Ask Kayla Quinn

[August 10, 2007] - My oh my do I know THIS one from personal experience! (Anyone remember David? Me either!) Ok, there are a few routes to go when trying to "sexually retrain" your man. The most important thing to remember is this: The male psyche is VERY fragile! Hopefully, your relationship is solid enough that you can sit down and voice your concerns. This is the best option in my opinion. Make sure you are not getting frisky when you bring this tender subject up to your guy. Sexual requests/concerns voiced during sex tend to sound more like demands and criticisms. Another option is to ask your lover to turn over one entire night of fuck-play to you. COMPLETELY! From which room you bang in, what role play fantasies you indulge in, to the positions you fuck in. By holding the reins, you can sexually experiment with various positions and combinations to your hearts content! Another choice to shake things up? Try renting an adult film and playing "monkey-see-monkey-do". Mimic the positions/actions playing on-screen in front of you... if you find that it is the same routine that you two have fallen in to, then drag your happy asses out to Porn Valley and get in the biz! ;) Want the BEST solution to this problem? Try a combination of these suggestions and fuck to your hearts content! OR, you could be a little minx and point out this column to him and laugh at "Danielle's Misery" and hope he takes a hint! Keep it fun, keep it safe, but most of all, keep it fucking!