Ask Kayla Quinn

Now for the bad news, it might be that the French kissing & cuddling with the other woman is all that your wife is actually comfortable doing. Should that be the case, pushing for more will cause far more damage to your relationship than you think! Ask her openly and honestly if that is the case. Seeing your reaction to watching her flirt with her gal pals may be all she is seeking. She may like the tenderness another woman offers or may like the "idea" of a same-sex experience but not be thrilled by the actuality of it. Simply ask your wife her limits. Through her attitude about the topic, as well as through her verbal answers, you will have a better understanding of the possibilities before you.

So... she is down for everything yet it never seems to happen and you want to know why...Where does the 'trail go cold', so to speak? Does she feel uncomfortable asking a friend to join the two of you? If so, I suggest she ask her friend when it is just the two of them. Your wife approaching her friend will minimize the pressure on both of the women (no one likes to feel put on the spot)... and helps show that you are not coercing your wife to make the invitation.

Having trouble finding a willing friend? Considering trying some of the online dating websites. Many of them, such as Adult Friend Finder offer a "couple seeking fun" type category for listing your personal ad.

I cannot express this warning strongly enough: If either party expresses hesitation in pushing further with this endeavor, no matter how slight of a hesitation, then stop ALL planning! It is a clear sign that your relationship is not ready for this step!!!

Good luck! I hope everything works out for the three of you! ;)