Ask Kayla Quinn

Ok, back to the blow job issue. The only opinion that truly matters is your own. You cannot betray your own moral code/comfort levels and still enjoy this relationship. You must set your own limitations and stick with them. This is not to say that limits do not change or that these are carved in stone. This is just to clarify that the only stone mason worthy of changing these personal rules is yourself. Going against your beliefs, your moral code and your boundaries will not "save" a failing relationship. It will merely open the door for resentment and a power-struggle every other time you try to refuse anything else asked of you. If you loose him, you loose him. If you loose yourself, you have lost everything.

Can you catch an STD from a blow job? Yeppers! You sure can! Recent research has even turned up a few cases of HIV being transmitted via oral sex (in case you have not put two and two together and come up with four, the person sucking got it, not the person getting sucked). You could also fall prey to chlamydia, gonorrhea, NGU, herpes or syphilis. The good news is that all of these STDs (except herpes) are curable with modern medicine.

Before he tries to con you with, "I'll pull out before I cum!" crap, remember this: Sex is a lot like basketball, everyone dribbles before they shoot! Pre-cum can carry the same bacteria, virus, infection, etc. If your decision to save certain sexual activities for marriage was not crucial enough to keep him from getting involved with you, why has it suddenly become an issue to him now? If he thought he would just "wait you out" on it, drop him. If he is wanting locker room bravado, drop him. If a hummer is more important to him than everything else that makes you who you are, drop him. There ARE good men out there, try not to kiss too many frogs before you find your prince!