Sex Tips, Tricks And Advice
Alfio, because inserting a hard cock into a virgin asshole can be...dauntingly difficult...doggy style lends itself to allowing the mounter to lose his balance. The last thing you need helping you along is gravity! To avoid that scenario, as well as thrusting too deeply in an effort to achieve penetration, I am against doggy style for the beginning position. I still stand by my earlier advice, "Use a slightly more viscous than usual lube with NO numbing agent (that stuff should be illegal, you can hurt yourself without realizing it) and let her slowly back on to your penis. Let her control the speed, depth and duration. This will not only let her move at her own pace, it will take the 'fear factor' she may harbor out of anal sex. Woman have been conditioned in our society to see anal sex as wrong or dirty. It has also been portrayed as a violent, even degrading, painful act. In all truth, the pain caused by anal sex (let me qualify this statement by adding: with a gentle, caring partner) is likened to the pain of losing vaginal virginity. As with vaginal sex, the pain lessens with each experience."
Manav, you are not alone my friend! On Feb 4, 2009 I had another person write in similarly concerned. Was he the first? Nopers! I answered more in-depth (with a photo demonstrating the ideal sexual position) on June 9, 2008.
Relax, read and go get laid! ;)
A while ago, I posted a step=by-step guide for anal newbies. By following the basic steps outlined there, you'll be more likely to have a positive experience. Be sure you do not try to insert something too large too fast. Try starting with a finger, then two followed by a small toy, medium toy and finally your bf's cock. Also, if there is any hesitancy, stop for a few and regroup. Because of the 'fear factor', most novices have a tendency to clinch their anus, you really want to be thinking wide open thoughts...think "Grand Canyon"! *giggle*
Lexx, I am glad you enjoyed the FleshLight! They're awesome male sex toys, one of the very best on the market. Does lasting a long time with the FleshLight mean you'll last a long time with your gf? Not necessarily! You controlled the movement of the toy, but your partner will be moving on her own! While it isn't a guarantee, it is encouraging! Good luck!
Anja, I got the same results you did, it appears! The closest reference to an actual position I found was in this blog, the entry had ONE reply to it dated Jan 12, 2009. I am beginning to suspect it will turn out to be something similar to the infamous (and fictitious) "Venus Butterfly" technique the was a topic of conversation courtesy of the television show "LA Law". On the show "Community", another fake sexual position was referenced by Senor Chang...If a position called "the cookie monster" exists, porn has yet to discover it!
Maybe they were implying that their fuckmate was "crumby"? Ok, ok...bad pun even for ME!
For the first time, I have been stumped!
See what you young kids missed out on? Those of us born in the 70's remember the water bed expression, "It isn't the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean!" *giggle*
With the size of the average penis far smaller than the typical online chatroom user claims to be sporting, it comes as no surprise to me that more and more men are fixated on the endowments. Twenty years ago, no one would have dreamed there would be a "male enhancement" pill commercial on television, much less hundreds of them! Now, I am not saying that men worrying about size is a new phenomenon, what I *am* saying is it has become more prevalent a topic than ever before. Just because there a booming male enhancement pill industry, there is no proof that we really need there to be one! Look at who the ads are targeted to; men. Men are buying the products, men are worrying about their penis size, men are amusing a lot of us women with this! I am not saying we don't like a nice cock, I am saying given the choice between a large one with limited skills and a smaller one with incredible talents, we will chose the smaller more skilled dick. One thing I have found in lovers with smaller cocks (I am not saying SMALL cocks, I am saying smaller than the national average of 6 inches), is they have made certain to educate themselves on techniques, the arts of seduction and arousal to "compensate" for being less endowed. What have I found with men with larger cocks? Typically (and maybe it is just my experience...and the experiences of the 7 gal pals I called to get their opinions on this question), the bigger the cock, the less effort put in to technique. Size alone won't carry you, guys! Four inches is not the smallest functioning cock on record... 2 1/2 inches is...if you want to compare yourself to someone in the locker room to make you feel small...compare yourself to that chap and feel like a giant! You're almost twice as big as he is! He managed to find someone who loved, married and had kids with him! Ok, I don't know that last part for a fact...but, a woman is going to love YOU not just your cock. You will find a woman who loves you for who you are, not what you think you are missing. She will love your cock and how you use it. You will be the best lover she ever had. Relax, go practice new techniques and start building your skill sets!
Hi Eugene, this doesn't make you weird at all...it makes you human and adventurous! My first response to your question was to give *my* opinion (that it's a natural thing to do, notice guys LOVE it when a woman tastes her juices? Why should it be different for guys?), but instead I decided to look around the mighty world wide web...check this out...somebody posted the same question on IsItNormal.com. With 43 responses, an overwhelming number of people thought it normal...85%. When you have plenty of time, read the topix thread...this post was started in 2007 and is STILL actively getting replies; again the majority of which are supportive of the act. I see nothing wrong with "self-sampling". There is an entire community of "snow ballers"; those fetishists devoted to cumming in in their partners mouth then sharing a kiss, as well as that hot load, immediately afterwards. Do a few searches, you'll find that you are not alone, matter of fact, you're part of the majority!
Relax, eat up and enjoy!
Ok! I am going to answer way out of order, so I apologize ahead of time! I have never bleached my bum, BUT I did some research and it appears that BleachBum is the favorite product out there! It got better ratings for ease, cost, effectiveness and fragrance.
"I just moved in with my boyfriend and he is a freak." LUCKY!
To be honest, there is not TOO much you can do to ward off the aromas of a full day running ragged at work. To keep you vaggie as fresh smelling as possible, despite a 10-12 hour day, I suggest keeping the jungle brush trimmed. The longer haired vag's tend to get sweatier and therefore smellier. Also, using moist wipes after urinating will help. Keep in mind, as you're freaking about natural scents, that may be the very thing that turns your man on and gets his motor humming! Your @ss, same basic story. There is no magic secret to beating the human condition and coming home smelling shower fresh...unless you stop at the gym and take a shower on your way home! Basic hygiene and careful wiping after using the toilet are about all I can suggest. Porn tricks and tips do not lend themselves well to real life. When we prepare for anal scenes, we know in advance we are going to be shooting anal, we fast and rinse our rectums out several times before we shoot. As soon as we are done, we are famished and cannot wait to get some food in us. Luckily, we can usually be in out, fucked and done in under 4 hours...not at work for a full day, trying to starve ourselves just in case the mood for butt loving strikes once we get home. I would honestly ask him if he is one who prefers the earthy aroma of natural body or if he is put off by them and wants you to smell like baby wipes. You might be worrying about getting rid of the thing he likes best!
Do you, by chance, remember the name of the film? Was she in a little swimming pool? If that is the film you're thinking about, then...she had a bit of a rough time that day, but I ADORED her!
Hi Dane, yeppers...you caught me! I am a BIG time lover of dick sucking! There is something about being 100% responsible for another persons orgasm that makes me feel powerful. I relish the fact I was able to coax that hot load from balls to tip to mouth with the sheer power of my mouth and hands! Also, it shows the person whose cock you're feasting on, "This is all about you right now. I want to do something for you, shower my attention on only you and I want you to do nothing but enjoy it."
Whether or not I want a load in my mouth depends on a few variables...if the guy smokes, I am not as eager to taste his spunk. Why? Because everything you put in your body via ingestion, imbibing or smoking comes back OUT of your body in the forms or waste, sweat, secretions...yes, that INCLUDES your semen! Smoking, drinking alcohol, diet, drug usage (licit and illicit), general health, vitamins....everything contributes to the tastiness of you! (See She Will Not Swallow for a smoothie recipe I GUARANTEE will help make your load tastier.)
I went through a phase (well, technically I go through it every once in a while), where I loved getting banged doggy style only to have the guy pull out and cum on the soles of my feet. It was an easy target, all he had to do was pull out, let me put my feet closer together and point his cock down a bit to douse my tootsies. There is something sensual about the warm, velvety feeling of hot jizz landing on the delicate (often over-looked) soles of your feet. I just like it...now I am realizing I have not done that in MONTHS and might have to go wake up the bf...
Having performed in so many scenes, and having always had a very sexually charged personal life, I have probably had cum on every inch of my body at one time or another. My favorite places? Soles of my feet (duh), face, mouth, b00bs and ass! My Least favorite? In my eyes (bruises the eye and causes temporary pink eye), my hair, up my nose (don't laugh, it happens and snorting spunk stings) and my upper back! When it comes to cum, taste is not the only determining swallow-factor...temperature plays a MAJOR part! If it isn't fresh from the tap, I am NOT drinking it! Cold, congealed cum is disgusting! It's like dick snot at that point. *shudder*
Titty-fucking, you say...sometimes I am in to it, other times it is too much lubed up, slippery tit to try to control! The longer the cock, the easier it is to get titty-fucked by it. Since I am a 32DDD, a shorter cock gets, well, lost in between my hooters and I have to constantly adjust my grip on my slippery globes to feel anything from the dick. Yes, I know pet...that was not the sensual answer you were looking for, I went IRL on ya!
Todd, you are a victim of the media, hunny bunny! Your penis is actually nearly twice the size of the average man. Not the average 16 yr old, but the average full-grown man. The penis sizes are broken down here: answering David V's question. So, as far as the SIZE goes, your girlfriend won't think it's small but she might be a little intimidated by the size of your fuckstick! Good luck getting her to be able to keep a brave face when she sees that trouser snake! I know experienced porn stars who are a touch fearful when booked for scenes with cocks the size of yours!
Onto the masturbation question...skim thru this for a little info...then read this one...between the two columns, you should be able to get an idea of how to speed things up, so to speak!
Todd, please do not take this the wrong way, but if you're unsure if you're ready for sex...then you're probably not. It doesn't mean you're less of a man or that you're "weird"...it means it isn't the right time in your life yet. If you decide, however, to plunge in to the fucking game, do me a favor? Realize that you have a WEAPON between your legs and learn how to use your cock as a tool for pleasure and not just ram your partners tender spots like you had a baseball bat between your legs! There have been COUNTLESS times I've been with a guy with a larger-than-average cock and he thought size was the same as skill. It isn't, just because it's big doesn't mean it's always good. A man with a huge cock and no skill = a bruised cervix!
In summation: it is not always a matter of stuffing as much meat in a pussy as you can cram in there...the vagina DOES have a limit to what it can do!
Some lotions, Joe, can get gummy feeling when used as a masturbatory agent. Others can allow friction to build up...and not in a pleasant way. Instead of using a regular hand lotion or moisturizer, I recommend either buying lubricants specifically made for genital contact OR cocoa butter. Commercial lubes come in many viscosities and formulations. Silicon-based lubes are some of the most popular types, as they do not weaken condoms. (Like water-based lubes, they're safe to use with condoms and other latex products, but they last longer.) Another advantage? The silicone-based lubes can actually be used IN water (think: kinky hot tub action). One major disadvantage to these marvels of modern science: you have to use soap and water to get the lube off your hands, your cock, your partner, etc. Water-based lubes are just as condom-safe, but they can get sticky, don't last anywhere near as long and are easily washed away (say good bye to the hot tub sex). H2O lubes can, however, be wiped off after sexing the good old bachelor way! You know, grab the t-shirt you had just been wearing and wipe your Johnson, roll over and go to bed! I am going to VERY briefly touch on oil-based lubes, just to round out the three major categories. Oil-based lubes (Vaseline, no-name petroleum jelly or lotion) are not recommended for sex because they tend to break down latex. They can lead to infections by leaving a coating on the vagina, rectum and penis. Males masturbating can use oil-based lubes as a way to avoid chafing or to try something new. Here's the thing though, should you buy any of these oil-based slickers, make SURE you do not accidentally grab it in place of a water or silicone based mood when sexing someone else! A failed condom is as valuable as an absent one...it'll offer no protection. I suggest you try either the silicone-based lube (KY Intrigue, ForPlay, Wet, ID and Kama Sutra are all examples of silicone-based lube brands), which can be found in this dvd/novelty online shop or cocoa butter. Then reason I like cocoa butter (BESIDES the fact that the best brand is actually called Palmer's and a masturbation aid distributed by a company named Palmer's cracks me up for some unknown reason) is simple: it's viscous, it's natural and it can be used in a vagina without hurting it! It's what I call a "lick and stick"...you can lick it without getting sick and you can stick it on your girl without her pussy getting sick!
I see nothing wrong with this. Sex is fun, kink is divine!
I have often brought another girl home and licked her while she was being fucked and have been licked while being pounded. Mmmmm...takes me back! I wonder what Rucca is doing....
You are in the
perfect
position (forgive the pun) for reverse-cowgirl! With her back to you, your love need merely sit on your lap, lean forward slightly and bounce! Make sure you put on your brakes first! Should your chair have enough space between the backing and the arms, cowgirl would be worth a try as well.I cannot help but recall part of a movie YEARS back with a guy in a wheelchair getting banged by a chick with incredible upper-body strength. She was basically doing pull-ups while straddling him. Oddly enough, it isn't that particular scene that stayed with me; it was the creepy as fuck spider monkey! LOL
Ahhh...there's nothing better than a clean anus! Trick of the trade? Bikini-area Nair! Do a spot test first though, make sure you are not allergic to it!
I am all for the retraining! Most likely, you've gotten used to penis-stroking without pulling the foreskin, your gf's vagina is pulling it back (thank GAWD for friction!) and that is a different sensation than you are used to feeling. Try stroking one out while pulling your foreskin back to emulate the vaginal fucking feeling...practice, practice, practice! because you CAN ejaculate, I am not convinced this is a medical condition requiring a professional. Have your gf participate in the barrage of hand jobs! Including her will help ease her frustration!
Mike...there are a few tricks to prevent ejaculation: stroke one out before fucking...it's always more difficult to pop the second time; change your rhythm when you get close to cumming, it'll help more than you think it will; think UN-sexy thoughts when you feel a climax building (may I suggest Margaret Thatcher in a string bikini) to help prolong things; also, doubling up on the condoms will help dull sensitivity!
Hope these tips help!
Nair! I love the raspberry-scented formula!
Roger, there ARE penis-extending sex toys, though I am not sure how well they work...a few can be found here. If you take a gander thru the Penis Stuff section here on AskKayla, you'll find other tips and tricks. BTW, chances are your girlfriend isn't as concerned with the size of your fuckstick as much as you are!
Congrats on being willing to take on the challenge! Ok...stretching your cunt with your fingers...not so much a good idea! I would actually use sex toys (more even distribution of pressure)...start with a moderate size one and work your way up in size, little by little, using plenty of lube. You want to do this right before sex with your new beau. Make sure your guy goes slowly at the beginning of each encounter and stops the moment it becomes too uncomfortable. Your body will learn to take that big cock! Make sure you do kegel exercises to keep the muscles tight and there should be no permanent stretching!
Have fun!
Dane, where I want the hot load varies with my mood, what position I am in when the dude is ready to blow and which part of me he is fucking at the time. I did go through a phase for a while where I liked the final position to be doggy only to have him pull out, me put my feet together quickly so the hot load coated the soles of my feet. It feels *really* good! If the sex partner d'jour is a smoker, I tend not to swallow as I am not a smoker and tobacco tends to make semen taste bitter. There *is* a recipe HERE for improving the taste of your cream-stream.
Hi Matt, try jerkin off before you see her. By releasing the semen filling your testicles, you'll reduce your bodies immediate inventory of liquid soldiers; forcing your body to manufacture more and buying you some stall time.
My only other suggestions suck: try a numbing agent (like anal ease) to limit the sensation and *hopefully* prolong things enough for you to actually get in the party before throwing your 'confetti'...yeah, I know...numbing your cock defeats the purpose of fucking; try not to think about sex so much, diminish the importance and 'trick your brain' into letting you get further...again, YES I know how retarded it is for me to tell an 18yr male virgin to not think about sex! I warned you that both my other options were lame!
Actually, an uncircumcised penis is awesome for anal. I can think of several adult film actresses who feel the same way. The foreskin helps reduce friction, cushions the occasional rough thrust and reduces the amount of lube needed.
To be honest, I've never minded the "turtle-neck wearing snake", as long as he's clean. I doubt I am alone in that respect!
Darren...I have no idea what you mean by: "How do I get to know a woman during orgasm?" As for the rest:
While there are many places to spray your spunk on your partner, there really isn't a broad range of WAYS to do it...pretty much, aim, relax and shoot! You can sling your cock from side to side if you want to cover a larger area, I suppose, but my experience and research turned up no special way to get cum from tab a to slot b. As for creampie technique: keep cock in, cum, mission completed. If, however, you are planning to video/photograph the creampie, I recommend pulling your rod halfway out of the hole (be it an anus or vagina) before squirting your semen, that will deposit it closer to the opening making it easier for the camera to see.
Hi James, you get an "A" in my book for adventurous spirit! Do I think a girl would like it? That depends on the girl! I would feel her out (pun intended) on how she feels towards anal play. If she seems comfortable with butt-bumping, I would bring it up as openly, honestly and candidly to her as you did to me. If the first gal says no, move on to the next!
As for me being over 30 but not looking it...THANK YOU! I am closing in rapidly on 40...born in 1970...some of us old gals can still throw down! *smirk*
Yep! As long as you know how to use it, you're fine. The average man cares more about penis size than the average woman does.
Heya, Stud! There are several tricks male performers use to keep from popping too soon. Some guys make sure the scene is not their first load of the day by either stroking one out before the scene or fucking someone else before arriving on set...others change their tempo when they feel a climax building...I have also heard stories about mental diversions (one of my favorites is "envisioning Margaret Thatcher in a thong bikini)...don't under-estimate the beauty of editing, either; you do not see all of the stops and starts!
Start by gently kissing her breasts, slowly working your way towards the areolas. Your kisses should be firm, slow and deliberate. With your hands, slowly and lightly squeeze her breasts together alternately kissing one then the other. Let the heat of your breath caress her nipples.
Ever so lightly, flick the tip of your tongue over her rigid nips. Work your way from flicking your tongue over her nipples to slowly, methodically sucking them, one at a time. If her nipples are not hard yet, suck and release, suck and release. The contrast between the two sensations should perk them right up! Now you're ready ton add light nibbling to the routine. Sucking and nibbling at the same time, use your breath, too! Heat the skin up by blowing or give her a chilly blast by inhaling while her moist nipple is just outside of your mouth. The unattended breast feeling jealous? Use your fingers to pinch gently and tug the nipple not being swathed with your tongue!
Oh! Don't forget...slowly build up the tempo, no need to rush!
Wow! Lots to answer here, let me see what I can do...
First of all, I have never had any complaints (from males OR females) on how I rim an ass. That being said, I am going to assume that equates to enjoyment. While I do sometimes enjoy being dominant, there are times when I am more in the submissive mood...I tend to be VERY dominant over other women and dominant over most men, but once in a while I find a man who is so strong, that I can barely muster a cross word! I cannot think of any video in which I am being fucked, especially with the man in a dominant position such as on top, and I am demanding to have my feet worshipped. There are some fetishes that work well when mixed with hardcore sex acts, but FemDom is not really one of them. FemDom is more about teasing and denying, not gratifying then demanding.
Men and nipples...such a wild-card! While some men are open to enjoying the stimulation of a warm, wet tongue lapping at their nipples, others seem all but afraid to try it at all! I enjoy teasing and nibbling lightly on nipples, be they manly ones or girlie ones!
Now, the tattoo question! Which foot, huh? Well, there are lots of variables here! If it is a large tattoo, I suggest the non-dominant foot...so, if she is right-handed, then the left foot. I say this only because a larger tattoo will be tender longer and can make walking difficult. If it is a smaller one, then on the dominant tootsie. Although, the Latin word for "left" is sinestra, from which we get sinister...so, if it is a naughty tattoo, it almost HAS to go on the left foot! *giggle*
Your best bet here is to do some stretching exercises. The best method I've managed to find for you involves pulling your foreskin forward, away from your body, while your cock is flacid. Now, insert a finger or two inside the foreskin gently but firmly pull out, at right angles to your penis, almost as though you were holding open a plastic baggy.
Hold that "stretch" for up to five minutes. Repeat this exercise two or three times a day, until your foreskin will retract during erection. Now, because this stretching exercise is promoting new skin cells to grow, it is going to take weeks...possibly even months for the foreskin to be stretched enough to do what you are wanting it to do! Oh! Fair warning, your glans WILL be super sensitive since it is experiencing direct stimulation for the first time. It'll get with the program soon though!
Romantic talk vs. dirty talk; the age-old battle continues! When it comes to romantic dialogue, adjectives are your best friend! Rely on the five senses to guide you. Whatever you see, smell, hear, taste and touch need be communicated with adjectives galore! Want to really impress your woman? Spend a few moments on Thesaurus.com and find alternate words for things such as soft, silky, sweet, etc. Fight the urge to say things like, "I want to wreck that tight pussy!" Not romantic, if you know what I mean. Want to convey a similar thought? Tell her you'd like to "nudge your way in to her, feeling her moist lips part and make way for your cock...accommodating your girth, but only so...her tender warmth wrapping around your cock..." well, you get the idea! Good luck on this and (once you've perfected it) start teaching courses! Too few men utilize romantic bedroom talk, IMHO.
Concerned about sexing a new partner for the first time? Don't want to break your bank renting enough porn films to pick up the tips and tricks? No problem! Here are some basic tips and tricks to help you...ummm...go the distance! First of all, shake one out before your date. It generally takes longer to ejaculate the second time around. Make her work for it. ;)
Men take less time from moment of penetration to orgasm than women do, in order to prolong the physical act change your pace occasionally. If you feel as though you are about to shoot your load, change the rhythm and/or pace of your thrusts. You can also trick your body by distracting your mind; a good friend of mine told me he thought of Margaret Thatcher naked to keep from popping.
Should you feel as though you need more practice, I am sure your ex won't mind helping you out there! Have fun!
There is something incredibly provocative about seeing a new lover undressed for the first time! Anticipation sends adrenaline coursing through your veins, whipping your hormones into a frenzy and sending your pulse off the charts...there is little that can top the passion of unconquered sexual territory. The newness of it all, paired with fear of rejection can be jarring. So, while the awkwardness of the moment may feel overwhelming and you're scrambling for anything to say or do to break the tension, giving your penis a silly name, playing ventriloquist with your cock-puppet or showing off a trick you've "taught your cock" might backfire on you. True...humor can break the ice, but once you've made your dick something to laugh at or about it can be difficult to regain that erotically charged atmosphere conducive to good shagging.
There is no formulaic penis presentation plan for me to set out before you. I actually did research this and, aside from mating and/or courtship customs practiced by remote tribes, was unable to find any guidelines pertaining to this matter. Here is the best advice I can give, and it comes only from my own experience: Don't over-practice for the moment; spontaneity is part of the thrill of sex and no one wants to feel as though they're watching the same performance dozens before have already seen.
Rim jobs...they aren't just in basketball anymore! Yes, Brad, I have licked an ass or two in my day...both on film and off. I shot Lady Ass Lickers" with Brooke Hunter and "Toss My Salad #6" with Rod Fontana, just to name the first few that come to my mind...
Hats off to your girlfriend! About time she remembered your dynamic duo! I am a big fan of licking and sucking balls and have been frustrated when male talent has that on his "No list" when shooting. (A "No list" is merely the things a performer does not enjoy and requests not to have those things done during a scene.)
Why did it feel so good? A warm, moist mouth caressing your balls completely...an enthusiastic tongue feeling vaguely like wet velvet sweeping across your scrotum, licking places you've never had licked before....Sorry, hun! I have no clue WHY it felt so good to you! ;)
Ok, this is not really a question, but it made me laugh (like literally LOL), so I just have to address it!
First off, that has happened to me (and others, I can guarantee) on set before...we jokingly refer to that as a "Three Pump Chump". A few years ago, there was one director in particular who tended to book me with "unknown" male talent; by unknown, I mean it was his first or second scene. I finally asked him why he kept doing that to me (it makes for a much longer day AND a higher chance of a tanker of a scene for me) and he finally said, "Kayla, you can lead the scene without it being obvious on film." Great. "Punishment" for a job well done! *giggle*
As a result, I have actually looked in to ways to help a guy stall the inevitable. First off...try shaking one out a bit before the actual sexing. Takes you longer to cum the second time around! Another trick? If you feel yourself bubbling over too quickly, think of something ultra non-sexy. An ex-boyfriend of mine told me his standard delay thought was Margaret Thatcher in a thong bikini. Remember the PC muscle I mentioned when discussing kegels? Well, for you guys, your PC muscle is located between your anus and scrotum, it's the one you contract when you try to stop peeing suddenly. Exercise that muscle a little bit every day or two. How? Clench it then release it in ten-second periods. Do that three times, then take a break. Then do this clench-and-release technique for five seconds. Perform ten sets of this. Now, try tightening the muscle for 30 seconds and relaxing for 30 seconds. Do three sets of that. This is an exercise so easy to do, you don't even have to join a gym! You can do it anytime, anywhere, no one will know you are doing it but you. Now, when you are faced with becoming a Three Pump Chump, keeping your cock in whichever hole it is in, stop pumping away...clench and release your PC muscle, you should be good to go again! Ok, you might have to clench and release a few times. On the bright side, it sort of makes your hard cock jump a little and it feels great inside a chick (at least, this chick) when you guys do it so we don't generally mind the 3 second pause in the banging!
Oh! Before you hang your head(s) in shame: biologically speaking, men generally take (barring any self-control/effort on their part) 2-3 minutes from time of penetration to orgasm. Women? 12-14 minutes. Who says God doesn't have a sense of humor?
Hope this helps!
By "make the best of this", John, I am going to assume "this" = the size of your penis. First of all, do not believe everything you see in porn or read in chatrooms! Not everyone else is walking around slinging a 13" trouser snake. The average dick is about 5 1/2 - 5 3/4 inches. If everyone in a chatroom claiming to have a 13" wang did, then there would have to be an equal number of 1" schlongs out there. I sincerely doubt that is the case.
Ok, barring penis pumps, herbal supplements and surgery...I would suggest really taking advantage of certain sexual positions. Keep the shapes of the bodies involved in mind. For example: I have a big, round ass. A shorter cock fucking me anally in doggy style? It'll never reach my hole and neither of us will ever reach orgasm! While reverse cowgirl would be an excellent choice for a smaller dick, a position like pile driver would be next to impossible. If doggy is your thing, and you want to get in there as deep as you can...have your partner arch her back, forcing her butt higher in the air, so that you can penetrate her vagina more easily and more completely.
The Kayla Tip o' the Day? Experiment, experiment, experiment!
Hi Max. I am going to answer out of order here...Yes, I have had an issue or two with discomfort when dealing with a cock that bends one direction or the other. Generally speaking, it has happened when either he or I moved unexpectedly.
As for a position most likely to help her reach orgasm, try reverse cowgirl. In this sexual position, the female mounts the male, but facing his feet instead of his face. The reason I think this would be the best option for you and your girlfriend is simple: with a cock that curves down, reverse cowgirl increases the likelihood of hitting her g-spot.
Example of reverse cowgirl:
Interesting Adam...very interesting! I am wondering if maybe you just prefer the extra stimulation provided by her gripping fingers...you just might be a hand-job kind of guy! I know a few blow-job kind of guys...they love to fuck, but need the sucking action to mentally and physically get themselves to orgasm. There is nothing wrong with knowing what you like, hun!
Is this a new situation for you? Is this the first sex partner you have had this issue with? If so, experiment with different positions. It may just be that you need to find the perfect spot for your cock! If it is not a new thing, and you have always been more into the grip than the slip just tell your girlfriend. If you let her think it is "her", then the sexual situation will never get better for the two of you. Feeling inferior doesn't tend to make a woman feel hot.
Hi Gerald. Most of of porn gals try not to work on our heaviest flow days. When working on a light day, we moisten a sea sponge and insert it in to our vagina and push it up as far as we can. Etiquette dictates that you inform anyone you are working with before you start the scene!
It is safe, barring blood-born diseases such as HIV, to fuck while bleeding. It can be messy...but as long as you test clean for STD's, it is safe to do. I would suggest putting down a dark sheet or towel first. Also, let gravity work for you not against you and let the gal stay on the bottom! It will help lessen the mess that way.
A standard "Pile Driver" position is basically when the receiver of the cock lies on their shoulders (usually on the floor, since beds and other furniture can have too much give, making this position too unstable), and the giver of the cock stands above them and inserts, fucking away! Here's a look at how it goes!
Hi Brendon! There are a few "tricks of the trade" that may help you here! I suggest stroking one out before the actual sex starts. We all know that the second orgasm takes a guy longer to reach than the first. Once fucking, thinking of something less than sexually enticing (I've heard anything from baseball to car repairs to Margaret Thatcher in a bikini) can help hold back the tide so to speak. Another trick used on set? Change the tempo of the thrusting or change positions/switch to having your cock sucked! Hope these suggestions help!
BTW, clearing the air and letting her know your concern might help alleviate some of the mental pressure and make things easier on you as well!
The term "cream pie" refers to an internal pop. Put simply, allowing the ejaculate to be deposited inside the vagina. Since "pie" is slang for pussy and the gooey goodness resembles cream...
Hi Joe...have you tried just asking her why she is so hesitant to suck cock? It may be as simple as a past bad experience! I realize that you say you are fine without the oral gratification, so I will move on to the actual questions!
I did find a fairly comprehensive list (along with photos) of sexual positions here. As far as my favorite positions, I must admit to being a creature of habit when it comes to non-film sex! I tend to enjoy missionary, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, doggy and a bit of pile-driver when at home. Out of that list, the two I would assume to be least likely used by non-film folk are reverse cowgirl and pile-driver. Pile-driver can be a bit tricky; it requires not only the proper setting but for both parties to be paying apt attention to prevent injury!
Ahhh...the comic geek has been asked a super-hero question finally! There are actualyl two super-hero slangs out there these days: SuperMan-ing and Spider-Man-ing...to SuperMan a gal, a guy shoots his hot, sticky load on her back (doggy-style lends itself perfectly to this) then, before she falls asleep, presses the sheet against her spunk-covered back before the jizz dries. The result? When the chicka wakes up, the dried cum acts as an adhesive and the sheet has stuck to her like a cape; hence the term "SuperMan-ing".
To Spider-Man a girl, one needs to merely pull out of her before shooting his spunk, shoot it into his hand then throw it at her as Spidey does when slinging his web. Get it? *giggle*
Which is more popular? I don't know...yet another chapter in the DC vs. Marvel battle!
I actually learned a bit about kegels that I did not know while researching your question! First of all, I have been mispronouncing it all these years! LOL I have been saying kI-gul, with a long I sound and soft u in the second syllable. It is actually pronounced KAY-gill, long A and soft I at the end. Oooops? It is so named after Dr. Arnold Kegel who developed the exercise in 1948 as a method of controlling incontinence in women after childbirth. It tones up and strengthens the pubococcygeus muscle (commonly referred to as the PC muscle), which supports the urethra, bladder, uterus, vagina and rectum in women. Another fact I did not know until digging in to this question, men have a PC muscle and can benefit from kegels as well! In men, this muscle supports the urethra, bladder, penis, and rectum. Involved in both orgasm and ejaculation, strengthening the PC muscle can not only lead to a more fulfilling sex life but can actually help combat impotence and urinary problems. Sounds win-win to me!
Not sure how to find your PC muscle? You know when you really gotta pee, but your clenching so you don't? THAT is the PC muscle you are using when you do that! Next time you're taking a tinkle, try clenching (technically flexing) that muscle to stop your urine mid-flow. That is the basic kegel! (Just to make sure no one is confused here, you are not supposed to do kegels while pissing...just helping you locate the right muscle.)
The entire exercise is basically flexing that muscle, holding it anywhere from 5-10 seconds then releasing it for a second or two and repeating the process. For quickest results (we are a "Fast Food Nation" as Eric Schlosser so poignantly proves in his novel by the same title... subtle hint to read that book...), faithfully do your kegel routine daily. Since it is such a discreet exercise, it can be done just about anywhere at just about any time. Consistency and repetition are key here.
One last note, you should not be tightening your abs or back or thighs doing these. Just your PC muscle. Well, you might feel your asshole clench, too...happens. This is not something that going overkill the first day or two will help speed up the results on, so don't do that. Kegels are not that difficult, you are not power-lifting here...don't hold your breath, don't "feel the burn"... just flex the PC muscle! You should start feeling results in your sex life in about 3-4 weeks if you were vigilant about doing the exercises daily.
Low tolerance for the heat? Instead of applying the melted wax directly to your lovers skin, dip your finger in it (I suggest a quick dip, followed by blowing on it to 'coat' your finger, then going back for more wax) and use your finger as an 'applicator'. Since it is generally the texture of hot wax that provides the pleasure, this delivers the result without the fear of burning your partner. Think you can handle it a bit hotter?
There are several candles on the market that are specifically made for adult play. I recommend Earthly Body, I have used their products and SWEAR by them! They have a lower melting point, so the risk of hurting/getting hurt is minimized, plus they are made of oils and extracts that are good for the skin. If this particular brand is too much of an "oil" than a wax for your taste, there are others on the market that do not melt down quite as much. Here is the thing with pouring wax versus finger-painting with it: aim well! Don't hit ultra-sensitive parts by accident! That can really ruin your date! Still want to turn up the heat?
To get an even hotter result, pour the wax from a shorter height. The wax will cool less traveling through 3 inches of air than through 6... trust me! Be careful, though, and for God sake use common sense! Don't pour wax into any opening (ears, nostrils, pussies, assholes, mouths, etc.)! Have erotic memories, not an ER bill to remember the experience by!
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