Sexuality Tips And Advice
Jason, enjoy your youth...hit me back up in a few years, hun!
Sometimes the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak! Sounds like he was a combination of over-stimulated and tired! If it becomes a pattern, lmk. If it is just an isolated event, brush it off and forget about it. If you make it an issue, it will become an issue...guys are sensitive about their little buddies...threaten not the cock!
Tom, probably because it is (or, was) "taboo" by the standards of our society. Girl-on-girl action was not something in which "good girls" participated. What better to get your motor humming than watching something you should not see?
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While there is such thing as a "sex coach", I don't think a legit coach gets as...involved...as you are hoping! The most common type of sex coach is a Tantric sex coach. ( Tantric sex is defined HERE as follows: The word Tantra means "to manifest, to expand, to show and to weave." In this context, sex is thought to expand consciousness and to weave together the polarities of male (represented by the Hindu god, Shiva), and female (embodied by the Hindu goddess, Shakti), into a harmonious whole.
- Finding a Tantric sex coach:
- To find a coach in your area, start checking with yoga studios, periodicles, online ads (although I LOATHE CraigsList) or the Almighty Google. Oh! Go old-school and find the Yellow Pages (does anyone use them anymore?)...
- If you find a few coaches that seem interesting to you, set up a time when you can meet with them and discuss their teaching methods. You should be actively interviewing these people! It is crucial that you find someone you feel you can trust; whose personality meshes well with yours and your S.O.'s (Significant Other's). If you don't like/trust your coach, you'll learn little to nothing from them and will have wasted your time and money. Meet up on neutral ground...StarBucks, CrapDonald's, a local park. You can interview via the phone, but I tend to prefer being able to look someone in the eye when considering employing them.
- Comparison shop, too! Ask what the coach charges, what that includes and how many sessions you should expect to need to attend. Even if you like the first person you speak to, you really should interview at least two more. By getting multiple quotes, you will be better able to assess the going rate on classes/sessions.
- Most sex coaches offer group classes. (Calm down, it isn't QUITE what you're thinking!) Go to one. Evenn if you're wanting private lessons, go to one group class. It'll show you how the prospective coach communicates with students.
- Once you've made an offer to a coach, and it has been accepted, be a good student! Show up on time (whether group classes or private ones) and do your "homework"!
Having one testicle (whether it is missing completely or just hasn't migrated down and dropped) is called ‘undescended testicle’. Even without the undescended testicle pulling it's weight, you prolly shouldn't be too worried about making babies. Your other normal testicle is apt to be producing millions and millions of sperm. Have a one-night stand with a chick you despise, you're almost guaranteed to knock her up and be stuck with her! *giggle* Seriously, though; the decision to reproduce shouldn't be made lightly. Without knowing the nature of your handicap, it is impossible for me to predict the outcome of breeding (odds of a healthy child, ease of conception, etc). That's something you need to discuss with your medical provider.
As for the second part of your submission; the desire to become a woman or to be with a woman perplexes your folks? There's a HUGE difference between the two! I fail to see how having singular testes makes you any less of a man. It is what it is, it is the way you were made! I did, however find an article explaining the how's, why's and what-to-do's regarding undescended testicles...give it a read!
Good luck, hun!
Talk about walking a barbed-wire tightrope! To be honest, there is not a definitive answer...since what one man finds mild, another finds wild, it is just too subjective.
One hint: keeping your clothes off in public is more slutty than sexy!
A while ago, I posted a step=by-step guide for anal newbies. By following the basic steps outlined there, you'll be more likely to have a positive experience. Be sure you do not try to insert something too large too fast. Try starting with a finger, then two followed by a small toy, medium toy and finally your bf's cock. Also, if there is any hesitancy, stop for a few and regroup. Because of the 'fear factor', most novices have a tendency to clinch their anus, you really want to be thinking wide open thoughts...think "Grand Canyon"! *giggle*
Hi J...when it comes to licking the chocolate starfish, there really isn't a gender that tastes sweeter than the other; hygiene is hygiene. When it comes to size vs duration...you're way off the mark! NEITHER is as important as skill! An attentive lover with a smaller penis is far more appreciated that one with a clumsilly yielded flesh-baseball bat!
Mahesh...why fight that urge? Explore it!
Thank you, Kristinah! Sounds like your boy toy is tres' lucky to have you! I have, matter of fact, played with several other women with my man. We share your passion for the apple-bottom girls (being one myself, how could I resist)! I own several double-headed jelly dongs that are made to be shared by a woman on each end. My current favorite one is cherry red and well loved! For a little added excitement, the girls get blindfolds and the boy gets a bowl of ice cubes and the liberty to trace over any hot flesh he so desires! The "not knowing" combined with the sudden icy chill on your hot, sweaty bodies will help build your passion to volcanic proportions! Another really fun addition to this particular game...vibrating eggs is your moist pussy and double-dong in your tight assholes! MMmmmmmm!
Oh! I almost forgot! YES, I have a secret kink! ;)
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Hello Jenny! I take it my strong personality reveals itself rather well on film, huh? *giggle* The ability to dominate another has nothing to do with relative age, or with the physical build of either party. The seemingly simple dynamics between Dom and sub is far more complicated than it appears. It is a common misconception that submissives are weak or frail. Many subs hold positions of power and authority and find being submissive is an escape from the normal pressures of being in charge. Even if only for the length of a single session, the Dom and sub have entered into a relationship, and one built on trust. Being a Dom is more than just being a bossy, demanding bitch. A sub is, after all, still a human being! Because the amount of control exerted over the sub is agreed upon beforehand and consensual, there is less of a power struggle and more of a power exchange. As far as being demanding in bed...I hear ya, sister! I have always wondered why women would fake an orgasm! By rewarding that negative behavior and fooling the man into thinking that rocked your world, you're all but guaranteeing he'll never be able to get you off!
Me a police officer? Hmmmm....I *do* have military training....
w00t! YAY Tom! I am so happy for you! I am *so* glad I helped you along!
Hi Eugene, this doesn't make you weird at all...it makes you human and adventurous! My first response to your question was to give *my* opinion (that it's a natural thing to do, notice guys LOVE it when a woman tastes her juices? Why should it be different for guys?), but instead I decided to look around the mighty world wide web...check this out...somebody posted the same question on IsItNormal.com. With 43 responses, an overwhelming number of people thought it normal...85%. When you have plenty of time, read the topix thread...this post was started in 2007 and is STILL actively getting replies; again the majority of which are supportive of the act. I see nothing wrong with "self-sampling". There is an entire community of "snow ballers"; those fetishists devoted to cumming in in their partners mouth then sharing a kiss, as well as that hot load, immediately afterwards. Do a few searches, you'll find that you are not alone, matter of fact, you're part of the majority!
Relax, eat up and enjoy!
Hi Dane, yeppers...you caught me! I am a BIG time lover of dick sucking! There is something about being 100% responsible for another persons orgasm that makes me feel powerful. I relish the fact I was able to coax that hot load from balls to tip to mouth with the sheer power of my mouth and hands! Also, it shows the person whose cock you're feasting on, "This is all about you right now. I want to do something for you, shower my attention on only you and I want you to do nothing but enjoy it."
Whether or not I want a load in my mouth depends on a few variables...if the guy smokes, I am not as eager to taste his spunk. Why? Because everything you put in your body via ingestion, imbibing or smoking comes back OUT of your body in the forms or waste, sweat, secretions...yes, that INCLUDES your semen! Smoking, drinking alcohol, diet, drug usage (licit and illicit), general health, vitamins....everything contributes to the tastiness of you! (See She Will Not Swallow for a smoothie recipe I GUARANTEE will help make your load tastier.)
I went through a phase (well, technically I go through it every once in a while), where I loved getting banged doggy style only to have the guy pull out and cum on the soles of my feet. It was an easy target, all he had to do was pull out, let me put my feet closer together and point his cock down a bit to douse my tootsies. There is something sensual about the warm, velvety feeling of hot jizz landing on the delicate (often over-looked) soles of your feet. I just like it...now I am realizing I have not done that in MONTHS and might have to go wake up the bf...
Having performed in so many scenes, and having always had a very sexually charged personal life, I have probably had cum on every inch of my body at one time or another. My favorite places? Soles of my feet (duh), face, mouth, b00bs and ass! My Least favorite? In my eyes (bruises the eye and causes temporary pink eye), my hair, up my nose (don't laugh, it happens and snorting spunk stings) and my upper back! When it comes to cum, taste is not the only determining swallow-factor...temperature plays a MAJOR part! If it isn't fresh from the tap, I am NOT drinking it! Cold, congealed cum is disgusting! It's like dick snot at that point. *shudder*
Titty-fucking, you say...sometimes I am in to it, other times it is too much lubed up, slippery tit to try to control! The longer the cock, the easier it is to get titty-fucked by it. Since I am a 32DDD, a shorter cock gets, well, lost in between my hooters and I have to constantly adjust my grip on my slippery globes to feel anything from the dick. Yes, I know pet...that was not the sensual answer you were looking for, I went IRL on ya!
Todd, you are a victim of the media, hunny bunny! Your penis is actually nearly twice the size of the average man. Not the average 16 yr old, but the average full-grown man. The penis sizes are broken down here: answering David V's question. So, as far as the SIZE goes, your girlfriend won't think it's small but she might be a little intimidated by the size of your fuckstick! Good luck getting her to be able to keep a brave face when she sees that trouser snake! I know experienced porn stars who are a touch fearful when booked for scenes with cocks the size of yours!
Onto the masturbation question...skim thru this for a little info...then read this one...between the two columns, you should be able to get an idea of how to speed things up, so to speak!
Todd, please do not take this the wrong way, but if you're unsure if you're ready for sex...then you're probably not. It doesn't mean you're less of a man or that you're "weird"...it means it isn't the right time in your life yet. If you decide, however, to plunge in to the fucking game, do me a favor? Realize that you have a WEAPON between your legs and learn how to use your cock as a tool for pleasure and not just ram your partners tender spots like you had a baseball bat between your legs! There have been COUNTLESS times I've been with a guy with a larger-than-average cock and he thought size was the same as skill. It isn't, just because it's big doesn't mean it's always good. A man with a huge cock and no skill = a bruised cervix!
In summation: it is not always a matter of stuffing as much meat in a pussy as you can cram in there...the vagina DOES have a limit to what it can do!
I see nothing wrong with this. Sex is fun, kink is divine!
I have often brought another girl home and licked her while she was being fucked and have been licked while being pounded. Mmmmm...takes me back! I wonder what Rucca is doing....
Sounds to me like she's got issues! Until she comes to terms with her sexuality and sex, it just ain't going to happen! Honey, is she cannot get herself off, you're not going to be able to either!
If she's enjoying the intimacy, I wouldn't sweat it TOO hard...I would, however, suggest she figures out why she's holding herself back. Damn our society for pressuring girls to NOT experiment sexually!
Hi Mohammad! Let me TRY to do this in order! *giggle* I have a very dominant personality, which expresses itself in almost every aspect of my life. The man I am dating now, however, has a personality MUCH stronger than my own. He is in charge here! Normally, I tend to steam-roll those I am in a relationship with without realizing it. I tend to be aggressive sexually, too. As for age playing a role in dominating...it really doesn't. A sub is a sub, no matter how old or how young they are. It matters not how old they are, just how...pliable! I have never been to the UK. My former bodyguard is from the UK, however, and we have been discussing going there together one day. I do not, though, make films with fans...unless they happen to be other porn performers who happen to enjoy my scenes! LOL
You CAN email me a script idea for a custom film. Just email me at: Kayla@KaylaQuinn.com
They would have to pay me VERY well...not because I do not like women or squirting...but because I am not generally dominated by a woman, much less by several of them at once!
You are more than welcome to contact JM Productions and inform them of your desire to see me covered in girl nectar...
Nope, just curious!
Nicole, I have not made such a film! It sounds intriguing! Might I suggest that you contact TushyCash through this link and bounce the idea off of them. You never know, your hubby and yourself might just become stars on one of your favorite sites!
Heya Tom, glad my movies are helping you through some long, hard nights! The age of whom you choose to lose your cherry to doesn't strike me as important...there are well-versed "whores" of all ages, so if you're thinking age=experience, then you've not seen the typical American teenager lately! ;)
Hi Christopher...Asking what kind of sex women like from men is like asking what women like to eat: it varies from woman to woman. Some gals like to be made love to, others like to be ravaged. Most like a bit of everything just in varying degrees. Cop out of an answer, huh? *giggle*
PBE (play by ear), see what gets you the best reactions and follow that path!
First off, try running the threesome by your wife...she might surprise you! I suggest vaguely alluding to one, not directly asking her to jump in to one, to gauge her reaction before throwing all of your cards out on the table. If she gives you that "glare of death". drop it like a bad habit! If she expresses interest, proceed with caution...there might be a hook in the bait...DO NOT, under any circumstance, suggest another female by name! Let your wife start naming galpals of hers should you get that far. No sense in loading the ammunition for future arguments for her!
So, she's given you the "No-Way,No-Day" answer and you wanna know where to go from there? Strip clubs: very costly with low success percentage ratio. Internet: possibility; clear your cache/history often or risk getting busted by the wife. Brothels: you get what you pay for, guaranteed success. Turning to friends: suicide, it WILL get back to your wife! No one can hold gossip this juicy.
Just something for you to consider...should you go the internet route...do NOT bring anyone to your home. Once you let someone know where you live, the best "getting caught" scenario is that they accidentally leave something behind...your new play-partner might decide to show up unannounced one day...
Hun, you and your S.O. (Significant Other) need to sit down and have a chat. Unless you tell him what does and does not trip your trigger, he is unlikely to stumble across (much less remember) the correct sequence of events! It's unfair of you to expect him to be sexually psychic.
The fact that you were able to achieve orgasm at 12 (although, I am not 100% sure that was an actual orgasm based on your youth, inexperience and stimuli mentioned, but....) yet are unable to do so now concerns me. Was there a traumatic event, either physically or emotionally, around that time? Was the "orgasm" you experienced the only one or were there more that stopped at the same point in your life?
First off, I think it important to verify that you've ruled out physical hindrances to the ability to climax. A physical exam is first on the list of recommendations. Should that reveal no issues, explore your ability to trust your partner(s). Good sex is difficult to share in a bad relationship! Some introspective searching won't help either. You would be amazed at how subconscious perceptions/ideas about sex and sexuality can creep up and tank a perfectly good orgasm!
Might be time for you to experiment a little bit...step outside your bedroom routines...Have you tried pairing penetration with clitoral stimulation...Either via fingers or a vibrating cock ring? Various positions been explored? Honestly, I am a firm believer in: If you cannot get yourself off, do not expect others to be able to do so either!
Invest in a sex toy or two and get to know your body! Your vagina, clitoris and labias...both major AND minor!
Once you know what it takes to rock your world, it'll be easier to coach someone else to victory!
The idea of "turning someone gay" is a fallacy, cannot happen. You're either straight, gay or bisexual (well, according to most schools of thought...personally, I believe that everyone is bi-sexual, just some way more so than others).
I will say this: I am a great "starter-lesbian"...my masculine personality offers the feeling of safety, security and protection while my body/gender comforts since there is no "scary penis" swinging around ready to pounce.
Hi James, you get an "A" in my book for adventurous spirit! Do I think a girl would like it? That depends on the girl! I would feel her out (pun intended) on how she feels towards anal play. If she seems comfortable with butt-bumping, I would bring it up as openly, honestly and candidly to her as you did to me. If the first gal says no, move on to the next!
As for me being over 30 but not looking it...THANK YOU! I am closing in rapidly on 40...born in 1970...some of us old gals can still throw down! *smirk*
Being the former military, control freak, sadistic fuck that I am, I *love* tease & denial! LOL I get some sort of warped satisfaction out of it...almost as much fun as ruined orgasm! I am terribly in to all sorts of fetishes...but don't worry, not all of them are mean to boys! ;)
Hello Derek...quick question: Have you ever been reaching for something on a shelf that is just barely too high? As you frantically try to grab whatever it is you want, you actually end up pushing it further from your grasp? Girls can be the same way. Especially if they feel you are on a quest to pop your cherry. I suggest you relax, realize that the boasting and bragging your friends are probably doing is just that: BOASTS! You're not falling behind or going to be a social outcast because you haven't banged a babe. Don't push for the pussy, once a chick is on the defense, you can all but hear her pussy slamming shut! Go out a few times, flirt but walk the barbed-wire tightrope of not seeming too overly interested in fucking her...it'll make her insecure and more likely to throw herself at you in order to prove to herself that she is still hot.
GAWD, I know I am going to get a ton of email from chicks pissed off at me over this one! LOL
You gals need to sit down and have a talk! Is it that oral has never been pleasurable for her, or is this a recent change in the dynamic? Have other areas of your relationship soured, affecting your physical connection? Is it only your oral technique she isn't grooving on? Way lots to discuss, m'darling!
Hello Aryan! Thanks for the compliments! I shot those for Mistress Taylor, she's always fun to work with! The lift and carry fetish has become more and more popular and I am convinced that it's partially due to Mistress Taylor's influence. I myself have never shot a L&C which included actual sex...but I am sure someone out there has!
Fantasizing about being treated like an infant is also a fairly common fetish. A partial list of interesting pursuits can be found HERE...I encourage people to add to this list!
Wow! Lots to answer here, let me see what I can do...
First of all, I have never had any complaints (from males OR females) on how I rim an ass. That being said, I am going to assume that equates to enjoyment. While I do sometimes enjoy being dominant, there are times when I am more in the submissive mood...I tend to be VERY dominant over other women and dominant over most men, but once in a while I find a man who is so strong, that I can barely muster a cross word! I cannot think of any video in which I am being fucked, especially with the man in a dominant position such as on top, and I am demanding to have my feet worshipped. There are some fetishes that work well when mixed with hardcore sex acts, but FemDom is not really one of them. FemDom is more about teasing and denying, not gratifying then demanding.
Men and nipples...such a wild-card! While some men are open to enjoying the stimulation of a warm, wet tongue lapping at their nipples, others seem all but afraid to try it at all! I enjoy teasing and nibbling lightly on nipples, be they manly ones or girlie ones!
Now, the tattoo question! Which foot, huh? Well, there are lots of variables here! If it is a large tattoo, I suggest the non-dominant foot...so, if she is right-handed, then the left foot. I say this only because a larger tattoo will be tender longer and can make walking difficult. If it is a smaller one, then on the dominant tootsie. Although, the Latin word for "left" is sinestra, from which we get sinister...so, if it is a naughty tattoo, it almost HAS to go on the left foot! *giggle*
Foreplay is define as everything that comes before actual penetrating intercourse. Foreplay is a critical and crucial part of the whole lovemaking experience. A couple needs foreplay to spice up their sex life, get fully aroused and heighten pleasure.
Occasionally, men need prolonged foreplay to get an erection. Revving up the motor of a guy isn't the most difficult of tasks...touch the cock and you are halfway home! For those women, however, who want to tantalize their men into submission...here are a few tips:
Most women need foreplay to get...well, wet enough for comfortable penetration. Where as men are visual, women tend to be more audio-driven. What you say will have a big effect here. Tell her how much you've been thinking about her, how your whole day has been filled with longing to touch her, how you could barely contain yourself from grabbing and throwing her down on the dinner table and plowing away! Okay, not the best examples but you get my point! With women, the vagina is the last stop on the foreplay train. Try massages to work her in to the mood. By keeping your touch provocative but not overtly sexual, the anticipation will drive her wild! Slowly edge closer to her errogenous zones when you massage, you will be rewarded with soft moans and gasps. Being attentive to your lover will pay off, I promise!
I think you have this advice column confused with Penthouse Forums.
Thank you, Will! I love reading kudos and accolades like this! *giggle*
As for your question, I am a big supporter of open communication between partners. Secrets of a sexual nature (whether about past partners, experiences or orientation) can sow feelings of distrust in a relationship, so get them out in the open as soon as possible. By being the one to tell your current girlfriend of your sexual orientation, you control where she hears it, how she hears it and when she hears it. Something of this magnitude does require a bit of planning, it needs to be handled delicately. Not only do you need to tell her you are bisexual, you need to tell her of any impact this will have on your partnership. Are you looking to bring another man in to the bedroom? Either for fun or as a third in this romance? Are you bisexual yet monogamous? Are you striving for a level of intimacy that requires there to be no secrets? Since you are unsure of her reaction, I do suggest you have this conversation sooner rather than later. Not to be an ass, but...eventually she will find a magazine you've hidden from her and instead of talking about your sexuality, you'll be defending your sneakiness.
Your sexuality is a MAJOR component of who you are. Give her the opportunity to get to know all of you, not just bits and pieces. If she loves you, then she loves all you are comprised of, in total.
Do women find bisexual men arousing? Some do, some do not. The woman who is right for you, will. I know, I sound cliche, but it is true. Sexual allure is not metered out by gender, persuasion, race, or any other broad category...it is metered out individually.
There is something incredibly provocative about seeing a new lover undressed for the first time! Anticipation sends adrenaline coursing through your veins, whipping your hormones into a frenzy and sending your pulse off the charts...there is little that can top the passion of unconquered sexual territory. The newness of it all, paired with fear of rejection can be jarring. So, while the awkwardness of the moment may feel overwhelming and you're scrambling for anything to say or do to break the tension, giving your penis a silly name, playing ventriloquist with your cock-puppet or showing off a trick you've "taught your cock" might backfire on you. True...humor can break the ice, but once you've made your dick something to laugh at or about it can be difficult to regain that erotically charged atmosphere conducive to good shagging.
There is no formulaic penis presentation plan for me to set out before you. I actually did research this and, aside from mating and/or courtship customs practiced by remote tribes, was unable to find any guidelines pertaining to this matter. Here is the best advice I can give, and it comes only from my own experience: Don't over-practice for the moment; spontaneity is part of the thrill of sex and no one wants to feel as though they're watching the same performance dozens before have already seen.
Hi Darren! I always enjoy hearing from you! I'm glad you are a fan!
As far as orgasms go...I am, pretty much, a hair-trigger! I cum fairly easily, I must admit! I have not really found a way to influence the type of orgasm I have (I will eventually get around to researching the possibility of doing so, I am sure). So, I am just happy to have them at all! *giggle* I admit, there are times when I am enraptured by my long orgasms and times when I am pleasantly shocked by multiple ones! Hey, as long as I have not run a race without managing to cross the finishing line, I am stoked! I have become quite the female squirter and pussy gusher lately, so that not only satisfies me greatly, it also wears me out and ensures a great nights sleep!
I am not really a big fan of labels when it comes to sexuality. Do I think you are bi-sexual if you play with a dildo? No. Do I think you are "straight" because you only fuck women? Not at all. Sexuality goes beyond the physical, my dear! You most likely just discovered the pleasure receptors around your anus have been neglected and you're probably wondering why it took you so long to acknowledge them! ;)
That depends on a lot of factors, ranging from choosing the right plastic surgeon to following after-procedure instructions to over-all general health before the surgery! Let's go back and address some of the major causes for decreased sensitivity.
First and foremost: Research your plastic surgeon WELL. Most have a consultation fee, ranging anywhere between $100 to $500. Obviously your geographical area influences this to some degree. With each doctor charging a consultation fee of $250, I still managed to rack up $1000 in consultation fees before finding the plastic surgeon I felt best qualified to perform my procedure. The surgeon I finally decided on not only answered all of my questions (trust me, I had a LOT of them) thoroughly, he also let me contact former patients of his (these patients had volunteered to be references for situations like this) in order to ask them about his skill, compassion, professionalism, etc. I also made sure that I chose a doctor who belonged to The American Board of Plastic Surgery, The American Board of Medical Specialties and The American Society of Plastic and Reconstructive Surgeons. Anything that is surgically placed inside my body permanently, I want to have done once and have it done right!
Consider the proposed incision point as well, the further from the implants the incisions, the more nerves they have to go through to get them in place! I have heard stories of implant insertion incisions being done through the navel, under the arm, under the actual breast (WAY old-school) and at the pigment line where the areaola meets the breast. I had my incisions (both my original breast augmentation and my reconstructive surgery after a skiing accident) done at my areolas. By limiting the number of nerves encountered by the surgeon, I limited the amount of potential nerve damage. My nipples are still incredibly sensitive! I still get little shirt pebbles every time a cool breeze blows.
Careful adherence to the post-op instructions given you by your doctor will increase the chances of a speedy and complete recovery. While your tissue is healing, the propensity to unwittingly cause further damage is at its highest. The body needs to heal, synapses reconnect...well, you get my point! If you've just had someone slice you open, force foreign objects in to your body and permanently seal them in there... common sense dictates you take it easy for a while! Follow even the silly sounding instructions. What sounds silly today can mean the difference between nice, round breasts and angry, missile-shaped disasters stuck on your chest!
Hate to say it, but...smokers...you will heal more slowly! Sorry. Not my fault! Same goes for you druggies and alcoholics! *giggle* If you are a smoker, try to quit for a few months before and after you get your new hooters. Your general health (and even some genetics) come in to play here. Eat crappy food a lot? You'll probably have a crappy recovery! Good musculature? Good framework for big fun bags! Get in shape before you buy your new shapes!
While the temptation to rip off the bandages, squeeze into a tube top and show off your new melons, resist it with all of your might! First of all, the new pockets cut in to your chest to hold those implants in place need to heal. You'd be surprised how heavy even moderate-sized saline implants can be. If that is not enough to sway you, remember this: It takes a few weeks for swelling to subside and your implants to settle. For the first month or so, you will most likely feel as though you are walking around with your tits bouncing against your chin...
If you cannot afford to be picky about who does your procedure, if you cannot find room in your budget for a second or even third consultation visit, you cannot afford your new boobs yet. Boobs are a privilege, not a right! *giggle*
Good luck!
Not odd at all! They offer support without binding!
The short answer? She was a lying whore! The longer answer is as follows: sometimes a woman fakes an orgasm because she really wasn't in the mood to fuck and thinks if you think she's satiated, you'll finish up faster; some women feel too embarrassed or awkward to express what it takes for you to get them screaming in ecstasy (as if being sexually assertive is a BAD thing!); some fake it because they want to reward the "effort" their lover has made and do not wish to bruise the fragile male ego; some are just wanting to rob themselves of a good fuck! Why did I say that last one? Easy! If your partner isn't hitting it right, but you let him think he is he will never vary his technique. (Think: if it ain't broke, don't fix it...) By never speaking up, by actively misleading their fuck-buddy into thinking they are orgasming, they are dooming themselves to sexual disappointment. I will admit, I hate running a race that I will never cross the finish line of, but I hate the unrealistic portrayal that orgasms are 100% guaranteed even more. Open and honest communication about the romp is key. If she didn't get off yet offered no guidance for aiding her in doing so...she really cannot complain. Orgasms are like threesomes, no matter how hard you try for one, sometimes they happen and sometimes they just don't!
HAHAHA! Ok, Lucy...step away from the pulpit! Phone sex is not creepy (unless it is a family member trying to dial you). First of all, creativity is like a muscle: it gets weaker the less it is exercised! The lack of face-to-face interaction lessens the embarrassment factor, too. It is often easier to say things on the phone than in person. Run with it!
Afraid you'll totally bomb at revving up your partners motor on the phone? Think you'll stumble for things to say? Start with small steps...maybe relive a past encounter, adding on things you would have liked to have done at the time. Praising your partners attributes (both physical and mental) can be an easy stepping off point as well. You might even get lucky enough to have a partner who is at ease and does most of the talking, allowing you to listen and catch the drift of it all!
Besides, phone sex has gotten me through many a boring day when I held an office job!
Hi Buck...if you liked sex before you went away, you will like it when you get back! Masturbating is perfectly healthy. Not only is a terrific stress releaser, it also helps one get to know their body and what actually feels best to them. By knowing what turns you on, you can better communicate with your partner. With better communication, comes better sex!
As far as damaging your penis goes...utilizing lube while stroking your cock will stave off chafing; remembering that you are tugging your penis, not arm-wrestling a foe will keep you from pulling a groin muscle; staying hydrated will keep you from getting cramps.
Aaron...three parts, three answers! *giggle*
No, actually, I have never had sex with an Asian man! I have filmed lesbian scenes with Asian females (hence the term lesbian...I can be redundant and repetitive at times...). I have shot some fetish work with an Asian male performer...but it was not actually sucking or fucking. As for the lack of male Asian performers in the biz...I am not sure why that is. Maybe the stereotype about smaller genitalia? Maybe the cultural differences in pornography and what is sexually stimulating? I do not know. But it is a shame! I find Asians to be exotic and gorgeous!
Interesting Adam...very interesting! I am wondering if maybe you just prefer the extra stimulation provided by her gripping fingers...you just might be a hand-job kind of guy! I know a few blow-job kind of guys...they love to fuck, but need the sucking action to mentally and physically get themselves to orgasm. There is nothing wrong with knowing what you like, hun!
Is this a new situation for you? Is this the first sex partner you have had this issue with? If so, experiment with different positions. It may just be that you need to find the perfect spot for your cock! If it is not a new thing, and you have always been more into the grip than the slip just tell your girlfriend. If you let her think it is "her", then the sexual situation will never get better for the two of you. Feeling inferior doesn't tend to make a woman feel hot.
Hi Charlie...my opinion? Honestly? All men pay for sex in one way or another. How much do you spend on an average date? How many dates do you go on before you actually "close the deal" with the lucky lady? I am sure you have a good time while you're out on your dates, but what is the ultimate goal? To get the girl to put out, right? You're paying for sex, no matter how indirectly.
Sometimes, you'd probably save money by hiring an escort!
As for my opinion on guys who hire escorts...two consenting adults entering into a financial agreement for services rendered doesn't bother me a bit! There are a few advantages to utilizing a working girl: she leaves when you tell her to, she won't play the "What are you thinking?" game, there is less chance of getting emotionally manipulated. Downsides? If you fall for her, you're probably not alone but you're still just a client to her. She will want money every time you see her. She might be booked at the same time you want to see her.
Ultimately, I see nothing morally reprehensible about hiring an escort. Just be careful...outside of the ranches in Nevada, you can face jail time if you get caught!
Hi Tom! Thanks for the compliment, first of all! I used to hate my tushy, but I have grown to appreciate it over the past few years.
I enjoy getting spanked on occasion, but I must admit that it is a rarity that I allow myself to be dominated by a woman. It has only happened on film, never in my real life. Since I have a strong personality, I tend to be more dominant rather than submissive when it comes to other females. Usually, I tend to 'control' my personal relationships but once in a while I flip into a total sub for a man. It really just depends on how our personalities click, to be honest.
I am not usually prone to physical violence, but I have kicked a girlie ass or two! LOL Too bad the few cat-fights I have been involved in were not filmed!
No woman has, other than on-set, ever spanked me. As far as the scenes in which I have been dommed by a woman, I have enjoyed it on more of a humorous level than a sexual one.
Sweetie, if you are getting this much of a run-around, RUN! Do not walk away from her, RUN! You have overheard her say something only to deny it to you later. This relationship is not based on honesty and trust. It is toxic. Your mortality is too valuable to risk. It is not the 1950's where the worst you could get was pregnant or in need of penicillin. The fact that you specified your relationship was committed "on my end at least" threw up warning flags (I can still hear the "Lost in Space" robot shouting, "Danger Will Robinson, danger!" in my mind). Get out. Find someone who not only respects you enough to be honest but respects themself enough to be accountable for their actions.
BTW, if you try bothering to confront her, you will hear a weak excuse/justification for each and every tale that you call to her attention. She will lie, twist and exaggerate and you will want to believe her. Don't bother. How many times will you get hit with a spinning plane propeller before you realize, "This hurts, I should move!"?
Don't give up on having a happy relationship. There ARE good potential partners out there...she is just not one of them. You know what you want, do not settle for less than you deserve!
The bisexual movies I have appeared in have always been "condom-only", meaning all males wore a condom for all penetration. While it has always been a niche, it has gained popularity due to it's increased acceptance. Do I think the internet played a part in that? Yes, I do. PPV (Pay-Per-View) Theaters, such as this one, take out the potential embarrassment of physically walking in to an adult shop and picking out the dvd desired. Once there is no fear of stigma, there is no reason to rob oneself of a desire.
As for the trans-sexual films, I think the appeal is multi-fold. First, there is the taboo appeal that calls to the darker desires inherent in most people. Second, some of those trannies are more beautiful than us natural gals! Also, it is novel. I would not doubt that it is a good transition from straight porn to gay porn, either. As you pointed out, it does (on the surface, at least) appear to be a man and a woman...until, well, they both get naked and you see more than one cock on the screen!
Thank you Marrky! I am delighted to hear that I don't look like a cookie-cutter stereotype! To be honest, I have actually never liked my legs. LOL I have always felt lucky that, out of my entire nuclear family, I am the only one with blue eyes.
As far as working with younger actors, I usually really enjoy it. I tend to be more excited about the younger male performers and less so about working with younger females. Why, you ask? I tend to feel desirable when a younger guy is fucking me but like Chester-the-Molester when working with younger gals...especially if the gal is relatively new to the industry! There is something slightly uncomfortable for me when I get booked for a girl/girl scene with a chick who is basically "Gay for Pay" (not actually in to girls. I have been known to jokingly say (when referring to female talent), "I refuse to fuck a girl younger than things I have aborted!"
There *have* been a few way younger females that stand out in my memory for both good reasons and bad. Coincidentally, two of my all time faves have similar names: Kat and Kitty. I first worked with Kat in 2006 in Older Women and Younger Women #7. Jim Powers was in awe at the end of our scene excitedly saying to me, "Damned Kayla! You were totally in to that! You shot that straight through! We shot longer than we had planned, it was great!" Kitty, on the other hand, I just worked with last week. She was a total cutie and way hot! Again, we shot pretty much straight thru and (even tho it was a softer/no penetration shoot) I had a blast! I'll work with her again!
Last but not least...the cum question! IF the guy doesn't smoke, I prefer to swallow it rather than waste it. Most of the time, however, that decision is made by the production company/director and not by me. Some scenes are set up to be a "swallow", some to be cum facials, still others to have the pop on the tits or the ass...just depends on the film & its niche/genre. It has been my experience that men aim their load about as well as they aim their pissing in the toilet...to put it bluntly, they have little control over what lands where! I have had the famed 30 minute pink eye from spunk in there more than once! Other times, I have had to go diving to catch the creamy goodness with my face. LOL Oh well, all's well that lands well! ;)
Thanks for reading and for the awesome question!
Nope! Not gay at all! You might have bi-sexual tendencies, you might just like to contrast & compare packages! Not uncommon at all! :)
Hi Kelli! I am not going to delve into the "Are you sure you're ready?" part of this and just go on with the facts. I am sure you'll get enough of that from everyone else you know!
I am assuming there are no underlying medical conditions restricting your chances for conception and will touch on the basics. If that is *not* the case, lmk in a follow-up email? :)
First of all, timing in crucial when it comes to making a baby! I recommend MyMonthlyCycles. There you can register for a free account which allows you to not only track your girlie cycle, but you have access to scads of free calculators, resources, articles and other tools.
The days leading up to ovulation (as well as the day of) are the best times to fuck. having sex too often can actually be detrimental to the cause, so to speak. Men need time to reassemble their armies of little soldiers. Your partner avoiding ejaculation a day or two before the days leading up to ovulation will improve the strength of his juice, so to speak. Since your window of opportunity is only 12-24 hours (that is how long the egg lives), you need to be sure to try right before or on the day you're most fertile. Even ONE DAY after your date is too late! Position counts here, too! Missionary (the traditional, guy on top mode) works best, since it allows the sperm to be deposited closest to the cervix. Cowgirl or reverse cowgirl (gal on top...cowgirl means she is facing her mans face, reverse means she's facing away from him) are the worst...gravity just isn't on your side in those. Placing a pillow under your hips while in missionary helps a touch, as well. Stay elevated like that for 15-20 minutes, it encourages the semen to find the egg and fertilize it. Studies have shown that folic acid deficiency can hinder attempts at getting knocked up, so drink orange juice or take a multivitamin which has folic acid in it to tip the odds in your favor as well. Oh! ONE last thing: smoking is bad for sperm production! If either of you smoke...stop! You'll just be making it harder on yourselves if you don't! Good luck!
Now for the bad news, it might be that the French kissing & cuddling with the other woman is all that your wife is actually comfortable doing. Should that be the case, pushing for more will cause far more damage to your relationship than you think! Ask her openly and honestly if that is the case. Seeing your reaction to watching her flirt with her gal pals may be all she is seeking. She may like the tenderness another woman offers or may like the "idea" of a same-sex experience but not be thrilled by the actuality of it. Simply ask your wife her limits. Through her attitude about the topic, as well as through her verbal answers, you will have a better understanding of the possibilities before you.
So... she is down for everything yet it never seems to happen and you want to know why...Where does the 'trail go cold', so to speak? Does she feel uncomfortable asking a friend to join the two of you? If so, I suggest she ask her friend when it is just the two of them. Your wife approaching her friend will minimize the pressure on both of the women (no one likes to feel put on the spot)... and helps show that you are not coercing your wife to make the invitation.
Having trouble finding a willing friend? Considering trying some of the online dating websites. Many of them, such as Adult Friend Finder offer a "couple seeking fun" type category for listing your personal ad.
I cannot express this warning strongly enough: If either party expresses hesitation in pushing further with this endeavor, no matter how slight of a hesitation, then stop ALL planning! It is a clear sign that your relationship is not ready for this step!!!
Good luck! I hope everything works out for the three of you! ;)
I actually learned a bit about kegels that I did not know while researching your question! First of all, I have been mispronouncing it all these years! LOL I have been saying kI-gul, with a long I sound and soft u in the second syllable. It is actually pronounced KAY-gill, long A and soft I at the end. Oooops? It is so named after Dr. Arnold Kegel who developed the exercise in 1948 as a method of controlling incontinence in women after childbirth. It tones up and strengthens the pubococcygeus muscle (commonly referred to as the PC muscle), which supports the urethra, bladder, uterus, vagina and rectum in women. Another fact I did not know until digging in to this question, men have a PC muscle and can benefit from kegels as well! In men, this muscle supports the urethra, bladder, penis, and rectum. Involved in both orgasm and ejaculation, strengthening the PC muscle can not only lead to a more fulfilling sex life but can actually help combat impotence and urinary problems. Sounds win-win to me!
Not sure how to find your PC muscle? You know when you really gotta pee, but your clenching so you don't? THAT is the PC muscle you are using when you do that! Next time you're taking a tinkle, try clenching (technically flexing) that muscle to stop your urine mid-flow. That is the basic kegel! (Just to make sure no one is confused here, you are not supposed to do kegels while pissing...just helping you locate the right muscle.)
The entire exercise is basically flexing that muscle, holding it anywhere from 5-10 seconds then releasing it for a second or two and repeating the process. For quickest results (we are a "Fast Food Nation" as Eric Schlosser so poignantly proves in his novel by the same title... subtle hint to read that book...), faithfully do your kegel routine daily. Since it is such a discreet exercise, it can be done just about anywhere at just about any time. Consistency and repetition are key here.
One last note, you should not be tightening your abs or back or thighs doing these. Just your PC muscle. Well, you might feel your asshole clench, too...happens. This is not something that going overkill the first day or two will help speed up the results on, so don't do that. Kegels are not that difficult, you are not power-lifting here...don't hold your breath, don't "feel the burn"... just flex the PC muscle! You should start feeling results in your sex life in about 3-4 weeks if you were vigilant about doing the exercises daily.
As for what to do with them... the same things you do with guys minus the penis! Some women prefer the softer side of sex with the emphasis on licking and petting; others enjoy toys and strap ons. There is no "standard" girl-girl scenario. Of course, there are several porn films featuring all girl action offering some inspiration... one thing tho... personally, I never understood the whole "scissoring" thing. I have dated/fucked women for years and never did scissoring happen. I fail to see the thrill of it; the clit contact is limited and (if jarred) can be painful. All I can think about is that in a film context, guys must think it looks good because no woman I have ever spoken to about it thinks it feels good!
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