you get an outbreak or think you are about to get an outbreak. * Always use a condom when you have sex. * Take VALTREX every day as prescribed. (Further information can be found at Valtrex.com and 2). 99% safe may seem like wonderful odds, but no one wants to be that other 1% Good luck on this one and, truthfully, I admire your integrity!

[August 8, 2007] - My oh MY, I like the way you think! I have found that innuendo can work wonders! When I have it in mind to drive a man crazy all day long, I like to whisper something provacative in their ear... maybe something like, "Make no plans after work this evening... I have a surprise in store for you," while leaning in to them, pressing my breasts up against them and giving their hand a gentle squeeze. Throughout the day, an occasional text message filled with promises of events to come keep them guessing. Making sure your comments or erotic not explicit helps too, I have found. The allure of mystery with a hint of sexual banter stirs their... hopes. By giving them something to look forward to, along with periodic reminders of what is to come, WITHOUT specifically telling them WHAT they are I have planned let's them day-dream and fantasize all day. I love to tease them once they've returned home. A silky blouse with nothing beneath it... a skirt that is just a LITTLE too short paired with lace-topped stockings, a heady fragrance applied to your pulse-points (without over doing it! Perfume should not be able to be smelled from across the room, it is a private scent one should need to be merely inches away to enjoy), a lingering touch while talking to him, leaning forward when he speaks... little touches like that entice. Just make sure of One THING: NEVER start this and not finish! The ONLY thing crueler is starting a blow job and not finishing it.

[August 2, 2007] - I hear you on this one! TRUST me! If I had $1 for every time I was asked what I would do with some chatters 13" cock, I could buy my own private island and retire! Average size for a penis in the USA? 5 1/2-5 3/4 inches when erect. Yup! That was FIVE, not FIFTEEN inches. What does this mean? Either the anonymity of internet chatting has given guys the bravado to greatly exaggerate the size of their packages or there are a LOT of 1" dicks out there! Personally, I am putting my money on the first option! You're fine with what you've got...next time you read a bunch of guys claiming they have cocks that big, feel pity; they are either boasting without the right to do so or having trouble finding non-porn women willing to take on such beasts of meat!