Ask Kayla Quinn

[September 27, 2007] - Now you know how men everywhere feel! All kidding aside, there is no "Mecca" filled with women waiting to be picked up and swept off their feet. There is no specific place I can tell you to hang out hoping to score some girlie love. As with relationships everywhere, meeting someone new (bi, straight or gay) seems like the hard part. You have probably met bi-sexual or bi-curious women already and have just not recognized them for who they are yet. Telling someone "I want to sleep with you", having just met them, is pretty brazen! Think of it like this: If you met a man in the grocery and he threw that line down on you, how would you react? Exactly! Should you meet a woman you are attracted to, I suggest letting her know your interest as early as possible. No sense getting too excited should she turn out not to be in tune with your thinking. Generally, if there is chemistry between you two, you'll know it.

As for what to do with them... the same things you do with guys minus the penis! Some women prefer the softer side of sex with the emphasis on licking and petting; others enjoy toys and strap ons. There is no "standard" girl-girl scenario. Of course, there are several porn films featuring all girl action offering some inspiration... one thing tho... personally, I never understood the whole "scissoring" thing. I have dated/fucked women for years and never did scissoring happen. I fail to see the thrill of it; the clit contact is limited and (if jarred) can be painful. All I can think about is that in a film context, guys must think it looks good because no woman I have ever spoken to about it thinks it feels good!