Ask Kayla Quinn

[July 29, 2007] - Hi Edward! You are tres' welcome for the poster, thank YOU for the email! Ok, threesomes can be very tricky. A few things before you even begin to look for that third person...Make sure your girlfriend is actually wanting to experiment with this and is not just agreeing to appease you. It is also very important that you set boundaries and rules before anything happens. (For example: The third can play around but not get penetrated by you.) Discussing what each of you wants and hopes to gain from this experience will help make sure things go the way you want them to go. Make each other aware of what you are looking for in a third person. Once you have decided on that third, it is generally easier if your girlfriend approaches her. It has been my experience that it works better that way. HIV tests, preferably PCR/DNA, are necessary! No matter how well you think you know each other, make sure everyone is clean! Once the time comes, a little bit of wine tends to set everyone at ease. Make sure you are watching your girlfriends body language. If she seems hesitant or unsure, ask her if she is still all right with the planned festivities. ANY sign of hesitancy means you call it off for that night! Once the three of you make your way to the bedroom (or living room floor if you cannot wait *giggle*) continue to watch your significant other for any signs of jealousy or insecurity. If you have done your homework on laying down the rules beforehand, there is less of a chance of this. One of the common complaints I have heard from gal pals about threesomes is that they felt neglected and their boyfriends payed more attention to the "new pussy". Don't do that. It will create a problem between you and your gal and will lessen the chance of another threesome. Give the girls time to fool around with each other too. A threesome does not mean that everyone is always doing something! There are times when two of the three are playing and the third is merely watching. Keep in mind that what you have seen in adult films was directed/scripted and not the way it has to be. Be careful not to fall in to the trap of trying to direct the girls, too. Let things flow naturally and no one will be disappointed! Courtesy dictates that afterwards, should the third stay over night, that you snuggle with your girl, not the new one. (That helps stave off any insecurities that might sneak up on your gal.) After your playmate has left, talk about it with your girlfriend. Feel the situation out to make sure everything felt right to her. Then, spoil your gal pal ROTTEN for a bit! Having given you such a great gift, you should reciprocate!