Ask Kayla Quinn

[July 26, 2007] - Hi Geoffrey! Congratulations first of all for finding a winner in this world of 'almosts'! I have actually been asked this question quite a few times and here is what I have found works best: Discuss the desire first and foremost! Make sure she cleanses her anus by using an enema. Before even attempting anal sex, have vaginal sex, before she climaxes vaginally, have her clenching and releasing her sphincter in order to tire that muscle out a little. That muscle tires easily as it is not used as frequently as other muscles in our bodies. After she climaxes, have her on her SIDE (NOT DOGGY STYLE... NEVER do anal doggy the first time, no matter how cool it looks in the movies). Use a slightly more viscous than usual lube with NO numbing agent (that stuff should be illegal, you can hurt yourself without realizing it) and let her slowly back on to your penis. Let her control the speed, depth and duration. This will not only let her move at her own pace, it will take the 'fear factor' she may harbor out of anal sex. Woman have been conditioned in our society to see anal sex as wrong or dirty. It has also been portrayed as a violent, even degrading, painful act. In all truth, the pain caused by anal sex (let me qualify this statement by adding: with a gentle, caring partner) is likened to the pain of losing vaginal virginity. As with vaginal sex, the pain lessens with each experience. Eventually, your partner may find herself experiencing a calm rolling climax from anal loving, I know I do! One last note, depending on your girth, you MIGHT want to start out the same way but with a butt plug to get your woman ready for your size. Good luck!