Ask Kayla Quinn

[July 27, 2007] - Hi Jerry! Glad you enjoy my online world! Wow! This is a complex question. With so many stories of betrayed trust and sex tapes being 'leaked' on to the internet, it is not as easy as it once was to enjoy making your own private pornos. There are several factors to consider. If the issue is one of trust, a simple contract can be drawn up (for more in-depth information on releases, see http://fairuse.stanford.edu/Copyright_and_Fair_Use_Overview/chapter12/12-c.html ). Perhaps her hesitancy is based more on insecurity of her appearance. In a world where a size 4 is considered 'chubby' by Hollywood standards, some women forget that we are supposed to have curves! If this is the cause of her reluctance, try a few practice runs. Light some candles in the room, hook your camcorder up through your television and, without a tape in the camera, enjoy each other. Let her see how beautiful she is, let her get used to the idea of a camera in the room. Some people get a form of stage fright just at the sight of the camera in the room! Once she sees how sexy she is and how excited the prospect of chronicling your adventures in, the insecurity will more than likely dissipate. On a more technical note, the lower you place the camera, the bigger things will look. While this might be just what you wanted to here for your penis, she might not want that same effect for her butt. Try placing the camera on top of a dresser or entertainment center with a slight downward slant (almost everyone looks good if the camera is pointed down at approximately a 45 degree angle). You may want to get camera placement taken care of before she enters the room, to keep her from seeing herself at a bad angle. On a related note, there are a few things you should keep in mind. Video taping a sexual act without your partners knowlege is illegal (not to mention slimey). You can be prosecuted in a civil court of law. Showing private footage to your friends in order to impress them is a BIG no-no! Even mentioning bedroom escapades is just bad form. If there is another circumstance involved in your partners hesitancy to video tape your lovemaking that I have not addressed, please contact me again!