Ask Kayla Quinn

[August 14, 2007] - Let's look at this from the outside... if you were dating someone for a few weeks, things got frisky... some heavy petty, some oral action and so on, THEN you found out there was a potential incurable disease in the mix. How would you feel? Betrayed? Angry? Scared? Probably. Yeah, telling before playing is ALWAYS my advice. As for HOW to tell: do not wait until clothes have hit the floor and the passion is flying! That just sends out a creepy vibe that one may possibly never get over. It is not necessarily "first date" material, but it is also not "we're already in the bedroom" stuff, either! It is something that needs to be approached delicately, but honestly. I would suggest having medical literature and/or pamphlets on hand to allay any fears would be to your advantage. Depending on the level of commitment already achieved, you might consider offering to make an informational appointment for you and your significant other with your medical provider. A chance for the three of you to sit down, voice concerns and get the facts together. By providing all of the data in an environment as low in stress and pressure possible, you are giving your potential partner the respect and tools needed for her to make an educated decision. Do remember a few things... 1) VALTREX is not a replacement for practicing safer sex. If you are taking VALTREX to reduce the risk of spreading herpes to your partner, there are a few important things you need to do: * Do not have sex when you get an outbreak or think you are about to get an outbreak. * Always use a condom when you have sex. * Take VALTREX every day as prescribed. (Further information can be found at Valtrex.com and 2). 99% safe may seem like wonderful odds, but no one wants to be that other 1% Good luck on this one and, truthfully, I admire your integrity!