Ask Kayla Quinn

[September 5, 2007] - ANYONE can learn to squirt! I was a doubting Tomas, too, until I learned. I am still mastering it, I am not 100% reliable... YET! There are several dvd's, books and e-books available to help you on this journey. One of my favorite sex tip dvd's that deal with the issue of female ejaculation/female ejaculation instruction can be found HERE. It is by mega-icon, super sweet & sexy Nina Hartley.

[September 1, 2007] -

Hello Crystal. We can fix this! First of all, you have GOT to be honest with him. Knock off the play-acting. If he thinks he is doing what it takes to get you off, he will never change what he does and you will never be truly satisfied. This sounds to me a lot like a combination of insecurity and male bravado. (No man wants to hear murmurs that he has a sexually unsatisfied girlfriend, if you've told your best friend about this I PROMISE she has told someone else.) At a time when you are NOT in the moment, when you are NOT doing anything sexual, you need to tenderly broach this subject. Tell him the truth. That you enjoy sex with him, love it when he fucks the Hell out of you but that the pressure of his constant interrogation is keeping you from relaxing and enjoying your sex to the fullest. Feel like you cannot bring this up out of the blue? Or you have and he is slipping back in to that crappy ass pattern? When you are in bed getting frisky, ask him to slow it down. Respond enthusiastically both verbally and physically to "good touch" and minimally to "bad touch". If you let your body lead, his cock WILL follow!

Now, the squirting thing. Yeah, I know this one from experience. I am more of a gusher, but have been known to squirt wickedly once in a while. I don't guarantee it, tho. I have not mastered it enough yet! I am still working on the reliability factor. The thing with squirting is this: you have to be totally relaxed and totally in the moment. The more pressured you are to squirt, the less likely you will. Period. If you are interested in teaching yourself to squirt, I recommend Nina Hartley's Guide. I know her personally and she has a gift for teaching! She is concise and keeps it simple. I adore her!

Crystal, stop faking the moans unless you are willing to spend the rest of this relationship in a sexual quagmire. Eventually, if you haven't already, you will begin to resent your man and dread sex. Why?! Let me know how it turns out? :)